A lot of white guys assume black girls want black guys and black guys only which isn't necessarily true. In pre-school I used to run around with some little blonde hair blue eyed boy and we'd tell people we were going to get married. With interracial relationships there's always the fear of people saying something but really your relationship is really none of their business. But it's not just the guys who'll wind up with rude comments it's the girls too. I know plenty of well educated black men and I just don't find them attractive, I'm just way more attracted to white guys than I am black guys, it's as simple as that Though you can never say always, it is more common for black men to be attracted to white women than the converse. Look at the responses on average. I read somewhere that the worst race to be is a male asian. Usually the least desired by other races as well as within the race. It's horrible that people still argue a racial steriotype. There's ghetto blacks and white trash. All races have bad examples and good examples. I am half Asian and half white and I dated white and black girls and black girls don't seem to be so, pseudo social conscious like white girls. B girls just seem to be more down to earth not to mention great the best in bed and if you can satisfy an african american girl then you're doing something right. If you want to see some of the most beautful women in the world go to Norfolk State U. An African American college with educated most beautiful girls on the planet which are black. The black guys getting defensive is definitely real. I dated a black girl in college, and I was stunned how many black guys would try to take her from me whenever we were out in public. It really seemed to bother them to see a black girl with a white guy. Of course it was probably only a minority of the black guys, I would never claim all black guys acted that way. But there was a noticeable pattern. I really understand what you are saying. I have dated interracially and I too prefer black women. I've found more political differences than I have cultural. I too have found a little animosity from black men because I've dated a black woman. But, it wasn't overbearing. That could be related to the area of the country, I'm not sure. Nevertheless, where I'm from, I think there is more animosity from white women. I PREFER handsome White Guys! They should NEVER make that assumption. They need to talk to a lot fo Black girls and make friends with us. That way they can observe us closely and figure out more easily which ones of us like them. I have no attraction to Black men at all and have been madly attracted to handsome White guys since I was 5 years old. I always will be! Get to know us, but don't choose the mean ones. There are plenty of Paula Patton's, Vanessa Lynn Williams and Stacey Dash types among us who are just waiting to meet and get to know a Brad Pitt type. It's not Black men's business whom you date. It's yours and that ladies. Ignore the living hell out of them and just be happy with your woman. Black men certainly don't own Black women and they need to mind their own business. They can't have me and I don't want them so there's nothing for them to do but go scratch and get glad. Georgiacarr I feel you as a black man I understand black women can be more attractive to white guys I don't understand why I feel like it's how the media portray beautiful people making it seem like white people are more attractive and some black women feed into that another things is just let the black dudes know they can't have you because once they hear you say that I'm 100% sure they wouldn't want you if you looked like Beyoncé reading that comment I wouldn't even want to say one word to you so like don't make it like black guys need you or care you're just one girl we don't care we don't need you White PEOPLE, period, just aren't attracted to black people. I hear it constantly, from girls and guys, since I am white so they don't have to hide their feelings about it around me... I've seen half black girls who look good, obviously because it's not showing I mean that's obviously why since full ones are never attractive to me. I'm not just speaking for myself, being a racist. I hear it all the time. I've heard it from Mexicans about black people too. So it may be that all races don't find them particularly attractive. But you and those other obviously racist people don't think and speak for ALL White men. There are gorgeous Black and Half Black girls whom NON RACIST White men PREFER and think White women are not the end all that beats all. To each his own but we're ALL equal. All White people aren't racist and there are plenty good looking, kind, White men who prefer stunning, sweet Black and Mulatto girls. And please consider that there are plenty White women and men whose looks don't stand out. All White men don't look like Paul Walker and all White women don't look like Elizabeth Taylor. Black women aren't attracted to White men because of the media. We're attracted to White men because of OUR OWN PERSONAL TASTE. God did not create us for BLACK men and we're free to be attracted to an prefer whichever race we want jut like you can. It's not Black men's business what color we like just as it's not ours whom you like. It'd be nice if Black guys would realize that we're NOT YOURS and need to mind YOUR business and live YOUR life. You're certainly not going to stop us from living ours. Not being mean, just saying. Georgiacarr some of us shit, most of us aren't look like Brad Pitt though. Personally: I'm 5'3'', about 180lbs, REALLY long hair, clean shaven, real handsome face. I'm a metalhead though and from my experience most black girls don't like that look. They prefer more of the yuppie type expensive clothes, phone, clean, smooth soft