I have come to accept my divorce but I am struggling with accepting her betrayal. She had dumped me by this point. At the one year mark, she kicked her husband out. I supported their marriage, encouraging Retrouvaille a Catholic weekend program for troubled marriages and by encouraging her husband to move back in and fight for his marriage. I fasted and prayed for them, another Catholic tradition. Despite my efforts as if I could save their marriage , they divorced. Now, it appears she is involved with him. I think the kids feel the same way. My teenage told me that my daughter was scolded by her father for not speaking to my former BFF. When I asked my son how he feels about it, he said that when his dad tells him that there is a relationship, he will walk out of his house for good. Their reactions make me feel good, like they are not accepting what she has done. In the meantime, how can I get past this? It is hurtful and frustrating. It is so very difficult, and honestly, what your friend did to you is absolutely disgusting. I think it takes many years to fully accept and heal. Now, onto your former friend. It sounds to me like subconsciously you knew there was something going on with her and your ex for a long, long time. Deep in your core, you knew. But onto what is happening now. She dumped you because she chose him over you. The bottom line: she was not your friend. When it comes to I feel pretty strongly about the importance of having truly loyal friends who are there for you when you need them most: the ones who are giving and selfless and really come through in a time of need. This girl shows really unethical and bad character. I would never do that to my best friend. What if they stay together and get married? Do it for your kids. Just think about it. I know it will hurt like hell to be nice, but you can do it. Think it will really work out? Sounds like she left her husband for him, and I never have faith in relationships that begin with cheating and lies. Something similar happened to me when I was first separated. I later realized what a waste it was making myself nuts over it. My advice to you is, try not to focus on THEM, but instead on YOU and your kids. Trust me on this. Your kids still need him. Jon I was witness to a situation like this. Evidences were there and you as a friend, you tend to ignore those warnings. But this happens with women that have a group of female friends, some single some married and then one of them will eventually see how a great guy your husband is and in her mind she hopes to get an opportunity like that, etc. If an opportunity like this arises, a divorce, there will be 1 of your friends that will try to take advantage if it. She is basically saying no to your friendship and yes to what she believes is the love of her life. The plan was to separate for 3 months while he went to counseling and we tried to repair the marriage. After our 3 month separation mark when I thought he would be moving back in,m he told me he was seeing a woman in town. Someone I am in the same group of friends with we went out in groups and were at the same parties frequently. I am devastated by this. He promised me that if we divorced he would never date anyone in town naming this woman specifically. How do I get over this betrayal? My kids know her kids same high school and know he is with her. How do I get over this- Any tips for handling this. We live in a very small town and everyone knows. Our divorce is not final yet. She abandonedh him, her children and their home and she left the state to start new relations with other man and party. We are not young adults, rather middle aged and very responsible. Then she got very nasty and had been harassing me to the point the police had to get involved. He does not want to meet a stranger, but is very comfortable with me as we all always had been best friends over 30 years. She had moved on and now he and I ate still close friends. Being that she hates me, cause she thinks I was the one who sold her out to him about her multitude of affairs, I honestly never did or ever considered being the one to two himonths. That was between them, and I wanted to support them both AS A GOOD FRIEND. Now I know he is a quality manandv deserves a quality woman as myself. We are professionals, own our own homes and have our lives in good places. Although I feel it is agst girl code to be with him, why should I really care. She threw away a perfectly attractive, intelligent, considerate, fun and loving man and Father. She had hurt me so badly, that I am finally over the fact that she will never be the BFF I had in her ever again. After all, she threw him away. Any input would be interesting to hear. I do not want to ever be friends with her again esp. Hey, her stupidity, selfishness and lack of regard for him and her children, why the hell should I care what she thinks or how she feels? Already making her out to be the witch and she has no way of Defending herself. Do you ever really in your heart think these children will love you and respect you. You woman today are desperate and have no self respect for yourselves. Know this, Everytime you lay with him you will feel the pain of knowing you were not chosen just convienent.. You will never know that REAL feeling..
