But I DO help men by helping women who are dating after 40. It really is ALL about you, ladies! One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men. The vast majority of these guys are not the self-centered, testosterone-led, immature boys you met and maybe married in your 20s or 30s. The only way you can empathize is to know their side of the story. Here are some of their stories of dating after 40; dating that never turned into relationships, this is. Below are the common types of women single grownup men have told me about. I call them Femitypes. Read the general description of each here, or start reading more about each Femitype, starting with The Princess —. The Princess is confident, well put together, and very attractive. She easily lures in men. He needs to make all the right moves. By default, she clings to the same type of guy she wanted in high school or college. See the Wow Me Woman below. The nice, relationship-minded men get quickly discarded by the 18-year-old. When he passes those tests or shows he has feelings for her, she questions it and might up the ante. She picks fights, picks the wrong guys, or maneuvers relationships to end because it gives her control. The wall she has erected is just too high for him to climb in order to get to the other side. The Wow Me Woman is a midlife gal who still thinks that excitement is the key to judging if a guy is a good match. The Wow Me Woman leaves many good men in her dust. Men sense her quick judgment, which leaves them feeling deflated, unattractive and powerless. The Wow Me Woman is often single for a very, very long time. The Bitter Gal is angry — usually about everything, but especially about men. A guy never has a chance, even he is the nicest guy in the world and really likes her. The truth is that The Bitter Gal has been playing the victim for most if not all of her life. Though a nice guy might try to break through and prove her wrong about men, he will give up out of exhaustion. The Sexpot is all about putting out the sex vibe. She believes her sexuality is the only way she can attract a man, or she wants this point in her life to be a series of sexual experiences. She posts a provocative picture on her online dating profile, invites him over to her house on the first date, shows too much skin especially for a woman over 40 , and is overly familiar with her affection. Men who are looking just for sex will say yes. They are men, after all. You know that dating after 40 or at any stage of life, for that matter! When you appreciate the same is true for the men you date, it will go a long way toward building compassion and, in turn, building relationships. Oh, and girlfriend, you can learn a TON from the comments men have left below! And, hey…I want to know what you think! Do you see yourself in any of these? And men, I SO want to hear from you! Agree or disagree, we can learn from you. Disabled law officer, but still working. No debt, kids are grown and life is good. I stay in shape physically and am very active. I believe in shivelry and taking care of each other. I worked all the time to keep women off my mind. Went on 1 date in 2017. Just recently joined a dating app. Had 4 great dates with a wonderful lady. We were both in awe over the connection. We laughed with each other more than I ever had! Then She said she had to take a step back. It was like some one threw a switch. I really like her! It felt really nice. On a different topic, the dating site I found many ladies are looking for some one to make them happy. I believe you have to be happy with yourself first! Not rely on others or things to make us happy… It took me awhile to realize this for myself. Now I am thankful every day! Food is the only love I get most days. We just want a grown-up conversation and maybe a kiss stolen in the driveway before the dog wakes everyone up with his hysterical barking. Planning a date night is a like a logistical military operation, but worth it. Right now we would be thrilled just to go out occasionally. Now they knew from the beginning
