Dating an 18-year girl old as a 26-year old guy... What am I letting myself in for? Surely people of these ages are in a different place in their lives and it wouldn't work. Despite all of that I am probably going to unable to restrain myself. What am I letting myself in for? A female reader, , writes 29 September 2011 : i am a 17 yr old girl and my boyfriend is 24. A female reader, anonymous, writes 9 November 2010 : Hi im new to UK nd English so im trreible in spelling, plz dnt mind the mistakes :-D ,I was 18 whn i started dating a 28 yr old guy... A female reader, anonymous, writes 8 November 2010 : i'm an 18 year old girl dating a 26 year old guy. Its been more than a year and we are still going strong : The very first thing that attracted me towards him was his maturity. He never pushed me to do anything i didn't want. He's always telling me how full of life i am and how cool i am ; hihi. I get to learn so much from him and he gets to learn much from me. We are so in love. Best thing I ever did in my life! A female reader, anonymous, writes 8 November 2010 : I'm a 28 year old WOMAN and I'm dating an 18 year old male!!! We both look the same age, so no one suspects anything. I didn't know he was 10 years younger than me when I asked him out, we both look the same age and he is SO mature. Polite, respectful, considerate, I honestly thought he was 35 when I met him. He is in love with me. Oh yeah, and did I mention he's a model? A female reader, anonymous, writes 24 August 2010 : I am currently in a situation where i have been seeing a guy who is 26 going on 27 in january and im 18. I have been seeing him for a couple years now, and to be completely honest I love him more then anything. The thing is, we have been 'seeing eachother' nothing official nothing crazy out in the open, i dont hang out with his friends and he doesnt hang out with mine, but he is at my house EVERY night, He has his own place, but as i have a 3 year old son, I dont go out often. Therefore he comes here to accomodate my schedule and spends the night etc. He is weery about it, and i kno the age thing bothers him, because hes always worried about what people will think, my parents know about us and are happy for me, because they know im very mature for my age i got my first place when i was 15 and have lived on my own as a single mother since, i start college in the fall and am goig to be an accountant. I just wish that he would take it to the next level, hes told me he loves me, and i kno hes committed he isnt seeing anyone else, and is always checkin in and making sure im not seeing anyone.. But in all honestly, i know we are perfect for eachother, and would and could be together forever without any problems, i wish more than anything that he wwould just realize that, I want to tell him, or ask him rather.. But i am affriad to because i dont know what he'll say and i dont want to loose him either, id rather have him the way i do then nothing at all.. The majority of 18 year olds have a much higher tendency to want to explore the world hey we just turned legal where as the majority 26 year olds have for the most part figured out where they want to go in life and are settling down onto the 'routine of life' stage. I believe strongly in the saying that opposites attract. Dating me an 18 year old has really brought out the life in my boyfriend from when I first met him. We moved in together 7 months ago and have spent every hour of every day practically with each other. So, an 18 year old can definitely excite your life and show you ways to have fun. For me as the 18 year old in the relationship my boyfriend has given me stability and my calming effect when I return home. Most 18 year olds are mature enough to know what they want in life and a lot also seek fun so it definitely has the potential to be a great relationship like mine and his! A male reader, anonymous, writes 3 August 2009 : I read through all the comments, much good advice, currently I'm in a situation like this that i dont know what to do about it. I'm 24 going on 25 in 2 years, i met a girl about a year ago, who now is 17, going on 18 in 1 month. We were just casual friends for a long time and never thought anything would come of it, however, about 3 months ago we started talking and texting each other more, and as time went on, we talked more and more and more. We hang out almost every weekend now, and talk to each other every night, for hours. Neither of us has admitted any feelings for each other, and i dont know how she feels, but i have come to have feelings for her. I dont know if or what i should say, i also dont want to ruin a good friendship by making her feel uncomfortable if i do say something and she doesnt feel the same. I think if i do i should wait until she is 18 too. She's a lot of fun to be around, and noone has ever made me smile like she does. I was with my last girlfriend for over 3 years, and in only a short time, i have already had more fun, and smiled more and really felt comfortable with, than i had the entire time i was with my ex. A male reader, anonymous, writes 29 July 2009 : It's five years between my sister and my brother in law. It doesn't sound like much now when they have been happily married for almost 20 years and have 3 kids. She's 40 and he's 45. I'm the youngest brother in my family I'm 23. I guess it must have been weird when she was 18 and he was 23. But with patience the age gap will get smaller with time. And I guess if it's really true love it will last : I guess patience and mutual respect is the important thing. A reader, anonymous, writes 20 July 2009 : I am 26, and was dating a 16 almost 17 year old. He was very sweet, and we really enjoyed one another. His parents caught wind tho, and all broke lose. They threatened to call the cops on me. Unfortunately, I had to break it off with him because of what our families thought. So if you want to be with someone that age, look into all that may come from it. A female