This happens so often to you that you start expecting women to stop texting you back or disappear into oblivion, because no matter what you do differently it always ends the same way. Never Had a Girlfriend? Guilty of pushing girls away at the last hurdle? I used to be guilty of making these excuses ALL the time — but as soon as I stopped — AMAZING things started happening. You will never know the truth of how a girl feels about you without talking to her. But what if that guy was actually her creepy boss? But actually she just got out of a bad relationship and felt like she was falling for you. This will help you face these situations with positivity and become an extremely attractive guy to be around. What have you actually done to try and meet the girl of your dreams? What being single most of my life taught me is that the more girls you meet, the more you will begin to know what kind of girl you want as your girlfriend. And Tinder allows you to go from fishing in a pond to fishing in the sea! So get out there and meet as many women as you can, otherwise you will latch on to the first girl that gives you any attention and potentially settle for a rather than the girl of your dreams. And your girlfriend-less past is probably crushing your confidence around women. I get it — but seriously man — this is NOT a big deal. There is NO reason why this should effect your confidence in anyway. You have high standards and will not settle for anything less than the girl of your dreams. This is the reality of the situation and the mindset you need to adopt. Besides, there are plenty of other things to make you feel confident about yourself around women even if you have very limited experience with the opposite sex. Source your confidence elsewhere. From your awesome career, your dedication to the gym, your new healthy life style, your new haircut, the size of your package, etc. Whatever makes you feel good about yourself, thrive off that. Put your shoulders back, chest out, raise your jaw, look people dead in the eyes and speak S L O W L Y with conviction. This will not just make you appear more confident but FEEL more confident. And this is going to sound harsh but I need to ask it: Think for a second, what is your position in the group of friends you regularly hang out with? Are you of the group or are you the guy who tags along and hangs in the background? The reason I ask this is because your position in the group of friends you hang out with when meeting women is crucial. But in college I was able to reinvent myself and start fresh. Find a new group of friends who had no idea about how lame I was at school — and become one of the key decision makers in the group. Women naturally lean on leaders, so if you are not one of the leaders in the current group of friends then consider finding some new friends to go out with. A group in which people look up to you not put you down in front of others. Women crave dominant men who are willing to risk rejection or confrontation to get what they want and what they think is right. Put simply, this is INCREDIBLY attractive. Women are always secretly waiting for someone to tell them what to do. Waiting for the perfect moment rather than creating the moment and making it happen. Men who know what they want and go get it. Even if you get rejected after approaching a girl in a club or go in for a kiss and get denied, women will respect you for having the balls to try. Persistence is also a. After all — you have NOTHING to lose — since you have gained nothing from playing it safe all the time. They would come to me to vent their frustrations and I would always offer a shoulder to cry on… But instead of seeing how much I could offer them they ALWAYS went back to their jerk boyfriends and the cycle continued. It is your job to do something. You do realise attracting the opposite sex is the whole point of fashion right? I used to wear clothes two sizes too big for me and mismatched colours like I was colour blind. Next time you walk down the street try to spot how many women you make eye contact with glance immediately down at your feet. And do you always seem to screw things up at the last hurdle? His current life purpose is 1. This is the ultimate challenge she always wants to fight for but never wants to win. So never make women the centre of your attention. Your mission comes first. He wants it before 3pm. She will respect you for this, e. You can be burning the midnight oil at college, hitting the gym hard, learning a new skill, etc. As long as it is a mission with goals then it is a mission. Stay true to your mission. Never apologise for putting it above everything else — especially her. I used to make this mistake countless times in the past. Women will run a mile from you if they sense you are to them than they are to you. The key to keeping your cool when you want to show her how much you appreciate her — without revealing your emotions and scaring her away — is to instead show your sexual appreciation for her. We talked a little about getting sexual in the section about staying out of the friend-zone, so you know how important this is. Tell her how sexy her neckline looked in that black dress she wore, how amazing her legs looked in those high heels, how that dress made her bum look edible, etc. What delightful number do you plan to wear on our next encounter? And did you make a lot of these : 1. Text her back immediately every single time 2. Send more texts a day than she sends you 3. Flatter her repeatedly remember, you must tease her instead or get sexual 4. Send her regular updates on your day 5. Send text monologues 10 line+ rambles 6. You were the one doing all the chasing and she was the one with all the power. You were 70% invested and she was only 30%. Never text her for the sole reason of getting a response. You see, women will assign a certain status level to you. If you are too needy and eager they will automatically assume you are lower status. That they hold all the cards. Women want to work for you. They want a challenge. Indifference is essentially