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40Beta inside Alpha outside December 21, 2010 at 4:24 pm
i missed the insecurity signal…where can i read about that?
Maybe this comment is misplaced now, but she told me once re an ex-bf “it was his job to call.” That may have been the case with him, and I could do that too, but I prefer the occasional indication of interest and think maybe the apparent role reversal for this relationship would make it different and not boring. taking from the taker? am i wrong?
41Badger Nation December 21, 2010 at 4:47 pm
“she told me once re an ex-bf “it was his job to call.””
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You can decide how you feel for yourself, but I usually lose faith in people when I hear them projecting responsibilities and duties onto other people.
42Badger Nation December 21, 2010 at 4:52 pm
Addendum: in social dynamics there is a place for a “I made the last move, it’s the other person’s turn.” I just hear so much “masculine obligation” language from women that I assume that’s what motivates them when I hear them say it’s “the man’s job” to take this or that next step.
43Beta inside Alpha outside December 21, 2010 at 4:58 pm
i posted here to give a male perspective since the comments seemed heavy on girls wondering, and so I figured I’d throw out a possible answer. hopefully I didn’t hijack this thread.
she hasn’t given me a duty yet, as far as I can tell. i know from her friends that she is already bad at keeping in touch and almost never makes phone calls, only bbm/text/gchat. however, she usually responds relatively quickly to mine.
this game takes so much will-power.
Badger — you said you thought we were alike in this — I’m curious to know more…
44Badger Nation December 21, 2010 at 5:29 pm
“Badger — you said you thought we were alike in this — I’m curious to know more…”
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My instinct is to double down on communication when things are going well, I concur that it takes a lot of discipline to step away and let the hamster spin for a bit…
45Susan Walsh December 22, 2010 at 9:45 am
BIAO,