reader, anonymous, writes 31 May 2009 : i think it is not right to date or marry someone that oplder than you.. A female reader, anonymous, writes 30 May 2009 : I am a 26 year old female and I have never dated anyone that much younger then me. I do have a male friend who is 25 and dated a 19 year old. They broke it off because she wasn't mature engough for what he wanted. I think that you two should sit down and see where the relationship is going. It doesn't hurt to talk to her. I remember being 18 though and I wanted to be care free and have no boundries, just make sure you two are on the same page when it comes to your relationship. A female reader, anonymous, writes 14 April 2009 : hey there!! Ultimately, i told my mum first because she is a really understanding person. Of course, she had her concerns but she knew that i was a very head strong person and if that i honestly thought this is what i wanted i would go for it, so she supported me. Telling my dad seemed like the hardest thing ever - i was always daddys little girl. Suprisingly, he took it really well and now days him and my partner get along great! My partners parents were really supportive to, although his mum took a little while to come around. He had been through heartbreak plenty of times before and she wasn't sure i was as serious as he might be. The age has been a problem, i wont lie. It is especially difficult when he goes out to the pub and i stay at home i live in australia, legal age to go out is 16 , but we usually overcome this because i work evenings or go out to teen partys with my friends. Soon i will be 18 and he will be 25 and this is probably a time we are worried about. Because i will be 18 i will want to go out and party a lot etc, but im certain that we can get past it and make a compromise. I can honestly say i truly love my partner, and that age difference is rarely an issue. I was recently very sick for about 2 months i still am sick actually and constantly going in and out of hospital. To have someone there to support me and be with me was amazing, and something i wouldnt expect with a younger guy. We are very open with each other and express our emotions and opinions all the time. We fight like an old married couple but are the perfect fit for each other. Some people think its wrong at first, but even they change their opinion over time just by seeing us together. Another thing is im still a virgin, and after being with a guy 7years my senior people dont expect that. I feel that sex is a special and intimate thing, and although i dont believe entirely in 'no sex until marriage', i believe that even though i feel i am ready to experience it, that the longer i wait the more special it will become, and having a guy willing to wait for me is a blessing, and something that i wouldn't expect from any male to be honest!! I believe i will spend the rest of my life with my partner, its a bold statement, but i truly believe we were meant for each other. Our bond is like no other, and coming from broken families ourselves we wouldnt commit to each other the way we have so quickly unless we were certain that this was something special, and it really is. And its not only myself and my partner that have this opinion, family and friends can see that we are a perfect match and are positive we will end up together. I say go for it, maybe this girl isnt the dream girl for you, but unless you try it then you never know. My partner and i tried and have been blessed with true love and happiness because of it, and i would hate to see you miss out on that opportunity. A female reader, anonymous, writes 6 April 2009 : if you love her then go with your feelings.. A female reader, anonymous, writes 25 March 2009 : I am 17 soon to be 18 and my boyfriend of 8months is 26. We have been dating spending almost everyday together from July 13th till present. I am completely happy he treats me better then anyone and I think that has a lot to do with his age. Men tend to be more immature then females as it is. Relationships that work work because you both what the same thing in the end has nothing to do with age. If you both wanna party then great if you both want a family then great gotta figure that out for yourself! A female reader, anonymous, writes 15 March 2009 : You should go for it, love is simply love, it does not take account of age. Infact in Chinese astrology perfect matches are often many years apart e. Good luck and congratulations for finding love. A female reader, anonymous, writes 5 March 2009 : i think its completly normal... A female reader, , writes 2 March 2009 : I met my husband when I was 18 and he was 26. We got married 13 months after meeting and have been happily married since then. We have our issues like any other married couple but in the time we've been together our age has NEVER been an issue. Now I am 23 and he is 31 and we are expecting our first child together. So if you both want to.... A male reader, , writes 15 June 2008 : hey. A female reader, anonymous, writes 21 May 2008 : Well i just came out of a relationship with a 27 yr old guy. A female reader, anonymous, writes 17 March 2008 : im 16... Because as far as what I can say about dating and living with my 18 y. Don't get me wrong we do got our bad times but I've noticed about him he likes to talk it out and doesn't like to leave the house room knowing that we have a problem. A female reader, anonymous, writes 27 February 2008 : Well I am a 19 year old female currently seeing a 26 soon to be 27 year old male. He's a great guy, however i'm being realistic when I tell him im not ready for a relationship right now its not that I don't want to be in a relationship or settle down however at 27 years old. He wants different things then I do, i'm still young and being realistic, I want to enjoy my youth, go out, have fun. Could you guys make it work? Of course, you can make anything work. Just make sure you're both going into this with open eyes, because she might be into