Please just allow me rant abeg….
In the last couple of months, I have met 3 guys….. Luckily I got to meet them through their friends.
GUY ONE
The first one is based in **** . He was supposed to do something official for me, last year, but somehow one thing led to another and we ‘fell in love’ more like Lust oooo.
I asked him specifically, are you married? This guy said NO,HE IS NOT MARRIED. The relationship was getting stronger so I decided to do some background check from the referrer.
Please is Mr. Edward marriedß he was like, why am I asking? I said, I know it was supposed to be official but somehow we fell for each other and we have been dating (I AM SINGLE) - He Said, Madam!!!! No be dat one I send you o.
Yes HE IS MARRIED, EVEN EXPECTANT AT THE MOMENT! I asked again, is the wife there with him in *******, he said Yes, she is even pregnant!!! (As if to let me know what he meant by expectant).
He was heartbroken and told me that it happens a lot with guys over there. They are never truthful and you cannot vouch for them. He encouraged me and I moved on…..
GUY TWO
The second guy- A friend to a friend, started asking me out, I was single at the time, BUT was devastated as a result of that guy from last year and decided to just stay off dating for some time. This guy made sure he brought me out of my shell, made me change my mind and I agreed to date him. I asked again, are you married- this guy denied saying- I AM NOT MARRIED! Some things were not right. The RED FLAGS were-
He is the only one that visits me, I cannot visit him. I am usually not the visiting type but I should know where someone I am dating, lives at least. When I bring it up he will say, I will visit him, I should relax.
He was also very pushy about money matters. He always had one issue he needed to sort out every other time.
He was all up in my face with the sorry face…. Pressured me about cash and even sent the vibes about what time they pay my Salary and if I can borrow him blablabla, he will drop his car as a proof that he will pay…..
I decided to give him spare cash that someone gifted me (7k) at work that day. And up till now he has not paid.
I added him on Facebook, he refused to accept the request till date.
I never mentioned it till date to him that I knw his marital status. How I got to know- I called up our mutual friends one day and started gisting normally and just threw in the question- How is *****? He replied, he should be fine, he is married now sef, got married September last year, Oh my God! ….
Do you know that if I even call the guy he doesn’t pick calls anymore, I sent him texts that he should return my cash… that it’s my hard earned money and he was practically begging to have it. So I should not beg to get it back.
GUY THREE
I met this dude one month ago. He is so sweet. Maybe because na my fellow Warri guy (did I tell u that I grew up in Warri?) .. So we just connect easily.
He has been all sweet and asked me out too. NO blame me jare- sometimes I just need company. This work sef no dey let person see road. Last Sunday was his birthday…. Na torchlight I use take find am o, I no even still see am.
He made sure he saw me on Saturday so he won’t have to see me on d Sunday (which was his birthday) and he usually likes to see me on Sundays. I still can’t visit this dude too, he only comes to my house and then we go places together. REDDEST FLAG.
I decided to do my background check again. I chatted my cousin and asked if she knew him personally since she is a mutual friend on facebook.
She said yes na. He dey ask you out? That guy is married o, for almost 10years oooo, has two kids sef, you don’t know his wife?! She even came for my wedding sef. He was out of the country then that’s y he didn’t come. Ok, right there I just burst into laughter because it now looked like a joke to me, He also doesn’t look it. She also said- he doesn’t talk about his family online because he can be promiscuous! The wife don fight babes tire. My male cousins i.e her brother even went for her birthday last month( July)
MY SISTER, COULD THIS ALL BE A CO-INCIDENCE? WHY IS IT HAPPENING TO ME? WHY WOULD MEN DENY THEIR FAMILIES JUST BECAUSE OF ‘PUSSY’? HOW BAD CAN IT GET? THESE MEN DESERVE TO BE DISGRACED! THEY DO NOT UNDERSTAND WHAT FAMILY AND COMMITMENT MEANS.
MY INSTINCTS NO DEY FAIL ME SHA! I AM VERY HAPPY THAT MY COOKIE POT IS IN PLACE. NA ONLY DIS LAST ONE SEF GIVE ME HEAD AND I NO RECIPROCATE. I STIL FEEL TERRIBLE THOUGH! BUT WHYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY?
I WANT TO SETTLE DOWN BUT I DO NOT FEEL I MAKE IT SO OBVIOUS OR ACT DESPERATE. THESE ARE NORMAL QUESTIONS YOU ASK ANY YOUNG MAN APPROACHING A LADY. I AM 32 THOUGH BUT I RATHER DO IT RIGHT THAN WITH REGRETS.
The WHOLE TIN TIRE ME OOOOOOOOOOOOOO I SWEAR!
ABEG PUT ME IN YOUR PRAYERS.