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This my E-book on how to talk to women, how to get to know how they work
and how to make them want you. There are many different ways of going
about this. For the purposes of this book, we will focus on the things that will
get you talking to girls and getting laid the fastest. I've been teaching pickup
for about 2 years now. I've seen many types of students, from scared
beginners to very advanced players.
I've seen students try all kinds of things to improve their conversational skills,
from doing routines, to avoiding routines, to storytelling, to walking up and
saying “hi.” After seeing all of this, year after year, I have to say that the quickest
way to learn is to grab a bunch of solid routines that have been tested and do
them over and over. A scripted opener plus two attraction routines is a great
way to start. Then add one more routine every time you go out until you have
10-20 pieces.
Using scripted, field tested material is the precursor to all of these other
topics. Start by learning some of the material in this book, and add in the
finesse and subtle techniques later.
The material in this book will force you to adjust to new ways of thinking and
communicating. It will force you out of your comfort zone and
transform you into the kind of guy who says what he wants, when he
wants, without worrying about what anyone will think.
You may see pieces of material in here that you think are “too scary” to say
to a woman. Using these routines is an essential piece of your learning
process. All of this material has been thoroughly tested, in multiple
situations by both coaches and students. So we already know it works. It
may not work for every single guy every single time, but if you practice it
5-10 times, there's a pretty good chance you will start to get explosive
attraction.
The material in this book is intended to cause explosive attraction. I'm not
trying to teach you to be mediocre with women, or halfway decent with
women. I'm trying to teach you to be a master.
If you're going to become a master, you'll have to grow your comfort zone.
If you try this material for a few weeks, you will see glimpses of explosive
attraction, and doors that were locked before will start to fly open for you.
This is the fastest way to start getting laid all the time. Styles of game that
are smoother and more natural will come later when you have more
experience with women. So hold on to your seat, this material will force
you to expand your comfort zone and expand your idea of what women
are attracted to.
In order to help you remember this material, I have set up a system for
learning which is very different from anything you've experienced before.
This learning process is based on mnemonic science.
Mnemonic science is the science of how people remember things. We will use
several different kinds of associations and memorization techniques to help
you access this material quickly and easily in the field.
The first technique will be “visual association.”
There will be a picture for every routine. Looking at the picture will help you
remember the routine. Then when you get into the field, you can think of the
picture, and it will help you remember what words to say.
I will put only one routine on each page, so you can use this book like flash
cards.
When you’re ready to begin using the material in this book, print the book
out, and take the pages of the routines you want to use. Study only those
pages, and when you have mastered the routine, put those pages into the
“finished” pile. As you learn more and more material, keep adding to the
finished pile until you feel comfortable enough to talk to women in any
situation.
Horse Girl
Say: Hey do you like Horses? I knew this girl in 6th grade and she use to
love horses. She had pictures of horses on her folder, her backpack and
even a lunch box with horses. During lunch she would
gallop around the playground making funny horse noises.
You look just like her.
I can’t tell if you’re really her, but just in case you’re her
and don’t want to admit it I just wanted to tell you sorry. I
used to be the cool kid and the bully. I used to make fun of
the weird horse girl.
I’m so sorry about all the times I made fun of you.
Sexy Shoes
Hey how many pairs of shoes do you have?
I use to know this girl at work, she had hundreds of pairs of shoes and
would bring a bag full of shoes to work every day.
She would come into the lunchroom in the glass stripper heels and sit
down next to me and say (slow and sexy) “What’s in your sandwich today,
cutie?”
All my co-workers would make fun of me because the sexy shoe girl had a
crush on me.
You look just like her. I can’t tell if you’re really her, but just in case you are,
I wanted to say I’m really sorry we never went on a date. I know I
promised I would call you......but.... I...I....I.....lost your number.....and my
car broke down....and I forgot....and um....my dog ate your number. Really
sorry.
Seafood Girl
Do you like seafood?
Girl: "Huh/yes/no"
Ok check this out. When I was in 8th grade, there was this girl who would
always bring weird seafood to school in a brown paper bag. It totally stunk
up the whole cafeteria. She would sit there and eat squid and octopus. It
was so weird. We used to call her the weird seafood girl.
And you look JUST LIKE HER.
Well, I don't know if you're her or not, but just in case you are, I want to tell
you I'm sorry, cause I used to be a big bully. This one time, I took your
lunch when you weren’t looking, and I dumped your squid salad into the
aquarium in the science lab. I just had to admit it now that all these years
have past. Can you ever forgive me?
Quality Control
Hi. I'm from ----(bar/restaurant/parking garage)--- quality control. I'd like to know
if your experience with us has been AVERAGE, BETTER THAN AVERAGE, or
CRAPPIER THAN AVERAGE?