an absence of need. It is more of a challenge for her to get emotion out of you than other guys. You become a challenge to her. So if she tries to force an emotional reaction you must resist. Women want a rock in a stormy sea. With true indifference, NOTHING can shake you. Once you master the art of indifference, the next step is to turn the tables and become the prize so she chases you. Make women come up to your level. Via In the past, girls have lost interest in you because you put them up on a pedestal. They saw you as lower status and lost interest because you were always the one pursuing them. There was no challenge for them to lock you down. If they wanted you they could have you. They never needed to fight for your acceptance. You now understand what it takes to keep a girl interested in you by not revealing your emotions too early, being indifferent and putting your mission first. Failing to prepare is preparing to fail. Your home should always be prepped and ready for entertaining a girl at the flick of a switch. So clean your place bro. When I say clean I mean SPOTLESS. By that I mean interesting items. My FAVOURITE conversation piece that ALWAYS leads to sexual conversation and amazing sex is my yoga ball: Girls always ask about it AND sit on it when they walk into my apartment. The third thing you need — and need in ABUNDANCE — are candles. Make sure they are RED the colour of passion and mix up big ones with small ones: Be sure to buy a spare tooth brush so she can brush her teeth. Also get some women friendly body wash that smells nice , a hairdryer, spare towel, basically anything you need to give a girl the 5-star Ritz Hotel service she deserves. Keep a nice bottle of white wine in the fridge, a bottle of red in the cupboard and for the love of god get some wine glasses to serve it in not crappy tumblers! Tiny details are the key to making a woman feel like you are in control of your life, sophisticated and perfect boyfriend material. This might all sound over the top to you, but knowing you have the perfect environment to entertain a lady friend at home will give you a huge boost of confidence. Think about how much better will you feel knowing that your base is ready and waiting for you to take a girl back to? Yeah I thought about all these things, read all about it. Tried to re-evaluate myself, maybe do it like you suggest here. What I learned from this? Because the people who ecpect you to, are not right for you. There is no right or wrong in this. There is no answer to what you should do or not do. If you want to be with a person who is not like you, you have to change them or they will have to change you. Some people are better at interactions with other people, some are not. Me personally, I never base anything I do on what other people think. My girlfriend understands this and she respects it. She feels the same. I hope it benefits someone else though. Thank you very much,your an asset to the world. I got stuck without a girlfriend until age 22. I probably made all the mistakes discussed in the article. One thing I would add is that my girlfriend was herself very shy. That meant things evolved very slowly certainly be modern standards but my gaucheness was more acceptable. I would never do any of these things either. I do find it probably the hardest thing at the moment, its harder than getting a job. The point Ill make theres only so much you can do from your side, the rest is up to the girl to determine. If shes no interested shes not interested. In my experiences with dating, things usually are good to start with than it tethers off usually between 1 to 4 dates. I can usually tell if somethings gone sour, you feel the slipp eg not talking to you any more, saying lifes and work ect is busy. The harsher side to this is girls that have completely cut you off with no explanation, or they block you, its bizzare but happens a lot and is very common. I do think it has to be a 2 way street, not all the criticism should come to me, some but not all. I do feel like its to bias out there with opinions always centred around girls being in the right and the guy that needs to change to afford her. I have instead undertaken a attitude of finding some one who understands my side aswell not just giving advice but understanding the reasons why. Its going to have to be someone really open minded and compasionate but itll be much worth it. Itll be a lot better than just accepting constant advice that your in the wrong all the time and its you that needs to change, not some things that women do on there part, such as canceling dates on the last minute, standing you up, blocking you for no reason, leading you on then moving onto another guy. Some things are not my making or to do with me, but its much worth it, finding someone who understands and agrees with you, rather than conform to some dating rules and playing it safe. Any how thats what I have developed recently, I would rather go by my life experience, not advice. Quite a Change in the women of today compared to Most of the Good old fashioned women that were the Best at one time which made it very Easy for the men in those days since they really had No Problem at all finding Real Love the way our family members had it. I like this advice. Wish I had it years ago. I quit trying to date 15 yrs. Dating was the most annoying and aggravating experience of my entire life. All I got if I got anything was losers, misfits, and freeloaders. Best dating pool is 18-30, after that it really sux fast. I started dating too late in life—age 35, and by then most good prospects were long gone. Women today are selective, demanding, and entitled—you must work hard to land a quality partner. Be sure you are willing to do the work or plan on being a bachelor for life. Check out Tom Leykis on YouTube for dating tips—he is great. Finally realize—none of us is owed a relationship, lover, or even a date. Good luck—hope your story ends better than mine. Read the books—Save the Males and Men on Strike—well done and gives you insight into our dating world.
