There are loads of girls whose greatest dream is to date a musician. Many of them go about the dating process in the wrong way, they fail to date and end up with one night stands or simply become squealing fan girls. This article leads any girl, step by step, through the definitive instructions on dating any and all types of musician. Think about why you want to date a musician. Is it for the glamor? The connection to genius or at least musical competence? The thought that you might get songs or music written about you or inspired by you? These aren't the best reasons for dating anyone, and it'd probably be best to be glamorous, cool, or creative yourself. Think about the sort of musician you want to date, and what instrument you'd prefer they play. Do you want a hip indie rocker in tight pants? A Macho metal guy? A dramatic goth boy? A down to earth folk guy? An unfathomable avant-garde musician? Do you want a cocky lead guitarist? A cool bass player? Note: the authors have no idea where to find a sousaphone player, let alone how to date one, best of luck. Sub-note: you can find a sousaphone player in your high school or college marching band. A sousaphone is essentially a tuba made for marching. Develop a working knowledge of the history of pop, classic, rock, or soul music, especially that surrounding your chosen musician's genre. Also develop a working knowledge of cultural phenomenon surrounding that movement key books, movies, etc so that when speaking with the likely very focused musician you display an awareness of music beyond the usual groupie squealing. Develop a style that both fits in with, and stands out from other girls in your desired scene. Do not dress in an overtly sexual manner, this will only get you one night stands, usually with the least attractive guy in the band, quartet, orchestra or whatever. This does not mean dress like a nun, it means dressing like you would on a date. Learn about your local underground or otherwise music scene and start going to shows. Pick some potential targets, and find out who has a girlfriend. Remember, girls who hit on guys with girlfriends often get very bad reputations in the music scene. Strike up a conversation with one of the guys you're interested in. Mention you like the band but don't rhapsodize about how they're the best thing ever talk about music for a bit tell him how they remind you of one of the bands you learned about in your studies that sound like they influenced the band, and then go off on general bands you like , and ask questions about the musician not about the band. Ask him where he grew up, where he got that shirt, that sort of thing. Remember, he's probably sick of talking about the band. This will not only improve your knowledge of music, it may even make you smarter than your prospective musician boyfriend, especially if he plays guitar or drums no offense to guitarists and drummers. There's nothing better than having a partner who can give new insights into improving one's own craft. Girls who seem very educated in music without being condescending and are also passionate about it are very attractive to musicians. Note: You don't have to have a PhD to get the knowledge needed to impress him. Just read a few music theory books and you'll have him in awe. A real musician is not a dude in tight pants able to strut around on stage, squawking his head off into a microphone, while putting down other musicians or other types of music. Music is an art and art should be widely appreciated for what it is, despite different aesthetic preferences. A real musician should know this and respect this. If you want to eventually have a real relationship or family, you have to date a musician with a grip on reality, not someone who uses music to cling to youth.. Think about this: when a musician is practicing he or she is imposing sound on everyone else within hearing distance. Sure it may be nice sound - some times - but it's often not. Does the musician care? For the musician, their right right to make music supersedes the rights of anyone else every time and all the time.