(At this point, most girls will play along and give you a funny little review of the
place. This is ROLE PLAYING. Using the phrase "crappier than average"
communicates to the women that this is just a fun little game, and that you're not
really from quality control.)
CONTINGENCIES:
1: Girls: "It's been crappier than average."
You: (Overdramatic) GOD! I'm just trying to do my job here, you guys don't have
to yell at me and hurt my feelings like that.
2. Girls: "Average"
You: (quietly) I know. This place sucks right? Listen I'm here from central and I'm
about to fire everyone in this whole place. I might be able to offer you a position.
Just give me a run down of your special talents first. You might be able to earn $7
an hour.
3. Girls: "Better than average."
4. You: "Are you just saying that cause you're trying to get in my pants? Aww,
that's so cute. We just met and you're like SOOO into me already....
Talking Shit opener
Strategy: Create fake drama through role playing. The strong emotions
often get translated into sexual attraction. The opener comes out of
nowhere, and this intensifies the effect.
You: (seeming really serious) "So I heard you've been
talking shit about me."
! Girl: "What? Huh?"
"Yeah, you've been talking shit...why don't you SAY
IT
TO MY FACE???" (getting all fake angry)
CONTINGENCY
! Girl: "Yeah, that's right. I've been talkin' shit."
WHY DON'T YOU SAY IT TO MY FACE!!!
! GIRL: "Oh maybe I will."
"You wanna take this outside?"
! Girl: "Um No."
Say: (to everyone around) "OH! I DIDN'T THINK SO !! I DIDN'T THINK
SO!!"
It’s something I ask every student of mine. Most men lack a ready answer, so I like to offer
a few suggestions:
Do you want a girlfriend?
Do you want two girlfriends?
Do you want a couple of one night stands?
Do you want to meet the girl of your dreams and settle down?
Do you just want to get better with women in general?
What do you want?
On hearing these suggestions, most guys still only muster “Yeah,” or
something along those lines. They haven’t decided what they want yet.
They’re getting ready to embark upon a journey that will require them
to work harder, confront more of their own fears, and take more
challenging steps than probably anything else they will ever do, and
they haven’t figured out yet what they’re going to put all that work in
for.
That’s why I ask them. And now I’m asking you. Because I don’t want
you to question yourself halfway through this book and say, “This
sounds too hard… it’s not worth it.” I want you to know what you
want today. Your goals will change as you learn more about women
and social dynamics and how relationships work.
How to talk to woman
An example of this adapting of conversations occurred for me once I
began traveling. I wanted to talk about my travels with everyone.
Naturally, I started talking about it with every girl I met. After all,
what could be more interesting than
adventures in a foreign land?
Some women did respond very well – some
listened intently to my
stories and wanted to hear more. Yet, other
women, I found, couldn’t
relate – usually the ones who hadn’t traveled
themselves. So did that
mean I couldn’t talk about one of my favorite
topics with most
women? The solution I finally happened
upon was by couching my stories in
something she could relate to. Rather than dive right into my own
travel experiences, I’d ask a girl, “Do you travel at all?” If she said yes,
I’d say, “Cool, where?” and she’d go into her travel stories and I’d
relate mine. Soon we’d start discussing related topics, like trying exotic
foods in distant countries or meeting fascinated people from other
cultures. If she said no, I’d respond with, “Well, if you could go anywhere you
want in the world, where would you go?” and she’d name somewhere
romantic, usually, like Spain or Italy. Then I’d relate my own
experiences that were connected to what she’d like to do, and throw
in a disclaimer like, “I never used to want to go. It always seemed so
intimidating – I mean, it’s so far away, and you don’t know the culture
or the people or the language or the money, you don’t know anything
about the place…”At this point she would often be excitedly agreeing,
because that’s exactly how she felt. Now, at that point, she’s relating to
you. Then you tell her, “…but once you go on your first trip, you’re
hooked. So many new things, and experiences, and seeing how excited
these people are to meet someone from another country… it’s just so
amazing.” Because she related to what you said earlier, she’s now
following along with what you’re saying, and imagining herself in the
same situation having the same experiences and feeling the same
emotions. Now you’re on the same page – you’re connecting now.
Listening
It’s not necessary to be talking non-stop all the time. If you can show a
woman that you are listening to her on a deep level, she will do a lot of the
talking herself. The skills of listening, and eliciting the other person to
share, are surprisingly difficult to learn for most men. Here’s a few tips to
keep in mind-
1- When the other person is talking, don’t spend your mental energy
thinking about what you’re going to say next. Apply your brain to actually
listening to what the person is saying. Don’t think about what to say next
until you have completely taken in everything that person has said. The
conversation is not a race. You don’t have to have the perfect response right
away. It’s perfectly fine to take a moment to think before replying.
