I think single people (especially ladies) spend too much time worrying about getting married. The truth is that worry doesnt make it happen faster, you can't force God's hand or control time and chance. Instead, it can even lead you into making wrong decisions. My worst fear is even marying someone that will come and disorganise my life.
I dey so, I need to an able to fix a man in my life cos my daily schedule is crazy. If the guy isn't determined enough to fix himself up to a point where he's indispensable, na sorry go be him second name. Don't have time to chase you when there's so much on my mind to do. I'm a church worker, have my 9-5, side hustle (this week side hustle schedule na die i dey so!!), fitness and beauty routine, I assist my mum with her biz too (we slept at 1am yesterday after plenty discussion, cos she likes to catch me on weekends)
The interesting part is: as a woman putting yourself out there and just minding your business makes you more attractive to guys or people who know good suitors. They admire the fact that you're not desperate and you seem to make progress. Recently I've had to cut down on refferals cos it seems everyone knows someone that I can date. Truth is, we women don't know how strong we are. The day God opens your eyes to see your inner capacity you won't be sitting down crying over your status. You will even be praying that no one should come and alter what God is doing you life biko.