"No, we can't go on like this." If you say or hear this sentence a good dozen times in relation to your bestie or from his mouth, it means that something is not right. Your relationship is certainly not going well, and, with each passing day, bad habits have caused your union to simply... wither! To prevent this from happening, here are several tips: Avoid these ten blunders that can derail any relationship!
1. Not sharing quality time
If there's one thing that's essential to making a relationship work, it's the time you spend together. Devoting part of your life to friends and family is something totally normal, but you should not neglect your partner. It's important that you find the perfect balance.
Furthermore, and contrary to what many couples think, watching TV together, for example, does not mean that you are, in fact, spending time with each other and enjoying time with each other. Marital interaction is important in the dynamics of love.
2. Letting the enchantment fade
As the relationship moves forward in time, compliments fade until they are practically non-existent.
It's true that the relationship has grown, each of you knows the best and the worst of the other and you're more than sure of the future and the path you'll have to travel together, but this doesn't imply that you don't have to remind each other of certain things - like that colour that suits you or how beautiful your green eyes are - little treats that help the day pass more easily and, of course, with a smile from ear to ear.
The opposite will only cause damage - even if small - in the pair's heart and will make routine become a sad companion for both of you.
3. Not knowing how to listen
Communication is vital in a happy relationship. But understand that communicating is not just talking. It is also listening passively. It is something essential and fundamental.
However, your partner often needs your opinion, so passive listening is not just nodding, nodding, nodding! Concentrate on the moment and give your partner the time in its entirety. Poor communication creates conflicts that are difficult to resolve and overcome.
4. Not making the relationship a priority
Friends, family, work... kids! They can, yes, affect a relationship and cause it to become sloppy, empty. The further down you find your partner on your scale of priorities, the more your relationship will suffer.
Extremes are not good either - not so much to the sea, not so much to the land - so you shouldn't neglect yourself either. The ideal is to find a balance that makes the pair feel important, while finding your own importance.
5. Permanent complaints
Constructive criticism is always welcome - not only in a love relationship, but also in all kinds of relationships. But watch out! They can easily cross the "line" and go from constructive criticism to constant nasty criticism. This is something that hauntingly wears down any relationship, instead of making it grow and evolve in a healthy and strong way.
6. Trying to mould the other into our image and likeness
The couple doesn't have to be or do what they want! There are always certain characteristics in the other person that we can only accept and not try to mould in our own way.
Concentrate on making their behaviour and temperament better and this will be a much more attractive incentive than the force of stubbornness. And then it may be that your bestie will change for you and become, in your eyes, even better.
7. Avoid the problems and the arguments
Argue, argue and argue. Is this something you do on a regular basis? The solution is dialogue. Many couples make the serious mistake of pretending that they agree on a certain issue when, in fact, they do not. By not talking about the problems, the dreaded arguments are avoided.
This attitude is not good for your relationship as, over time, this will cause resentment to grow within you uncontrollably. The best thing you can do is, in fact, to talk. Face your problems and your differences with maturity and share your feelings with the other, without reservations.
8. Promises, promises...
The basis of any relationship is trust, so promise yes. Promise only what you can keep. Be realistic and prudent. Lying spoils delivery. It stifles love.
9. Putting the pair's loyalty to the test
Surely it has crossed your mind right? Don't put the other's love to the test! The faithfulness of the other, the loyalty of the other... It will affect your confidence, the confidence of the person next to you and will not solve any problem.
10. Scandals in public
A "scene" in public, an argument within your group of friends, this is something that you should definitely avoid! The problems of the couple are to be solved that way: as a couple! Onlookers' possible comments will only make the discussion go nowhere.