2- Let the other person know you are listening by nodding, saying “uhhuh”
and occasionally repeating parts of what they said.
3- Try to imaging what the other person is feeling on an emotional level. Try
to feel the same emotion yourself.
Transitioning Into a Routine
One of the things that frequently prevents students from using tried and
tested effective material is "I don't know how to transition into it.” This is an
easy fix. The incorrect assumption here is that you need some kind of clever,
smooth way to get into a routine, or else it seems to be "out of nowhere" and
we don't want it to be "out of nowhere." This assumption is wrong.
Here's why:
There's nothing wrong with any piece of conversation (pro script, self script,
or natural) being "out of nowhere." The woman will just adapt to your
frame and follow along. Trying to be clever and smooth with transitions
generally results in 3-4 seconds of thinking too hard, which makes you look
incongruent, reduces your ability to take the lead, prevents you from
listening to the other person, and reduces your ability to calibrate. So how
does one transition into a piece of material? Well it's simple. Just
PLOW RIGHT INTO IT. Once you get the idea in your head that it's time to do
a piece of material, just start. That's it. There’s no need to be smooth. There’s no
need to be clever. Just take the lead and plow right in. You can just stack and
jump from one thing to the next, to the next, and the girls will just follow. Once
in a while they might say "that's so random" or "that's out of nowhere." This is
not a bad thing. Just say "yeah I know" and keep plowing through. "That's out
of nowhere" is not a criticism, so don't take it like one. If you do, you're being
too sensitive. That's instant death in this game. This comes down to showing
leadership. Think of a situation where there is a clearly defined leader. Maybe a
drill sergeant or college professor.
They talk about what they want to talk about and tell you what to do. They
don't sit there wondering "how can I transition into this without it being too
random?" Once you start thinking that, you're losing momentum. This
technique for transitioning has been tested and is proven to be successful for
several years now. Even beginners can do it.
Posture
The first body fundamental we’ll address is Posture. This consists of the
following:
• Back straight
• Shoulders back
• Chest puffed out
• Head held high, chin parallel to the ground
Work on these until they are natural for you. Men look powerful and
command respect when their posture is strong. When it’s anything less,
they look average, or even weak.
It is easy to test out posture. Find a male friend, and have him slouch
his shoulders, put his chin down, and then look at you. Next, have him
straighten his back, pull his chest up, throw back his shoulders, and
stick his chin out. Notice a difference? You should. There’s a big
difference. Or, have someone take two pictures of you, one with bad
posture (or even average posture), and one with great posture. Then
look at the difference.
Changing your posture may be uncomfortable at first, and it may even
be difficult to retain your good posture for a little while. After about
thirty days of consciously correcting yourself, you’ll notice that you
begin to do it unconsciously. As you automatically maintain good
posture, you will make yourself look powerful, strong, and attractive.
Posture is of more importance than most men realize. If you find
yourself having a lot of difficulty maintaining body posture, find a
local teacher in Alexander Technique. The methods taught there for
maintaining great posture are invaluable. My favorite: imagining a
hook underneath your sternum (the long vertical bone in the center of
your chest) pulling your chest upwards. This imagery helped me a
great deal to align my posture early on. Find what works for you, and
use it.
Eye Contact
The second kind of body fundamental is Eye Contact. Looking people in the eyes shows that
you are interested in them and also displays your confidence. Here are the main concepts that
are essential to improving your eye contact:
• The best eye contact is looking at the bridge of the nose
directly between the eyes. Do not wander back and forth
from eye to eye; it looks as though you are scanning for a reaction.
Instead, keep your eyes fixed on that central point.
This will give your eye contact an intense, intimate feel.
• Maintain eye contact most of the time when you are the
listener. You should be giving the speaker more eye contact
than she is giving you (e.g., she looks away; you continue to
look a little while before looking away). Do not stare
indefinitely when eye contact is averted. If a speaker looks
away frequently, or for long stretches of time, avert your eyes
when she is doing so to avoid coming across as staring.
• When you are the speaker, maintain eye contact about 70%
of the time, and avert it 30% of the time. Giving someone
100% eye contact while you speak makes her feel like you are
trying to force her to pay attention, so be sure to avert your
eyes at points while speaking to give the conversation a more
natural, relaxed feel.
• While delivering the punch line of a joke, or a high point of a
story you’re telling, look away. This will allow the listener to
enjoy the point of your remarks naturally without feeling like
you are seeking a reaction from her or hoping she will react
a certain way.
