I am A 53 year old man, 170, average body, not fat women say I am well- a looker I do not look my age The wonders of plastic surgery I look after my self, diet, gym etc. I have no baggage and I am well off: net worth 3. I earn 200k per year, not something I usually boast about, I only mention it so you know that I am not a looser. But could I find a normal women on RSVP. The statistics on my personal experience has shown me that people on RSVP do not live in the real world. Put bluntly men and women who send kisses and emails to people that are TOTALITY out of there league, ugly V attractive, slim V fat, Educated V Non-Educated. This type of contact of course is setting people up for disappointment and rejection. So what about people that are, say in a pub or dance situation would the above apply. The answer is of course NO. People know their limitations in the real world. The partner that they would find suitable to them would be within their league. As I would not try to flirt with a super model. But I am rejected by the kind of women who I would only give a cursory glance in a super market. I was only looking for a normal attractive women with some brains. So far it seems that intelligence is lacking in 95% of men and women on RSVP. Height requirements tell a story. Men and women also tell big lies about themselves. Men about how much money they have, the importance of their job, how tall they are and the amount of travel they have done. Women about their weight. Photos are a teller, a lot of photos are years old. Why would anyone scan a photo from an album? Its not rocket science to take a good photo of ones self with a digital camera, a phone camera can do a great job too. So RSVP is really set up for all the very attractive, people out there, and and here is the problem the people who think they are. If they are fat, forget it. If one of them sends a kiss to each other it will be 99% of the time it will be rejected. Men by the way drive RSVP as they are the ones who pay. RSVP by the way is full of scammers, gold diggers and false profiles, men and women! Some people may have found a partner on dating sites. The people who do are the 5% who are realists. Out of that 5%, 1% would find their partner. So it would be a rare occurrence indeed. In short; internet dating? A waste of time, money and effort. Try speed dating, if any thing it will at least improve your interpersonal skills. My girlfriend and I have sorted out our differences so we are one again. By the way she is 18 years younger than me, attractive, no kids, and has a brain. Your comments and internet dating experiences, horror stories and comments much appreciated. The issue comes 100% down to accountability. When you don't have to look someone in the eye when you say something, absolutely anything can come out of your mouth because there's no way anyone can really hold you to it. I've seen the way some people talk to each other on these very forums, exactly the same thing. The thing that makes the internet great annonymity allowing for a meeting of minds is also one of the things that brings it down. I met my partner of 4 years on a, shall we say, less conservative version of those dating sites and you're right, it only works if you go in with your personality on your sleeve. The other problem is, you need to understand what it is that you want. It's only after you realise and understand what you want that you can tailor a profile that seeks to attract what you're looking for. So many profiles I've seen just have a photo of a pair of legs or a bum or some other kind of body shot and then no doubt wonder why they get treated like a sex object. The vast majority of the people on dating sites don't understand this and so they opt for the scatter gun approach, hoping to attract anyone and everyone only to find most of their bullets fail to hit anything... Look mate, if you're serious about finding a decent woman who doesn't have all the hang-ups and knows how to look after a man, do what I did. Met my wife who's Brasilian when I went over there for work several years ago. UCLA educated with a few degrees, comes from a stable wealthy background, is independant but carries none of the usual BS Australian women generally have. So take some of that cash and spend several months in South America. Staying in the better parts of the cities of course. I wasn't looking for what I found, initially it was just for work. But I'd never met a better person in my life. Don't settle for second best. Don't look for it, it'll come when it happens. Plastic Surgery on you however might show to women how vein you are. If vanity was the reason you got it done. Keep in mind that you reap what you sow. I dunno if it goes both ways, but If I saw a profile for a female with plastic surgery, that would turn me off, the words that would come to my head would be attention seeker, bitch, high maintenance, self indulgent...... Well, well I only posted that post this morning and its got you guys going already. Comments by the way are fine but there really no need to try an insult me you know. So what if I spelled two words wrong. If you want to criticize me; be constructive. The plastic surgery, had my eyes done six years ago so what. Vain no, do you look after your self? I wonder how old you are? The money your just jealous. Women would hate my post. The plastic surgery, had my eyes done six years ago so what. Vain no, do you look after your self? I have no baggage and I am well off: net worth 3. I earn 200k per year, not something I usually boast about, I only mention it so you know that I am not a looser. Plastic surgery and cosmetic surgery is a huge business. It is obvious that you are all young guys, the whole point of the surgery is that it is NOT noticeable. So if you saw a chick that was a real looker you would have no idea unless she told you that she had had surgery; same here with me; you can not tell. My point here is that cosmetic surgery can make you look younger and feel better about your self and that is not vanity, I think that is being smart. If you are a young guy, sorry but you would not understand. How long have you been a member of RSVP jon? Just like at the pub its a numbers game. The more you approach the more chances you have of snagging some interest. RSVP dont forget allows a lot of shy people to approach someone they