Jessica was caught in a dilemma. It all started when a classmate named Jeremy began showing interest in her. He liked only me. How did things turn out? Why They Do It Why do some date secretly? If so, list them below. And if your parents object to your dating, they must have a good reason. You probably know what your parents would say about the above statements. And deep down, you know that your parents are right. Some keep their dating secret by communicating primarily over the phone or the Internet. Another sly tactic is to arrange for a group activity, only to pair off later. We were told to keep it a secret. At times, blatant dishonesty is involved. Misaki, 19, did just that. Do you intend to marry the person reasonably soon? Another caution: Dating secretly will rob you of the loving interest of your parents and other concerned adults. And if deception is involved, you have good reason to be concerned. Jehovah God feels strongly about lying. Ending the Secrecy Certainly, you would do well to talk to your parents or a mature Christian adult about any secret relationship that you may be involved in. After all, how would you feel if the relationship had harmful consequences? To illustrate: Suppose a friend is diabetic and is secretly filling up on sweets. What if you found out about it, but your friend begged you not to tell anyone? You face a similar situation if you know that an acquaintance is dating secretly. In time, a true friend will realize that you were acting in his or her best interests. Of course, not all secrecy surrounding dating involves deception. For instance, suppose a young man and woman would like to become better acquainted, but for a time they do not wish to make that widely known. Therefore, at the initial stage of a relationship, some may well choose to be discreet. Do you know in your heart that your parents would have valid reason to object? And although she had become sidetracked, she truly wanted to do what was right. In time, the pain of breaking up subsided. But how do you know if this person is right for you? But do tell those who have a right to know. Lasting relationships are built on trust. Which, if any, describes how you feel at times? Yes, going back to school and seeing that boy every day was hard. We just have to trust Jehovah.
