June 13, 2013: Halle Berry and Olivier Martinez attending the The Champs Elysees Film Festival 2013 in Paris, France. According to an online dating profile many have described as racist, Busby explicitly stated that he would never under any circumstances date black women, sparking a large. Busby expressed a preference for red hair although other colors were tolerable. He prefers a woman who wears dresses, and has not slept with too many men. Man makes racial preferences explicit And, absolutely, under no circumstances whatsoever, he stated, would he ever consider dating a black woman — not even if she looked like Halle Berry as if he had a shot with the actress, or any black woman of her caliber. However, I will date any other race, Hispanic, Mexican, Spanish, Russian, Italian, French, European, White, whatever, anything except Black. He asserted that he would not even date a woman who had been intimate with an African-American man. I would NEVER, EVER, EVER date a woman if I found out she had EVER been sexually active with a Black man. Why black women are upset Yet, I understand why so many people were offended. Busby is just part of the overwhelming tirade black women encounter through media that seems to constantly remind them that they are not considered desirable. No, this does not apply to all men, but there is a sizable contingent. There is also a very vocal group of black men who date interracially. Some like to throw all black women — except their mothers — under the bus to justify why they feel forced to pursue other women. The red carpet at the ESPY awards looks like an interracial dating convention. It happens all the time, and black women are tired of it. A lot of people are really racist and say and think horrible things about black people. As a relationship expert, I recognize this as a huge red flag. Busby seems to have a much worse problem with having any capacity to give and receive love, regardless of the race of his paramour. Lucas is a and the author of : The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. Follow her on Twitter at This article has been updated.