may feel an attraction to. Its a great medium for meeting new people. I ask you jon.. You never know your luck. Check out some of the male profiles listed in the 'top 10' get some ideas of how or what to write in your own. Check out the US sites and see what men of your stature are writing in their profiles. I have been a member of similar dating sites and have reached for the stars and had some very enjoyable evenings and met some nice ladies, some didnt think i was their cup of tea and vice versa. I am in no hurry but i have the bait out there. I agree with you most of the approaches i get are usually reminiscent of a childrens fairy tale witch, which puts me off immediately. Unfortunately on the dating sites your introduction pic is very important. It has to be clear, showing a smile. Some of these women are wearing freakin sunglasses ffs, and have blurry images and then start flirting with ya LOL There's no hurry Jonfrodo. Good things come to those who wait, but dont keep your head in the sand. I appreciate at your age it is difficult to find a social scene in which your personality feels comfortable in and RSvP provides an extra avenue to meet friends for you. And your right, most of the responses you will get in these forums on Whirlpool are not what you may be looking for. Seems the geek set consider everything they dont know about either a scam a fraud or there is somehting wrong with it. Hence the attack on your spelling without even listening to your post. They are afraid of not sounding either sexy. Thats what internet writing in forums does to them. They need attention, so if they cant acheive smart , they resort to sexy usually failing but more often attempts at wit which sarcasm of course falls within the definition. I am meeting a gal from a dating site this friday night, and jon, she's HOT , 10 years younger than me, professional without baggage, weve spoken on the phone for a week or so , sent umpteen pics of ourselves and now comes the meeting. We both hope the chimistry is there. Go after Moby Dick in a row boat and take the tartare sauce with your jon. All very e-macho with nothing better to do but to critisize speeling. I've never used RSVP or internet dating. I do take the occasional browse due to curiosity. And I agree, some of the requirements the ladies put are astonishing! Some people are immature and aren't able to see a problem from another perspective no matter how hard you try to explain your view. Understand though, that this is not limited to a person's age. Give the guy a break. There is no need to put someone down on their spelling. When did spelling matter in the real world? Not unless you're writing a major thesis on your Honours degree. Even then, you have word check to help you out. Men are so much more egostical than women. Always wanting to be top dog, that means finding whatever way to put another person down in order to make ourselves look good. I guess this is part of our primal intincts - survival of the fittest i guess. Yep, top dog is the victor who gets to bring the girl home to his lair. I believe this must change. Society should change for the better, especially for the male kind. I found this blog and it's much interesting to read about people's experiences. An overwhelming majority of posts here are done by women, who share their experiences both good and bad, and so, allows them to learn from each other's experiences and change for the better. My point is, us men should try to show some form of emotional tolerance amongst our peers. It is from this point on that we can relate to one another on an emotional level and develop skills which may or may not allow us to develop emotional tolerance with our female colleages. I am sure explaining Moby Dick was relevant though. Hi jonfrodo I agree with you mate.. There is only very low percent of people that a serious about relationships. I have in the past wasted my time on those websites. It took a while but girls on those websites are full of BS and very shallow. My advise to you is: If you're serious about getting partner for life... Be your self and don't sound like a desperado. Russia, Ukraine former soviet republics. You will find someone smart and educated there for sure, someone that will look after you for life with no BS. To the trolls that are picking on the spelling.. Yes i speak 5 languages eat your heart out and go back to learning only one language. I had a fair run on some of those dating sites a while ago now including RSVP. I can certainly relate to your comments and concede there are a lot of frauds out there as well as a lot of false pretences, many just there to lure your dollar towards that particular site. However I did meet some lovely women of varying class and size all of whom completely contradicted the profiles and comments they had stated. It's a lucky dip and also a right laugh. Medium becomes large and a size 12 is a chick off the Mika video. I love how ShruÐe was b! My girlfriend and I have sorted out our differences so we are one again. By the way she is 18 years younger than me, attractive, no kids, and has a brain. Making a post on a broadband forum about how bad an internet dating sites is? What makes you better then all the other screaming hordes. I await the reply in the form of an essay about why despo 53 year old use RSVP and haven't already found commitment in the form of a life partner already. Edit for truth: I make 300k a year. Oh well, seems to me that I waisted spelling my time writing the begining post. There have been some interesting comments. A few people emailed me one of them with some advice and the other wanting to know how to make 200K per year. Well at least I made some frends so it was worth it. You should have all read it more carfully instead of going on about my spellink. My girlfriend and I have sorted out our differences so we are one again. By the way she is 18 years younger than me, attractive, no kids, and has a brain. Your comments and internet dating experiences, horror stories and comments much appreciated. I am meeting a gal from a dating site this friday night, and jon, she's HOT , 10 years younger than me, professional without baggage, weve spoken on the phone for a week or so , sent umpteen pics of ourselves and now comes the meeting. We both hope the chimistry is there. Keep us informed of how it goes please.