hands to my aesthetic. And it not necesarilly a money thing. I'm a union auto worker: I make great money. I have dated black girls before though and I encounter a lot of animosity from black men and white women both. The men act as if black women are their exclusive domain, and the women act like interracial dating is theirs. I think that beautiful women come in all colors, shapes and sizes, as I have no major race issues. I must admit though I had an African American woman pursuing me some time back when I was in the service as she often commented on my fat behind, which she always said was a compliment and that she would really like to be with me. I didn't have a problem with this and was always friendly with her. I feel today though that were I single again and an African American woman were to pursue me again I would be more confident than before and I would be a little more assertive, not because my dimensions have changed from before, but I have a little more experience and believe it is more how I treat a woman than how big or small my parts are. I hope this makes sense and that it isn't offensive to anyone, I'm just being honest. This is a great question, I've always felt that black girls are really sexy, I just never thought they had the same thinking towards me. I don't think there's any social 'obligation' to date a certain race your own , but I can definitely see where many do. People are really all different and it's good to know I wasn't alone in thinking black girls are just as gorgeous as any other race. I think most white guys think the same. I did date a black girl for a few months at uni and I noticed that every black guy that passed us would suck his teeth. I took this as an offer of friendship. Anyway black girls are the most sexy in the world... On the average, I'm not attracted to black women. Now that I think of it, a friend has this absolutely STUNNING friend, so cute it's almost difficult to look at her yes, it's possible to be that cute... What concerns me is the aggro black men that seem to orbit in most circles that I've seen and I don't handle overabundance of testosterone grandstanding or otherwise well, and I have seen this both first hand and heard it second hand. I recognize that this is the exception rather than the rule, but I've met few black women that have had me interested... Every other black woman I've met or known either hasn't registered on the interest scale or I just don't see them like that. For me though it s been opportunity and fear I guess. For one, I went to Catholic school all through grade-high school, and there weren't many black kids. I mean talking to girls is no easy task and when I didn't have time or opportunites to ease my way into getting to know any it makes things worse. As for social stigma I really haven't had much of a problem telling people to screw off when it comes to my decisions so I think id b fine, and I mean my family isn't really bigoted or nething. However, I worry about what her fam would b like. I mean being over for dinner or fam events could be awkward even if they were nice, And I would feel over-cautious a bout a lot of stuff. But after my first semester of college these past months I've been defintiely meeting a ton of people so you never know who I could end up with. Also as for guys that say lighter skinned black girls the better this in my mind equates being white with being considered attractive , I seriously disagree, I remember there was a haitian exchange student at my high skool and she was really dark but she seriously was one of the most gorgeous girls that I've ever seen of any race. Skin tone is def not an issue for me and probably not for a lot other guys 2. I'm mixed first of all I find it laughable that you are so clueless as to why men in general don't want black women... Look at this: The plain, honest truth is that Black Women are not desirable. They have not made them selves desirable and will not listen to anyone that dare suggest they change their ways. Weight is probably the 1 issue. If they weren't all fat, then maybe a few more guys might put up with them. Also, they act like men, for the most part. They want to act tough like a man. They flaunt themselves too much; have an inflated sense of confidence. This is coming from a guy that grew up around them. I've been to 4 different schools and have experienced the same thing with them over and over... Same drama, same attitude, which doesn't bode well especially for girls who don't look that great to begin with. And they don't have natural hair many times, have to wear weave, which isn't a good thing... I want a girl with natural hair. Most guys do Then after high school I worked with an all-black female staff at a Starbucks... Same stuff that they do in school, etc. Same big bellies, same attitudes to go with it Am I saying all? I'm not saying the majority, but the overwhelming majority. Take any 10 random black girls, 9 out of 10 will be fat and have some kind of chip on their shoulder. I wish they all could be Ashanti or more like Rashida Jones, I really do. But their ego's are too big for that. Hmmm sounds like you are the one with a chip on your shoulder... I'm black and even though you didn't say all you said majority and that's definitely a lie. I don't hang out with anyone like that... I know the stereotype you are referring to but that is not at all the majority... I'm not sure if I find this offensive or if maybe you've just had bad experiences and decided now was the time to group people. I'm black and I don't consider myself fat, I don't act like a man I'm a retro barbie mixed with a nerdy side. I usually don't have an attitude unless your really trying me because I'm extremely patient I think that only thing you wrote the is accurate about me is that I'm loud and