My darling, it's the wrong orientation on dating and marriage that make most ladies feel they have to fight to become "the wife". They use up all their energy to fight for the men to wife them but when they are now married, they become spent. No stamina left to make their marriages exciting. They become complacent and let themselves go. No more dressing sexy to impress their men, no more seduction, no more taking extra care to ensure their hygiene is on point, no more time to device new ways/methods to blow their men's minds, literally and figuratively. Yet people wonder why a lot of marriages become dull, boring and plagued with tedious routines even before the 1st anniversary.