My mum and dad got separated while we were young. Dad was never there for us while we were growing up,and my mum always spoke about him being in a cult which I didnt really believe until I saw things for myself and I wished I had listened to her. To cut the long story short my elder sister was to get married a long while back,7 and because we wanted to do the right thing he was informed...what an error. He insisted the wedding must hold in the town he lives after we agreed on the traditional holding there. When my sis refused as he was never really in our lives, he insisted on not attending to give her way and so began the trend for all that got married after her. I got so mad at the whole thing and sent several text messages to him in which I expressed my anger to him and also for his new family as he ones told us we should leave him when we needed him most financially. He ones said we will be the ones to take care of the children of his old age, school fees and all which also infuriated me more. I am still regretting the text messages as I have been married for 10yrs without kids and everywhere people went on my behalf they are told my father is behind it coupled with my own nightnares where he comes to pick something from my womb area especially when I did IVF. The interesting part of this long story is that my sister I thought I was defending/ fighting for got married in Lagos as she wanted and has 4 kids living happily with her family outside Nigeria, and she is also the good child of my father. Till today I wonder how they made up. This has taught me to always mind my business. Still trusting that my God will do the miraculous in my life and put my enemies to shame.