that not even all the time. I have all real long hair I'm really sorry you feel this way I totally agree with you. I'm mixed too and find most black girls embarrassing. I once worked with all black women at a Beauty shop and it was the worst group of loud, obnoxious, fat, lazy I could go on people I have ever been around. Sometimes I hate saying I'm half black. I am Interracial, Black and cherokee well, my dad is half, so it counts... LOL I agree with you 10,000,000%! I live in the detroit area and when I actually lived IN Detroit, I was herrassed because I don't screw and smoke marijuana! In fact, most of the women in that area had 4 kids, playing at least 2 guys and was high half the time! I don't even date black women... I prefer asian or hispanic... For one thing, it's quite dangerous since many black men won't tolerate us making a move on 'their' women. Of course, no one ever objects to them flirting with Caucasian women because then we'd be racist, etc. Secondly, most of them, like their role models among wealthy Caucasian women, are simply for sale, and that's not really very attractive unless you're into that scene. But we're NOT THEIR WOMEN just because we're the same race. Please get a backbone no offense and go after the woman you WANT!!! Let NOTHING stop you. Richard Loving boldly pursued and married Mildred Loving in the 1950's in the SOUTH, when it was forbidden by LAW for mixed race couples to marry!!! So what's stopping you again? It's sad but I'm not naturally attracted to many black women. I they tend to have nose shapes that I'm not attracted to. Unfortunately that's usually where I'm looking because I enjoy looking into eyes. I'm sure it's partly cultural. I had no black kids in my school growing up so even though I may be free of intellectual racism, there's probably some societal influence. I'm kind of in a similar situation. Two white woman that I was starting to feel attraction towards said in the past they exclusively dated black men. Both liked me and found me attractive, just not their ideal. Maybe I have an issue with pride but I couldn't date them after that. Another interesting this is that I'm the only one out of my friends who is not attracted to Asian girls. I'm the only one who has asian blood in me. How silly is that? My preference is blond hair and blue eyes or red hair green eyes... But I'm starting to appreciate beauty in other places. I don't want my vision so narrow. Hopefully I'm going to go on a date with a very attractive young black woman this week. See, this kind of thing always amazes me. I was born and schooled in VA. And you'd think by now, We would ALL be past a question like this. But then, you turn on the TV, or you pick up the paper, and it's like it's 1860 all over again... The short answer is, I have seen my great share of extremely beautiful woman, of every race and color. Should I take this into account? If I find a woman sexy, should I disrespect her because she was not born of a certain race or creed or tribe? The ugly truth is, we ALL suffer from prejudicial behavior of some kind or another. It's just so very sad when this has to involve love or at-least nice asses. I, for one, LOVE beautiful women of every legal age and color, regardless of status, wealth, heritage, etc. Just give me a woman with a nice, curvy, juicy ass. MOST PEOPLE DATE BASED on a person's appearance and yes,one's color does or can have everything to do with it.. She was black as pitch too but for me at least it was like any other dating experience -you know making out, dancing, lighting up, eating, seeing movies, late night parties alone together... I know this is an old post, but I just have to respond. Black girls generally don't take well to compliments about their curvatures. Say something about their big beautiful butt and they'll slap you. Too hostile, too aggressive, by nature it seems. Not a whole lot of ladylike civility in a woman who responds to a compliment in such a way. Nothing wrong with staring. You don't like it, then learn to ignore it. That's the CIVIL thing to do. Now your response to me is proof how some women are just too stuck up and overly conceited. Biologically black people as a whole are more masculine reason why black men are more attractive to other races of women. Most men want feminine women and as a result stay clear of black girls. In either case I'm one of the uncommon ones that actually finds black women to be extremely attractive. I also date them despite EXTREME disgust and rejection from my family and my first girlfriend was black. Its not biologically found that black women are more masculine or that white women are more feminine by nature. You have to look at the environment and culture of black people. A lot of black women had to take on the roll as mom and dad in there homes. They had to discipline their teenage, hormone raging sons, and manage the cruel world outside the home that made it hard for them to find decent paying jobs that would pay the bills and feed their kids. It makes you hard on the outside. Always have and always will. When a woman like that even engages in conversation with me my legs start to feel like jello lol. To me it's all about intimidation. I've been through a lot in my life but still the most intimidating thing to me is a beautiful strong black woman. I want to say because they are to me superior on so many levels compared to other types of women, but I have never dated one so I can't say for sure, that's just my speculation. But I honestly believe what stops me, it is the fear of such a cultural gap. What do I talk about? Will I share anything in common? Can I make her laugh? I guess what has always stopped me is the fear that I'm too different. It's crazy because I'm really not scared of much and I love things that are different. I