I broke up with my boyfriend after he went in again. It's another story, butn now I'm receiving threatening letters from him because I broke up with him and I'm leaving him destituted. I feel scared because I know he can get violent. On his last letter he said he was getting out in 38 days, that was on May 15 and he said he was coming after me. Prior to that he had told me that he was being released until next year, now finding out that he is a pathological liar, I don't know what to believe. I left three messages to his PO, but he hasn't called me back, it's been two weeks. Is there another way to find out the actual release date? Now I'm finding myself to go thru the process of putting a restraining order against him soon. Any help or guidance you can provide me, I'll appreciate it very much! Looks like he want's to go back in. If he isnt' getting released until next year I think he came up with the 38 days to scare you I'd be tempted to write him one more letter and tell him if he didn't quit you are going to send all his threating letters to the prison and let them handle him. I broke up with my boyfriend after he went in again. It's another story, butn now I'm receiving threatening letters from him because I broke up with him and I'm leaving him destituted. I feel scared because I know he can get violent. On his last letter he said he was getting out in 38 days, that was on May 15 and he said he was coming after me. Prior to that he had told me that he was being released until next year, now finding out that he is a pathological liar, I don't know what to believe. I left three messages to his PO, but he hasn't called me back, it's been two weeks. Is there another way to find out the actual release date? Now I'm finding myself to go thru the process of putting a restraining order against him soon. Any help or guidance you can provide me, I'll appreciate it very much! Personally, I'd go to the DA with this letter where he is threatening to do harm to you. I though they read all the letters that come and go, I guess not. This is unacceptable and you need to show him that you will not allow him to scare you, even if he does and I would be, you need to take control. You have the power he is sitting in a prison cell and from what you write has not learn a thing from sitting in that cell so he needs to sit in there for some more time and he will get more time if the prison knows about the letters. Please take care of this. I'm sure you have heard many stories of what could happen, don't let it happen to you. If you can't get anyone to listen go to the news. I am sure that the prison would love to know what he has been doing. Sorry, I dislike men who think they can control you just because they are bigger and stronger. You will be in my prays and may GOD bless you. That is scary, go to Vinelink and put in his name, and there is supposed to be a service to notify you when he is released. Doesn't always work, but it can't hurt. What court was he sentenced from? There are also victims agencies listed on the Vinelink page. Maybe some of those will help you. If you know the court you can find information on that online. Yes, I'm surprised too that they let him send me such letters. But see the way he writes is clever, he was asking me for money for a package, he keeps mentioning that he gave me so much when he was out and now that he's in I'm not giving him anything. I wrote back to him explaining that I don't have any money and that I'm in debt which partially went up from the one and only time when I was helping him about a year ago when he was in prison. Told him I filed for bankruptcy and therefore I have no more credit. This is all too complicated and I know for a fact that the officers don't give a damn about anyone. Ok I am going to try to help you if you pm me with the prison he is in I will find all the information you need. Wait a minute I have a co that lives across the street I will go ask her what you should do, be back in a moment. Ok I just ran acrossed the street and talk to her. This is what she said to do 1- Go to the top dog call the warden, 2- Write him a letter with a copy of the letters 3- Call his counseler and send copy of letter you sent to the warden If you need help finding 's address just let me know. By the way she also said that he will get in written up and most likely time added. She said that they do not mess around that this is unacceptable and you must put a stop to it. GOD Bless I'm here for you. Call the pison and ask to speak to the counselor, you can also call the person who is the CO in his building, there is a special name for it and i cannot remember what it is. Someone will come along, it's something 1 or 2. Tell them what the letter said, he will be pulled into a meeting and tell them you want no more communication from him, they will start monitoring his mail and reading EVERYTHING. Do not send the original letter and if you have the envelope save that as well. Go down and get a restraining order and he will be served by his po or at the prison before he gets out. Itwill become part of his parole conditions. Sorry, in California the only way you can find out his is release date is if the inmate tells you. He will have the Counselor talk to the inmate and place a 'no contact' order as a condition while he is still incarcerated and as a condition of parole. Thank you everyone for your advice and prayers, I'm feeling so depressed about this situation, in shock because I really don't know the extend of his anger and how he will react worse to the restraining order and complaints. But I have a family and I care for myself, this is a must do for my safety. Hopefully, I'm not making it worse and eventually this will go away, sadly that the relationship had to end up this way. If you guys find anything else I might need to do, please go ahead, post it or pm me. Vinelink doesn't work for CA. Try calling the prison and asking for his release date. If he is coming up for parole, you have legitamate proof that can stop his parole. You can also go to the CDCR website, search for the parole board hearings and check them each month. Once you find his name, call the board and tell them what is happening. Now, for the present time, do NOT give your original letters to anyone. Make copies of them! You can go to the County Courthouse or the Sheriffs dept where you live and let them know what is going on and they will tell you who to contact. Also call the Ombudsmans office in your region and let them know what is going on. They will help you get to the right people to deal with him. Get it taken care of now. What he is doing not only constitutes threats against your life, but it is also called extortion, which is a whole new charge sweetie. I'm late getting into this. An inmate would not send out a letter like that through the regular mail unless he's a ding. If you haven't taken action yet what I would do is call his prison ISU Investigative Service Unit ASAP and explain your problem. The operator can get them for you. What you want to do is get this inmate's parole stopped pending investigation. THEN call his agent. What prison is he in? Update - thanks everyone for your advice, prayers, and encouraging words. I called the prison and asked them if they could serve him a restraining order, so it's in process now, I'm waiting to get it back, he's been served in his cell, I go to court next Tuesday to obtain a permanent order. I'm taking the necessary steps so he stays away from me and my family, but I'm sure he's probably angrier now that I put the restraining order and hopefully he won't confront me when he gets out. It's all so sad and not the happy ending I wanted with him, trying to stay strong and not have anymore feelings for him. Thanks for being there and read my posts. Yes, I'm surprised too that they let him send me such letters. But see the way he writes is clever, he was asking me for money for a package, he keeps mentioning that he gave me so much when he was out and now that he's in I'm not giving him anything. I wrote back to him explaining that I don't have any money and that I'm in debt which partially went up from the one and only time when I was helping him about a year ago when he was in prison. Told him I filed for bankruptcy and therefore I have no more credit. This is all too complicated and I know for a fact that the officers don't give a damn about anyone. Send that letter to the DA NOW!!!!!! I broke up with my boyfriend after he went in again. It's another story, butn now I'm receiving threatening letters from him because I broke up with him and I'm leaving him destituted. I feel scared because I know he can get violent. On his last letter he said he was getting out in 38 days, that was on May 15 and he said he was coming after me. Prior to that he had told me that he was being released until next year, now finding out that he is a pathological liar, I don't know what to believe. I left three messages to his PO, but he hasn't called me back, it's been two weeks. Is there another way to find out the actual release date? Now I'm finding myself to go thru the process of putting a restraining order against him soon. Any help or guidance you can provide me, I'll appreciate it very much! From experience, YOU CAN'T.. At least not in California. When the inmate goes and sees his counselor while in reception, that's when he gets the paper with his release date on it. That release date will stay the same, unless the inmate gets into trouble.
