When you've not legally married someone you are dating, you reserve the right to keep some things secret from them. This is to protect your integrity as a potential husband or wife.
Losing your integrity could make you lose a prospective relationship because someone might just decide to change their minds after telling them things they ought not to know.
Try as much as possible to keep the following things secret from someone you are planning to marry.
If you have any serious conflict with any of your relatives that has continued for several years, don't let your prospective partner know about it.
1. Some family issues are better left undisclosed and your partner should not be involved for future peace to be established in your marriage.
Whatever has happened in your family can bring your reputation down if an outsider hears about it. Your partner does not need to know about it.
You may not have good rapport with some of your family members, but just keep their topics out of your relationship. Your partner is marrying you because of your family.
Ensure you give your spouse a good impression of your family.
2. Your shortcomings in the past are another thing that you have to keep secret. As long as it has no side effects on your relationship, it's your privacy. Never allow your prospective partner to know about it.
It is better for you that they see you the way you are now than to see you the way you were when you had some obvious imperfections. Keep your past secret and maintain the personality you currently carry.
Don't give them reasons to make references to your past whenever you have a conflict. Not everyone can handle this kind of secret without using it against you.
3. Keep some critical issues from your previous relationships hidden. Your prospective partner does not need to know everything that happened between you and your ex, especially if it will affect your relationship.
Leave your painful experiences with your ex out of your future. If you disclose them to your future partner, it might make you appear weak or judgemental.
