The ideal first date should let you get to know the other person and let the other person get to know you. The object of dating is to be with a potential partner long enough and in enough different situations to find out how much you like them or, maybe, love them. By dating you find out whether the person is someone you're interested in spending any more time together with or is potentially THE ONE that you want to share your life with. Dating should be seen as a journey to a desired destination and not as an unending road trip. It is basically a selection process.
Dating makes everybody feel like a dummy, whether you're 15 or 75, going out on your first date or rejoining the dating scene after your grandkids have started dating. "It's still the same old story".
Dating should be fun and should not feel like your whole life or livelihood depends on one date or several dates. However, it is anxiety-provoking, exciting, common, and individualistic as well as potentially straightforward and simple. The best way to have a good time dating - not just on a date, but throughout the whole process - is to be relatively sane and happy before you begin. The happier you are, the more ready you are to date.
If you're unutterably lonesome, desperate, miserable, or need cheering up, you will need to create a personality that is healthy, happy and Okay, and maybe a little excited, but under control to be able to approach the dating scene prepared to win.
It is important to note that dating and worrying do not go together and that worrying about the outcome of the date may spoil or reduce your chances of having a successful first date. Be of a more positive disposition and no matter what the worst-case scenario might be - the sky is not going to fal
