I totally disagree with her and it saddens me that someone saddled with the responsibility of protecting women rights will say this. I am a victim of DV and I am far from what she described. 2 years ago, I was slapped for saying I was tired of always looking for new water dispenser bottles Because the women selling them will tell you they have neat bottles but when they bring them and I refuse to pay, they get upset. Note, I only said so after searching for 3days and were running out of water at home. 2 weeks ago, I was strangled and my back twisted because I left a pack of sanitary pad in my car. It wasn't used. New pack. It was not on the seat. It was in the glove box with a wig. It was not in my husband's car. It was in mine,that I got before marrying. All I tried to do was explain that I keep them for emergencies. After child birth, I stopped having cramps. My period just shows up and could be very heavy. I ended up in the hospital the next day. I had no scratch or bruise, yet my backbone and neck area hurt badly. His mother who stays with us insisted I was wrong and should just have said oh, I forgot. I was made to apologize . When I couldn't sleep that night, I read up about DV and realized all the blame game and control issues is just part of it. My husband denied touching me and his mum confirmed this to my mum. Now I understand how Mercy Angie's husband will deny touching her despite the CT scan.
Let's be truthful, women don't our parents stop beating us after a particular age out of respect of becoming a lady? So why do men find it really difficult? Flash back to arguments we have with male friends or even guys amongst themselves, after all is said, it never ends in one party beating the other.
Madam commissioner needs to understand that victims have already been made to believe they are the cause. We are constantly being reminded of how useless and worthless we are. We are called failures and compared to outsiders. We and depression are pallies and have lost our self-esteem. They say, nobody can ever put up with us. They say, we should be grateful for them tolerating us. Lol. Madam Commissioner, you really need to take a nap.
