The principle of giving is to ignore how the recipient is using what has been given. If the people you give money to choose to squander it, please learn to shut your eyes to it and save as much as you can. Can you be aware that you're being manipulated via fetish means and still be under the influence? If you had sent the money to them for their upkeep and they're using it to celebrate sallah, please isn't that upkeep? I don't know what to tell this man mbok