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IDK if my first comment went through or not, but does anyone find it ironic that so many new commenters with “great” marriages are all of a sudden coming out of the woodwork and somehow finding their way to HUS (probably through a variety of PUA/Game/MRA type sites)? Seems a bit fishy to me…
It’s kind of like a bunch of fatties talking about how content and happy they are with their bodies while sitting around a weight watchers meeting.
138Ion February 18, 2013 at 3:38 pm
“I don’t see this as “stringing along” but rather making a careful, deliberate choice with my first and only girlfriend. ”
OTC, thanks for clarifying re the 5 year string-along. I do think your situation is more atypical these days, since you were both so young. And in your case, it definitely made sense to wait. But you have men in their 30s doing the same thing, when they’ve had plenty of relationship experience to know whether he feels compatibility or not. It’s almost impossible to tell the guys who are “seeing where it goes” and marriage down the road from guys who never will.
Maggie and Hope
“Once a woman is out of college, two years sounds long enough to know whether the relationship is headed to marriage. If a man still isn’t sure after that I’d question if he would ever be ready.”.
That’s exactly what I’m wondering. Sure, I’ m running out of time (I’m 28), but a girl of 23 is going through the same situation if she waits 5 years. This “waiting and not knowing” is something a lot of girls seem to go through these days. Everyone I know who has gotten married in the past say, 7 years or so, did not have to wait an extended amount of time. The guy “knew” within a year if he’d want to marry her in all those cases (I know two couples where the guy popped the question on their 1 year anniversary).
On the other hand, I know a couple who was perfect for each other, but has been dating for 8 years. There seems to be two extremes happening. One situation, girl waits forever while her MMV declines with age, the other where girl gets engaged within a year (2yrs tops). That’s really all I have seen.
139decoybetty February 18, 2013 at 5:12 pm
Well, I’ve only been married for a little over a year – so maybe we’re still in the honeymoon period (although our second wedding was only a few months ago…maybe we’re only just starting the newly wed period?).
Marriage does not seem like a life sentence, it seems like the start of an adventure with an incredible partner in crime. Life seems richer because I have someone to share the incredible highs and lows.
140Bells February 18, 2013 at 6:11 pm
@Jesse
