Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing... Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. Its very common for people to assume this is the reason why.... Fact is, alot of men do like curvy women. I think its great your working on something about yourself that your not completly happy with, so keep it up! There is no deal, its just about what people like. From personal experience, no matter how good a person looks, its their attitude and personality that will turn me off faster than anything else. Either way, your experience is quite common on this website for both sex's. Dont give up, you've just contacted the wrong people imo. Unless you do not really look like your pictures, then it might not be due to being curvy. As noted before, lots of guys like curvy women. However, usually guys don't like women who have the anxiety, sensitivity, and lack of self-confidence to type: FIRST OFF IM A CURVY FEMALE AND THATS SEXY ALL YOU LAME ASS DUDES WHO WANT ABERCROMBIE MODELS CAN STEP OFF THIS PAGE CAUSE YOU ARE NOT A REAL MAN AND ONLY REAL MEN CAN DATE THIS REAL ASS FEMALE!!! That is what we guys like to call drama, and it is a major turn-off. Is this the reason why there is only one date? I'm not sure - I didn't poll every guy. However, just wanted to put out there that it might be due to something besides your figure. Your graduation and myspace headshot might not give the right message as to what they think is curvy. I really and truly don't mean to sound rude but guys don't advertise themselves as being curvy. They are just relegated to being called big or fat. If you are only getting one date either your personality or appearance is not upto par with them. Give them all the detail they need as to not deceive them on the first date. Be honest and as real as you would want a man to be with you. Women who type in all caps are holding a florescent red flag, but don't know it. It doesn't work like that in the real world. Ok, so you have curves. Now tell the hypothetical man you want to be interested in you what you will do other than just show up and be pretty, because that's what will attract the man who is interested in more than the first five minutes of interaction. Lastly, realize that some guys will just not be into you because of your body type. Get the fuk over it. It doesn't mean that he's not a real man if he doesn't like plus-sized girls. Maybe he's a real man who just simply isn't attracted to your body type. I'm slightly shorter than the average guy. Some women don't look twice at a shorter guy. Grow up, and move on to the next one. You're young, you'll learn they are not all alike, just like us.... Some men like curvy, some like bbw's, some like thin, some athletic..... Don't try to be one thing to all it's not gonna work. Be yourself, the way you feel comfortable. If you must change, do it for yourself. What I call curvy is smaller than what most woman call curvy. As a guy I would not like your profile much. I see the picture, read the first sentence and get upset. Why don't you have a picture that shows what you look like. That first line in all caps is kinda insulting and abrasive. I WAS BORN THIS WAY AND I CAN'T HELP IT. Would you really want to talk to me after that? Why don't you have a normal picture so we can see what you look like. Show your sense of humor and let us know what you are like. After that realize that this is a free dating site. There will be a certain amount of idiots and players. If you read my profile it says how I have want a woman who works out because of having watched so many people die from over eating. Almost 100% of the woman who contact me first are obese. But, as so many before me have already said, it's not every guy; some do, some don't. When was the last time you saw a movie, seen a commercial on tv for alcohol, dish soap, heck even cereal? OK, how about the last time you read a sporting, entertainment, gossip or fashion magazine!!?? If you notice, the women in commercials and magazines all are pretty similar. That's what they're marketing to us at an early age, and unfortunately for you and a lot of women, that's what a lot of guys are buying. Anyway, I would recommend that you took some better photos of yourself that showed off your figure; curves as you say, and try to be a little more courteous in your profile, and a whole lot less bitter and confrontational. Glad you lost the 40 lbs!!! You say you have another 30 to go. And you cant see how thats contradicting yourself? If your needing to drop 30 lbs then your at LEAST a few lbs over. Not thin or athletic but average hopefully. Curvy to me is not someone overweight. They have boobs and nice butt, not overweight really. Everything else follows closely behind. One the attraction is there a short conversation usually takes place, if both parties are interested it's time to get together for a fun, relaxed meeting. Sadly if any of those steps breaks down there is no meeting, nor any further interest. Keep at the weight loss, do tons of cardio, throw in about 2-3 days of 45 minutes of weight training circuit training would be ideal for you and correct your eating mistakes. Keep your eye on the price and best of luck to you. It is that you don't have a full body picture showing your figure - and wearing a graduation gown doesn't count. Sorry, but men are visual creatures, and yeah pictures like that are beneficial. In fact, I'd probably recommend it. Let the viewer come to their own conclusion. But, as my original post notes, it could be due to other reasons as well... Thus, if 14 is considered average... I think you see where this is going... Secondly, unless a woman is lacking estrogen, she will have at least come curve to her. Athletic women fall into this category - they are curvey yet tight which is why men love them so much.. Personally, it's all about how how the face looks coupled with the way in whcih the fat is distributed. I love a woman who has a cute face and who is chubby who has the fat in all the right places. It just drives me nutts even more so than a really hot athletic woman. But you know - I go up to some of these women that I find really attractive and I find I get angry responses a lot of times. Makes me feel bad that our culture has screwed the proper imagine of women up so horribly. Men, because of testosterone are supposed to have low body fat and a v-shaped torso. This is naturally attractive to women. On the other hand, puberty takes women away from the ideal body image as the ideal body image is prebubescent! I actually ready this in my psychology text book and it is the cause of eating disorders in our society. Women are supposed to have an hour glass figure which shows they are furtile. These men who say they like super skinny are just denying their nature and buying into the cultural brainwashing. I would love to tell some of these women how beautiful they are without them assuming that I am just trying to use them for sex as so many guys probably have. I wish I could undo all the damage the brainwashing has caused and just have them believe that they are hot and that they are the way they are supposed to be. Now this goes for women with hour glass figures and who are a little chubby and wieth the fat well-distributed...
