They say you you marry bad boy but can't marry bad inlaw . As a married woman , can tell you that every marriage have issue , maybe that is one of your . Sweetheart you want easy marriage devoid of stress? This man you mentioned did nothing bad and I believe will be every women dream to marry a man you described. So ask your mother , was your father a perfect man? Believe me it will be your bestie that will take your position after you have messed about .
Men abroad can't afford to be brutal to their wife otherwise they end up in jail .
I really think you have not sacrificed time to know this man neither have gone on your kneel to pray for this man . Honestly I can not see any problem at all , is just that your mind is somewhere.
Do you ever understand how frustrating it is to be separated in marriage , it shows more in men's behaviour , may be that is what your husband is experiencing . Obviously you are also feeling lonely as a result of distance, that is why you are feeling like this .You better seek good advice from your mother