you now but at 18 she's just starting with freedom. Wait until she's 21 and can go out and do anything. A female reader, anonymous, writes 21 November 2007 : hey im a 16 year old who's attracted 2 a 28year old. We arent in a relationship cos i think ppl would b against this as they would think im immature at 16. But at 18 the age gap doesnt sound as bad, so i would personally go 4 it. A female reader, , writes 29 October 2007 : hi my name is Itzel im 18 years old and i like a 26 year old person... A female reader, anonymous, writes 26 October 2007 : wow, you should definitely go for it. The really important thing is that you are both on the same maturity level or else you will really have problems. I am in love with a 22 year old and I'm 18, I know I'd want someone to tell him to go for it if he were you. A female reader, anonymous, writes 10 July 2007 : hey i am a 15 year old gal and im dating a 20 year old guy.. A female reader, , writes 3 January 2006 : hi i am a 26 year old woman married to a guy who turned 19 just recently , we have our problems but none of them are age related, in fact i am the one in the relationship that loves to party while he is happy for once in a while and everyone thinks im younger when we meet people. A female reader, anonymous, writes 15 December 2005 : I am a 16 year old female in a similar situation. The guy does not feel as though our relationship is right, even though I feel that the only two that really matter is him and me. I just want him to be comfortable with our situation, and to not feel guilty if something does happen before we're both ready. We both have strong feelings for one another, and there is nothing wrong with that. When two people come together, sometimes their personalities just click and emotions just run the course from there. You can't always control what happens, so just embrace the situation and try not to worry so much. If it is really meant to be, your relationship will last and it will not matter what stage you are in your lives. My advice is to be supportive of where she is in her life, and let her know what is going on in yours. If you two listen to eachother and understand that your lives may be different, everything will work out. If you do this, it will not be anything to worry about when your relationship becomes sexual. A female reader, anonymous, writes 14 December 2005 : Back again- I'm the one who left the message below- 18yo met a 26 yo guy... Maybe we're talking about each other here!? Woulnd't that be a coincidence? Hey and call me soon! A female reader, anonymous, writes 14 December 2005 : You must let her know what you want. I am in exactly the same situation at the moment- I am only 18 and have met a 26yo guy. I really am mature for may age, but have friends that don't understand this, and I would like an open relationship wiht some1, maybe nothing too serious but just fun and monogamous. I want fun and trust at the same time.. I just hope that my 26yo guy wants something similar to me.. A female reader, anonymous, writes 12 December 2005 : I think it depends on how mature she is. When I was 18, I dated a 26 year old as well. I have always been far more mature than other girls my age. Because of that, we got along great and we have been together for a little over a year. I know that this all sounds like I'm putting down the young woman, but that's not the intention. I only say these things because I've BEEN that girl. Ultimately, I was seriously unhappy in the relationship, because I grew up to be a different person at 23 than I was at 18. So, if you decide to date her, keep your eyes open and please don't let it get too serious. Be aware that at 18 she's not going to have the same level of sophistication as you may have and as you might be used to, but that doesn't mean you can't teach her a little about relationships in the adult world, and both of you enjoy each other's company. And please don't just give in to your rampant temptations, without making sure that she also understands what kind of relationship you're after. A female reader, , writes 12 December 2005 : Ok so is your question what are the possible outcomes and results of you and the 18 year old girl getting together? Well first I guess it depends on what is meant by getting with her. Are you meaning to try a serious relationship? Or just more like a casual one, liek a fling? You say you can't retain yourself, is that because of the attraction? If so well then why not let it just be simply that, a fling, not an actual relationship, and of course both parties have to be happy with this so maybe talk about it to her first what you want out of it so that way the issue of you both being at differnt points in your life ownt interfear. I think you both need to sit down and discuss the issues. Discuss all the obsticles that will arise. There are sooo many issues you both can discuss and should do if you want this to work. I think it IS posible for it to work out, BUT you have to talk about it. You have to both come up with plans and compromises to work it all out. Do you get what I mean? It seems to me that so far this relationship is just dating and not to serious and you havent really expressed feelings of wanting to be with her for the rest of your life. So perhaps to save possible heartbreak, maybe dont get involved. I know you said you feel like you wont be bale ot retain yourself, but I think you can. You just have to tell yourself no. Keep telling yourself that. Ask yourself do you want to get inolved with a girl and get really attached then have to break it off becasue of the differences that wont let it work? So perhaps you would like to consider ending all the possibilities of getitng with her now, before you become so attached. I hope I have helped, im sorry if i havent. And most of all talk to her about it! What am I letting myself in for? Don't have an account? All Content Copyright C DearCupid. ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft.
