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Liz Hoggard, journalist and co-author of Dangerous Women: The Guide to Modern Life I'm not surprised to hear, this week, that Britain has the highest internet dating turnover of any European nation. More than nine million Britons have logged on to a dating site. Ten years ago, people would rather hang over a crocodile pit than admit they met online. But today the climate is much less censorious. Not only does the UK have a high concentration of single people, many of us work in virtually single-sex environments. Couple friends are too shattered to have dinner parties. We lack the village hall, the barn dance. Like our New York cousins, we are embracing different ways to meet. A third of all new relationships start online. It's our best matchmaker. Among my friends, gay and straight, I don't know anyone who hasn't met online. Survey results reveal the British to be enlightened and open-minded about how we meet a significant other. As someone who fell in love online, I do think internet dating is a Good Thing. The fact that someone has walked across the room and chosen you is a great help. But that room is getting smaller. Sign up to a dating website, and you have more than 1,000 matches. I think worrying about loss of romance is a misnomer. Of course you won't always fancy each other. Chemistry is a mercurial thing. But you can at least be kind, convivial for an hour. To be honest, the first meeting isn't a date. You're meeting for a chat to see if you click and would like to spend more time together. Yes, it can feel a bit like an audition. But it's good to be put into a situation where you can't fall back on your usual defences. We order online, in the same way we do our grocery shopping, or buy theatre tickets. Clearly we are hungry for new ways to look at being single. Hephzibah Anderson, author of Chastened: My Modern Adventure in Old-Fashioned Romance No, it doesn't surprise me a bit that we've become Europe's biggest internet daters — dating culture is still new to us, and it's impossible to meet anyone here. At least these figures suggest it's not just me! But while a line-up of my exes makes a strong case for delegating the task of finding a mate, I can't quite bring myself to log on. The closest I've got is peering over my sister's shoulder. I did once spot an appealing guy this way. She used her profile to set us up and it wasn't terrible — awkward more than anything — but nor was I persuaded. What exactly do I hate about the process? It's so utterly unromantic, that's what. Its algorithms rule out chance and serendipity, making a science — and a business, let's not forget — of a quest that's hitherto been the preserve of poets and songsters. It encourages us to fib not only about our age — which men do more than women online incidentally , and invites cliche what fun-loving souls we all are. As for the way it has us browse for others — sure, I like to shop online, but these are people, and the search process bids us sift one another's pictures and personalities as if we were at a car boot sale. One French site even provides shopping basket icons. Rather than making us open-minded, it makes us dismissive and pickier still. The sheer number of seemingly available others whispers that perfection in a partner is not only realistic, it's realisable. It also promotes a restless momentum that's unhelpful if an enduring connection is truly what you're searching for. Or so it seems to me from the sidelines. I see why you're nervous about reducing human beings to commodities. But I would argue it's good to be pragmatic. Singletons who spend months emailing often have unrealistic expectations. It's best not to spend too long e-flirting it can be disappointing if you invest too much. After a couple of phone calls, arrange to meet. Online dating is no more or less romantic than meeting someone randomly. There's plenty of serendipity involved. You simply get some help bumping into them in the kitchen at a party in the first place. After that it's completely up to you… Of course there are disasters. Men who tell you a they don't have a television, b there's been nothing good in modern music for 20 years or c they look like Daniel Craig. In the old days we didn't really go on dates. You got depressed in the pub with a couple of your friends — or tried to manufacture a romance with that unsuitable man in finance. For me that was far more damaging. HA Ah yes, that unsuitable man in finance! You're right, of course, the internet plays a role in friendships and work relationships new and old. And it's not as if I don't Google prospective dates, chipping away at romantic mystery before we've even met. But there's something about the self-declared efficiency of online dating that seems inimical to romance. It's so very… clinical. Call me old-fashioned — call me lazy — but I'm still of the persuasion that love, as the Supremes sang, can't be hurried. Love is nothing if not irrational — why should a computer working from a check list of stilted questions we've answered about ourselves be any use at all? Especially when Cupid so often teaches us that we had no idea what we wanted until we encountered him or her. Besides, as a writer, I'm a sucker for a good story. The person you met at the party you so nearly didn't go to, the guy from the bar who was only there because of a wildly uncharacteristic diary glitch — no matter what swoon-inducing escapades ensue, it's not quite the same if you've been paired up online. All that aside, I am wary of harping on about romance. Our ideas about it seem not to have kept pace with changing realities, least of all in the lives of women. There's infinitely more to a relationship than the movies' beloved cute encounter. Maybe having to work to give meaning to a story results in a happier, more sustaining narrative? I'd like to be persuaded. LH I agree about the grim computer check list. Online dating was never my defining role — it went on in the background while I had a lovely time with friends. To be honest, I really can't remember much about Chris's profile. I just know when we got in the room, conversation sparked. I was up for platonic companionship too. The single life is a good and noble one — but I finally admitted it would be sad if I never knew full intimacy with another human being. I'm one of the many Brits who needed help with dating. I am a hopeless flirt. It's easy to be defensive. But I was heartened to read so many profiles; it gave me permission and a workable structure — a few coffees here and there. HA It's probably time I admitted to being another Brit who could use some help. Regular spells in New York are a great distraction, but long-distance romance is definitely losing its lustre. And if our national infatuation with online dating is due to our famous reserve — well, perhaps there's something to be said for a little gaucheness. It's easy to get a date across the Atlantic; a functional relationship is another matter entirely. Heck, in a world of hook-up apps, where sexts are the closest a girl gets to a serenade, a relationship that starts from platonic and simmers slowly but surely to happiness might just be the epitome of romance. So, uppity brunette seeks presentable male for confirmation that romance lives?