• As things become more intimate, you’ll want to turn on your
bedroom eyes - basically, your eyelids droop and you let your
eyes drop out of focus a bit. Picture the way you look at
things when just waking up in the morning while you’re still
drowsy, and you’ve got it. Your girl will begin to start
thinking of you in a much more intimate way.
Meeting woman
By now, you’ve identified a number of fundamentals to work on - in a month’s time you’ll be well on
your way to being a more attractive man in your base condition, without so much as having to think
about or do anything else. Now let’s take this more attractive man that you’re becoming and have
you work on the next step. Before you can date women, charm them, get intimate with them or build
relationships with them, you first have to meet them. This section will guide you as you progress with
meeting women.
Places to meet woman
You can meet new women any where- but some places are better than others. Some
options are:
• Classes. An easy way to target a specific type of girl with
interests similar to your own - whether you’re taking
Spanish I or Digital Photography. Just make sure you take a
class that’s girl friendly. Algebra 2 or Computer
Programming 101 aren’t necessarily your best options for meeting women!
• Online. Online is becoming an increasingly popular and
accepted venue for meeting women. It’s a little more of an “extreme” environment though
than real life - and one in which men’s looks play a far larger role than they do in real
life. How good you look in your pictures, and how well you
design your profile and messages, is key. For pictures, look to
get some professionally done; for profiles, I could write an
entire other book on profile design and online dating, but for
now suffice it to say if you’re interested in that, there are a
few good resources out there, but one of the best ways
available is simply playing around with different profiles and
seeing what sticks.
• Grocery Stores. Every girl needs to buy groceries. Depending
on where you buy food, you can meet just about any kind of
woman you want. Right now, Trader Joe’s stores seem to
consistently have the most beautiful women wherever you go
if you’re in the States; Whole Foods is a reasonably
dependable runner up. You may also want to change grocery
stores to one in a younger or college centric part of town if
you’re serious about meeting a few women every time you go
shopping.
• Coffee Shops. Many of these are magnets for cute, young
women drinking coffee and studying or reading alone. Sit
down nearby, or queue up near them in line, and say hello.
• Social Events. Many of these attract young, single women
looking for a way to be socially active and connect with
likeminded folks. Talk to friends about where they find out
their events; search online for young professionals’ activities
in your city, or other events and get togethers.
• Salsa. Whether you’re taking the beginning classes or you’re
an old pro, salsa is a place that single women gravitate
toward to meet single men. Most of the women who come
here are more relationship oriented than those who frequent
nightclubs. Salsa classes tends to draw a higher percentage of
independent, professional women - it’s not often you run into
a gaggle of women who all know each other like you will in a
bar. Most women come alone or with one other friend,
especially in beginner’s classes.
• Bookstores. If you’re looking for a good place to meet a more
educated, intelligent woman, a bookstore is often a great
place to do it. Particularly the large, multi level chain
bookstores that have their own café or coffee shop on the
second or third floor - great places to go with a new female
acquaintance you met perusing the books downstairs.
• Nightspots. Women come to bars, lounges, and nightclubs
expecting to be social and to meet new people and potential
new paramours. Nightspot socializing tends to be easier for a
lot of men as it feels more “socially acceptable” to meet
women at bars than, say, on the street. Yet, because it’s
assumed that she’ll be meeting strangers, her guard is also
up, and you have a lot more work to do to get her to the same
level of openness you can reach much more quickly during
the daytime. On the other hand, there is a certain mystery
and sensuality to the nighttime that makes more women
more open to quick flings and casual liaisons than they may
be during the day.
What woman value
Firstly, it’s important to know what women value. A lot of men have a
lot of misconceptions here, so let’s clear those misconceptions up.
Provider Value
This is the kind of value that mainstream society usually pushes on
men, and the kind of value that most men compete for. Provider value is how a man shows a
woman that he will be a good provider, and will take great care of her and (implicitly) the
children that they have together. He’s telling her he’ll be a good choice for a long term
relationship. Providers are long term focused.
A man’s provider value is determined by a woman through assessing how he performs in
the following:
• Attention to her
• Money / resources available
• Money / resources spent on her
• Devotion and loyalty to her
• Reliability and dependability - he’ll be there when he says he
will and when she needs him
• Cautious, with the ability to protect her and make her feel
safe
Many of the popular songs on the radio are about this kind of value.
When you hear men telling women that they’ll always be there for
them, will never leave them, will never cheat on them, will give them
the world, etc., that’s their way of communicating that they’d make
great providers. The guys who aim to be a woman’s Prince Charming
or Mr. Right are typically most focused on highlighting their provider
value.
