What up people, I have multiple incidences, where Girls really seemed into me, but via text tended to be really boring and reply with one word answers ever 3 hours or so. There was one time a girl I approach randomly on the street by complementing her on her beautiful hair. She was really flattered and we talked for about 10 minutest. Maybe if you wanna talk and hang out later? We kept talking until my bus came and then I gave her a hug and we went separate ways. I texted her the same evening and the conversation was the following : 7 pm Me: stop thinking about me Joy whats up? This is how about the conversation went, she totally did not seem like the person she was in person. And that is not just her. I have so many girls in my school who seem really into me and when spotting me always want to talk, hold my hand cuddle etc. Whats up with that? Why would a Girl that is really into you or seems so, reply with one word answers ever couple hours and doesnt seem interested at all via text? I made few changes recently: I started matching girls length of messages Stop replying instantly unpredictably Don't give them too much in the first messages Oh It was so great meeting you... I tend to call a girls on the day I met them and then start the texting so she knows my voice and will not have any problems picking up the phone in future. And lastly I put in less smiles, if there are any more suggestions feel free to help me out Help would be really appreciated because that is my sticking point, I get dozens of phone numbers but it never really comes to hanging out because I am really bad at texting and she feels like she doesn't know me. But that the point why I wanna meet them to get to know them... Regardless of the text messages It still happened to other friends of mine and that the thing we do not know what it is By the way that is my personality, and I aint changing via text either hah like all them other people. Additionally she love the conversation I was like that all the time hah Still thank you so much for the help by Harold 50a If there are any more suggestions feel free to help me out Yes I have suggestion, don't send such patronising texts... Don't send such stupid texts unless the flanter is there. Isn't it pretty obvious that your style of communication is lost on the women you have been messaging? Some women would send a similar message back. Others just wouldn't be impressed, and frankly I wouldn't blame them. Usually the guys who take this 'bantaahhh' tack with women are the ones who are most lacking. You say you used to reply immediately too - it's good you've changed that, but don't take the piss and take three days or something to respond. Why did you mention yourself in every comment you made to her?! That's a sure fire way to come across as arrogant. Apart from that, you're fine. It's a good idea to match her length in responses, and don't ask loads of questions or put in lots of smileys my constant downfall. Also, if you get responses like the above, give up, she's not interested. And if she is, she'll do some leg work when you don't reply. Additionally, and you're better off to gauge interest levels when actually speaking to these girls, but if she seems interested, as I agree, the girl above clearly did , it might be easier to just bite the bullet when you first text her and make your intentions clear: 'Hey, it was nice meeting you today, hope I didn't hold you up talking to you. I was just wondering if I'd be able to take you out sometime? Hope you have a good evening x' and then text her tomorrow, asking how her day is going, if she got up to anything last night etc. Texting at random points in the day or missing days out for texting make everything more of a guessing game. And I know, I know, you shouldn't play games, but at the very beginning everything is about trying to keep interest. If she was replying to your texts with a similar level of gusto then that last text might have got you somewhere.. She was definitely in a bad mood at the time though, I don't think it's any comment on your texts. If she was as friendly in person as you say, then I think it'd be out of character to respond as she did unless her mood has significantly changed. It was quite rude how she replied in my opinion, and I think you should've given up after her second reply and texted back a few days later.. Make it clear that you gave her time to stop being such an interesting conversationalist or something like that, clearly sarcastic, just teasing her for her response basically. That's a sure fire way to come across as arrogant. Apart from that, you're fine. It's a good idea to match her length in responses, and don't ask loads of questions or put in lots of smileys my constant downfall. Also, if you get responses like the above, give up, she's not interested. And if she is, she'll do some leg work when you don't reply. Additionally, and you're better off to gauge interest levels when actually speaking to these girls, but if she seems interested, as I agree, the girl above clearly did , it might be easier to just bite the bullet when you first text her and make your intentions clear: 'Hey, it was nice meeting you today, hope I didn't hold you up talking to you. I was just wondering if I'd be able to take you out sometime? Hope you have a good evening x' and then text her tomorrow, asking how her day is going, if she got up to anything last night etc. Texting at random points in the day or missing days out for texting make everything more of a guessing game. And I know, I know, you shouldn't play games, but at the very beginning everything is about trying to keep interest. I was just wondering if I'd be able to take you out sometime? That's a sure fire way to come across as arrogant. Apart from that, you're fine. It's a good idea to match her length in responses, and don't ask loads of questions or put in lots of smileys my constant downfall. Also, if you get responses like the above, give up, she's not interested. And if she is, she'll do some leg work when you don't reply. Additionally, and you're better off to gauge interest levels when actually speaking to these girls, but if she seems interested, as I agree, the girl above clearly did , it might be easier to just bite the bullet when you first text her and make your intentions clear: 'Hey, it was nice meeting you today, hope I didn't hold you up talking to you. I was just wondering if I'd be able to take you out sometime? Hope you have a good evening x' and then text her tomorrow, asking how her day is going, if she got up to anything last night etc. Texting at random points in the day or missing days out for texting make everything more of a guessing game. And I know, I know, you shouldn't play games, but at the very beginning everything is about trying to keep interest. I would actually steer clear of asking someone out by text. Tell her in person and if you can't do that for whatever reason, then call her. If she was replying to your texts with a similar level of gusto then that last text might have got you somewhere.. She was definitely in a bad mood at the time though, I don't think it's any comment on your texts. If she was as friendly in person as you say, then I think it'd be out of character to respond as she did unless her mood has significantly changed. It was quite rude how she replied in my opinion, and I think you should've given up after her second reply and texted back a few days later.. Make it clear that you gave her time to stop being such an interesting conversationalist or something like that, clearly sarcastic, just teasing her for her response basically. Ha thank you so much for the support and advice by Harold 50a What up people, I have multiple incidences, where Girls really seemed into me, but via text tended to be really boring and reply with one word answers ever 3 hours or so. There was one time a girl I approach randomly on the street by complementing her on her beautiful hair. She was really flattered and we talked for about 10 minutest. Maybe if you wanna talk and hang out later? We kept talking until my bus came and then I gave her a hug and we went separate ways. I texted her the same evening and the conversation was the following : 7 pm Me: stop thinking about me Joy whats up? This is how about the conversation went, she totally did not seem like the person she was in person. And that is not just her. I have so many girls in my school who seem really into me and when spotting me always want to talk, hold my hand cuddle etc. Whats up with that? Why would a Girl that is really into you or seems so, reply with one word answers ever couple hours and doesnt seem interested at all via text? I made few changes recently: I started matching girls length of messages Stop replying instantly unpredictably Don't give them too much in the first messages Oh It was so great meeting you... I tend to call a girls on the day I met them and then start the texting so she knows my voice and will not have any problems picking up the phone in future. And lastly I put in less smiles, if there are any more suggestions feel free to help me out Help would be really appreciated because that is my sticking point, I get dozens of phone numbers but it never really comes to hanging out because I am really bad at texting and she feels like she doesn't know me. But that the point why I wanna meet them to get to know them... I'm surprised you even got a response from her let alone a short one after those texts. Tell us a little about yourself to get started.