literally daydream about it quite often. And if people stare or give hard time? Make out right in front of them. A family member or friend doesn't approve? Cut them right out of my life. I'm not scared of any of that. Just the thought of maybe I'm too different. Or maybe I can start a relationship but then it might fall apart because I'm too different. Because I'm tired of not knowing lol first,the fake hair turns a lot of guys off.. Most white males,like most blacks,asians etc,date within their own race.. To be considered pretty or beautiful you have to either have eurocentric features or pretty close to it. We've been shown this all our lives till the point the majority believes this, notice how someone non black or black will be quicker to say beyonce or rihanna is hot rather than another other black person in the media. If you don't fit the bill most likely many won't be attracted as crazy and stupid as it sounds. Media has a hold on us, like someone's comment below, babies aren't taught to be racist, children aren't racist, it's taught. Honestly I think some white guys won't approach because of stereotypes, they believe black girls are loud, obnoxious, always having an attitude, and then they don't fit the media standard, and will probably not approach. I'm not saying all white guys are like that, but I'm sure there are a lot who may feel this way. Come on people this is 2010, we need to really get off these stereo types and actually get to know people. I think its because they are either afraid or intimidated by how some black women act what they see on tv thats what they think Black women look like and act like but thats not always the case im half Native American and Half Dominican but im darker and because im darker guys usually see me as black and other guys see me as native because my high cheek bones i do not act like a ghetto girl there's a difference between educated women and non educated women there's white women I've seen act ghetto too and those are the ones blac guys usually go for no disrespect to anyone but wherw i live i only see not really attractive white women with black men so i think it has to do with the judgement of others and what they would think people see a person of color with a white pperson they judge you but who cares like i was with my bf for 3 years and they would look at us like we was aliens some facial expressions were funny i just laughed like its not the norm for black or Spanish girl to be with a white guy but its the norm for a black man to be with a white girl so they rarely get any looks it can have something to do with the attraction also but for the most part its all on what you like well from what I found out from other white guys on here is that they don't kno how to approach black girls, because they dnt kno how we're gonna react - whether we'll insult them, be shockd or if we'll act completely normal. I don't know if it is just me or if others could relate but I am a black female and despite all the social, cultural and political differences surrounding interracial relationships, I can honestly say that I could care less about that. In the end, it doesn't matter if a man regardless of his ethnicity isn't or is attracted to me because I'm comfortable in my skin and confident enough to flaunt it. I'm not a white GUY, but as a white GIRL I can tell you that most black women seem... I have plenty of black friends, however, our friendships were only started because THEY approached ME. I realize this is really backward thinking and I'm probably just acting insecure, but black women look like can kick my butt with a remarkable amount of ease. I figured its cus she's a tall strong girl she played on a male football team in high school a lot of white guys are afraid of big girls. I don't kno how much you way for your body type but a lot of guys like to hold someone and not be held Out of all honesty, I'm not trying to be offensive or anything and I'm not saying this is true in every case But my dad is white and 52 years old and he grew up around a lot of racial crap. And he wouldn't not allow me to date a black guy but he more than likely would not approve of it and also I would never hear the end of it. I think a lot of it is stereotypical stuff and I personally would want to go out with a few cute black guys but I don't think my family or friends would ever approve of it and I don't want to dissapoint them. Even though blacks and whites all equal now there is still A lot of racism, and there always will be. Sometimes it's not about race, but just preference. You can substitute out black and white for fat and thin, or brunette and redheads. The woman who posed the question wanted some clarity... I hate these questions too bcz race has nothing to do with it! I suppose at least with me it was how I was raised; its really not even a socioenvironmental conditioning type of thing anymore its basically an overall personal choice that has no right or wrong answer to... I think its just a social stigma. White men think that they have to act like the black men that they see on TV if they are going to date a black woman. I never saw the color of his skin as being a problem, and I knew that my family would respect whoever I choose. I think that most white household families are not okay with the whole situation, so the men feel pressured not to bring a black woman home. It is much more excepted if your families and friends are OK with your dating choices. The city you live in also has a big play in it. I live in Seattle and international dating is common here. I have been dating black men for 20 years and hence my son 34 loves black women and has even been in a long term relationship with a girl that I love and feel is a very good person. So don't blame the men you just haven't found the right one.