Lover Value
Lover value is the variety of values that fewer men compete on -
basically centering on being sexually attractive and fulfilling women’s sexual fantasies.
Lovers are short term focused. Mainstream society has two big misconceptions about
men who possess mostly lover value. Those misconceptions are:
1. Women don’t actually want men who are short term focused
- women all only want relationships, and only end up with
short term focused men if those men trick them.
2. Women get hurt by men who become intimate with them
without giving them long term relationships.
Let’s set the record straight. Women do want men with lover value -
in fact, women are more sexually attracted to these men than to the
providers. Why? Men who are short term lovers usually
subconsciously communicate that they are breeders - guys with good
genes who are desired by many women and have lots of options.
Women base much of their attraction to men based on the opinions of
other women. Men who are unsuccessful with women tend to be
timid, unconfident, and needy toward women, and women
subsequently avoid them and refer to them with terms like “creepy” or
“sweet” (depending on the man’s disposition). If however a woman
suspects a man has multiple options, as judged by his confidence,
fundamentals, and other aspects, her desire to mate with him rises.
From an evolutionary perspective, women want to have sons who will
mate with many women and pass on their genes - so they want the
father of their sons to be a man who could mate with many women,
and they tend to be most attracted to men who trigger this impression in them.
Because of that, when it comes to sexual attraction women respond best to subtle traits
from the list below. That’s the long explanation. The short one is that women desire
desirable men.
A man’s lover value is assessed by women by looking at the following
traits:
• He dates around or has lots of women and female friends in
his life
• He is not needy and is comfortable with women (not
desperate to mate, like men without women in their lives tend to be)
• He challenges women and is selective / picky about the
women he dates
• He displays positive feelings and has constructive interactions
with women (opposed to the many men with bitterness
toward women, which communicates a history of rejection
by the opposite sex)
• He’s busy - implying that he has other things he must attend
to, and perhaps other women he must attend to
• He is passionate, adventurous, and spontaneous
When a woman ends up in a long term relationship with a man with
high lover value, she tends to be frequently frustrated with his
inability to meet all of her needs as a provider, while subsequently is
infatuated with his many qualities as a lover.
Listen to female singers on the radio; few of their songs are about providers, talking about
how their men take such good care of them and are always there for them. No, the vast
majority of popular songs women sing on the radio
are about lovers - talking about how they shouldn’t feel this way
about him, or about how they can’t get him out of their heads, or how
they can’t figure him out.
Women obsess over men with high lover value. Because some of the traits of lovers
and providers are mutually exclusive (e.g., a provider value is to pledge total devotion
and loyalty, while a lover value is to have other women and other options), it’s
impossible to completely cover both. However, what every woman out
there wants, ultimately, is a man who can satisfy both sides of the
coin.
When it comes to the man she’s going to settle down with,
women tend to fantasize about a man with incredible lover value - a
passionate, adventurous man all the other girls want - that only she is
able to tame. If you ever read a romance novel - the female equivalent
to men’s pornography - you see the same trend over and over again. While we’re focusing
more on the The men women sweat about, dream about, fantasize about, and lose sleep
over are the men with high Lover Value nuts and bolts of romancing and engaging and
becoming intimate with women than on the nuts and bolts of running relationships in
this book, I’ll advise here that if you want to keep a woman happy long term, you must
retain enough of your lover value that she still sees you as sexually exciting and a
challenge. If you do what most men do and relinquish all lover value in exchange for
provider value to try and hold onto a woman, you can bet that sooner or later a man
with high lover value will come along and get her excited and make
her want to mate - this occurs when the man she’s grown used to has
depreciated in lover value.
Just look at how often people who’ve been married for five years make love, and you’ll see
it: not very often, most of the time. When it comes to mating, the men women are looking
for - the ones they chase - are the lovers.
So what now?
Now that you’ve read this entire book, I’m going to give you one simple
task to complete.
I want you to choose your favorite routine in the
entire book. Choose the one that really made
sense to you. Choose something you think
women will love. Print out that one page the
routine is on.
Then I want you to fold up that page and put it
in your pocket next to where you keep your wallet and phone.
That page will become standard equipment whenever you leave the house.
You wouldn’t leave the house without your wallet and phone, so don’t
leave the house without at least one tool for getting laid.
Next time you go out, try out that one routine. See how it works. Then try it a
few more times so you can get it to work well. It often takes a few tries to get
the hang of it.
That is all I want you to do. They say “The journey of 1000 miles begins
with one step.” I want you to take that first step by printing out one routine
from this book.
