My friend has paranoid schizophrenia and we had a little relationship when we first met. He dumped me after 2 weeks when his paranoid thoughts came back. He told me hes not good enough for me because of his mental issues but i reassured him that im ready for whatever comes our way. How do i develop a trust level with him? What are the odds of him having a real relationship with his issues? Consumer 0 Posts: 2 Joined: Fri May 14, 2010 5:00 am Local time: Sat Oct 27, 2018 9:23 am Blog: Developing trust with such a person might be one of the most difficul things you could ever do. He has to be getting help on the side from a professional, and would need to be consciously trying to improve the relationship with you. You shouldn't expect that this situation will ever be the way that you want it. What I recommend right now - instead - is to regard him as an acquaintance or friend. If you are pressuring him to be your partner, then you might just be making exacerbating his problems. For all I know, he might not be in the right frame of mind right now to deal with any emotional relationship on any level including friendships. Give him a lot of spacve and don't halt your life on his behalf. You have your own things that need tending to. You should remain in contact but - again - please don't halt things in your life. The show must go on. Kevin I guess it all comes down on how committed you are to this relationship. Life will never be fully normal, though it may be very rewarding and fulfilling. If you are ready for that kind of life, by all means, go ahead. But think about it first. A real relationship is possible but it will certainly be different. For him, having someone who will love and support him in everything can be an important factor in his healing process or at the very least in his learning to live with it. Consumer 2 Posts: 43 Joined: Thu Apr 29, 2010 11:36 am Local time: Sat Oct 27, 2018 9:23 am Blog: It's worth pointing out that you shouldn't really see him as his illness, but apart from his illness. People are not defined by their medical label, and although you might see that as bad, there are many parts of someone's character that are not defined by that, are doubtless good, and sometimes get overlooked. It's difficult to deal with, but then a lot of people are difficult in relationships anyway. Consumer 0 Posts: 11 Joined: Thu Jun 03, 2010 9:23 pm Local time: Sat Oct 27, 2018 9:23 am Blog: Have you ever sat down and talked to your friend about his paranoia? What he see's or hears when it happens, etc... Learn to feel the same things, and learn to see his or her world the way they do during an episode. Some schizophrenics, like myself, consider friends to be life lines, literally. During an episode, it is very important that we have someone who can connect with us, that we trust, to TELL US, when we are sick. Seeing something is wrong, sometimes is very difficult. I disagree with the other poster who said to regard him as something less as anything you want him or her to be... Some of us believe the government watches us, that satellites track our moves, that airplanes are up there spying on us, and so on.... Its not healthy to confront us about it if you regard this as being funny, it is anything but. Sit down next to him or her sometimes when you talk, and just talk about life in general, we can be very spiritual, some believing it is god who talks to us. Frankly, who are doctors to tell us its not? Anyone who puts a lable on someone rather then geting to know the alternate side of their personality, is quite frankly, a crappy person. However, we are people non the less. It is has been said… That for some of us, like myself… It is my subconsciousness talking to my consciousness. We are sensitive, but will most likely always have some sort of distrust, even in a relationship… As ridiculous as this MAY sound, If you catch him shaving the toilet…. Its all about molding into the world of the schizophrenic, if you can understand our perception, if we ever sit down and talk about it with you, then you can have a nice, good, long lasting friendship or relationship with us. Consumer 0 Posts: 5 Joined: Wed Jun 02, 2010 12:31 am Local time: Sat Oct 27, 2018 4:23 am Blog:.