I have read a lot of chronicles and comments on this blog where mothers claim they are staying and holding on to a bad and abusive marriage just because of their children saying they don’t want them to grow in a single parent home. Here goes my view as a child in such home
I grew up in a Christian home; in fact my parents are respectable pastors in our small community. We looked like the perfect and ideal family on the outside but it was hell at home, my Dad would beat up my mom at the slightest provocation, abuse her verbally and psychologically, he is also very manipulative.
Everything that goes wrong in the church and in his life was her fault, nothing she did was ever good enough.
We the kids were not left out, he would always rain curses on us and ridicule us in public .If I am to write how bad it was I would probably write a thousand page book. None of us kids wanted to ever go home. I was always looking for love, affection and solace in the wrong places. My siblings and I were suicidal and emotionally unstable..
One day she got the strength and walked out. That is the best decision she ever made. I have watched her blossom and grow from a bitter, aggressive and sad woman to a beautiful, self confident and happy woman. It’s so nice watching her laugh, it’s so beautiful. Now she has the courage to do things she never imagined for herself, she can dream once more. My siblings and I, we are healing, our self confidence is growing by the day, we have peace like never before and we are better off ( work in progress) and most importantly our relationship with God is better .
Our church believes my mom is hell bound for leaving …( chuckling)…They don’t understand that we were already in HELL. We only stepped out of hell. I thank God every that she took that bold step. It’s better to walk out than condemn your children to such unhealthy environment......
