The brain isn’t technically developed until 25, or so they say……
40Rum March 20, 2012 at 9:16 pm
Why does it not cross your mind that the reason she repeatedly engages in hooking up is because it gives her a lot of pleasure to do so? Why invoke the specters of child sex abuse and low self estemme, etc. to explain behavior that is easily explained by “I feel really good when I do it”
Also, embedded in your ideas is the notion that women do not enjoy sex and only do it to get something else they want or as an expression of some psychic damage.
See, even, or especially, healthy women like to fuck. They get really angry if they are turned down when they want it. Women have this weird ability to compartmentalize this. They act like wild she-wolves in heat when they feel like it and later say shit like, “I like sex a little bit; but it needs to be gentle and caring.” As if the guy cannot possibly remember what she did the night before.
41SweetSue March 20, 2012 at 9:17 pm
Charm @ #10
No wait, she’ll just adopt the slogan “If I hadn’t got pumped and dumped by all those guys in college, I wouldn’t be the person I am today.” Thus softening the blow.
Chances are unless she gets some self esteem -she will play the victim with some poor beta, resent him and screw up his head a.k.a re-arranging her mind was disarranging mine a la the Rolling Stone.
How is it easier to engage in intimacy than it is to say no – the rationalization hamster just fell off the wheel and died laughing.
“The one’s not hooking up, in fact, actually didn’t want the attention.” Correction they wanted the correct kind of attention that matched what they wanted. Rather than accept attention that would not lead where they wanted they preferred to opt out; rather than endure being drowned out by the over eager to please who cannot say no!