She's almost 30 working as a secretary in a big pentecostal church.
So There was this guy that was coming around her. He's a widower though still young in his late 30s. He seemed serious said he wanted to settle down with her asap. Though they were just friends, my friend told me then she wasn't so sure she wanted to settle with him because of his marital status. on the outside the guy seemed cool and all.
Sometime around Easter period He invited her over to his place so she could get to know where he stayed and all and for her to get to know him better too. She agreed and honoured the invitation. Only for this beast to drug her drink and rape her.
Imagine being disvirgined at that age through rape. She was devastated. She told me about it 2weeks after it happened. She cried and cried. I wanted us to go report the case at police station but she refused saying she was not emotionally fit for the humiliation that might come with it and that he has been calling and sending text messages begging for her forgiveness. I asked her if she had any medication for prevention of pregnancy and HIV. She casually said she did but like 3 days after as she was too devastated to leave her house earlier and she hadn't told anyone then.
About a month later when she called me on the phone sobbing hysterically I could barely hear her, she said a pregnancy test she took came out positive. I froze. I visited her later, she was so devastated she even threatened she would kill herself. I advised her to open up to her family(her elder brothers and sister as their parents are late) at this point.
Though she was reluctant but eventually She did. Her elder sister just kept crying the whole time.
I was shocked when her elder brother said that the guy would see their true colour if he ends up not marrying her as their family was a Christian family n hence will not involve in abortion neither would she have a bastard in her fathers house. When she said they didn't even ask her if she wanted to be married to the guy one of the brothers became very angry and told her she should never have visited him in the first place if she knew she wouldn't want to be his wife.
She said they took the guys contact then. Her sister later told us that When he learned of her pregnancy (as my friend cutoff communication with him) he kept apologising and promised he was ready to marry her...
From the enquiries I and my friend made about this guy from his neighbours and a colleague of his that happened to be my friend, the guy used to beat his late wife even while she was pregnant.
The neighbours claimed he had beaten her mercilessly one day and she went into preterm labour at seven months, one of the neighbours drove her to hospital. She had complications after childbirth which was a still born and died about a month later, they said they were sure the complications came from the beatings. But the guy claimed his wife died partly of complications from childbirth but majorly due to heartbreak from losing her child.
Even with all these information about him her brothers still insist on the marriage going on. She remained adamant though. Around middle of July she said the pastors wife where she worked called her into her office and asked her if she was pregnant. She said yes and she asked her to tender her resignation letter the following week just like that. That was how she lost her job in the midst of all these. She told me about her job last week when i called to check up on her. just yesterday she chatted me up to say that her family have already fixed a date with the guys family for the introduction. She feels she has no other choice but to just flow with them as she has no job anymore to sustain her through the the pregnancy and childbirth and her family has told her they were not ready to assist her in bringing a bastard into the world not withstanding the fact that this man is a rapist and wife beater.
She says the guy still calls to beg her and maybe he has changed for good. The introduction is in two weeks time. I've run out of advice for her. Am really sad.
Is there a way out of this for her?
