FRIENDZONE
DESTROYER
GETTING LAID WITH YOUR FRIENDS CAN BE EASY.
Contents
Chapter 1 - Introduction
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Chapter 2 - Why you’re friendzoned and how to fix it
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Chapter 3 - Limiting contact
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Chapter 4 - Changing your “outer game”
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Chapter 5 - The “abundance” mentality
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Chapter 6 - Arranging a date and winning her over
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Chapter 7 - Tips and tricks
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Chapter 8 - Conclusion
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C H AP TE R 1
Introduction
Hey, you. I'm talking to you. The guy staring right at me. I need to tell you something,
but you have to keep this just between us, okay? Don't tell any of your friends - especially the female ones - that you have this powerful tool. If they knew, they'd be really
pissed. Can you promise me that?
Okay, good. In turn, I'm going to teach you how to turn your female friends into lovers
or even girlfriends. I know, I know... You feel like you're not good enough, you don't
look good enough, you're not rich enough... I could keep going on and on. But does
that REALLY matter?
I'd like you to find out the answer with me.
I've gone through a lot of situations and I've come across countless obstacles, just so I
could improve and teach you all of this stuff - except, you won't have to go through the
difficulties.
I'm not going to give you some magic pickup lines to woo your friends and sweep them
off their feet. I'm not going to give you a bunch of fancy-sounding psychology-related
words, either. I'm going to help you find your mistakes and fix them and I'm also going
to teach you some powerful techniques to create attraction - even with your best
friend.
I want you to take baby steps; a lot of guys try to do it all at once and that's why they
fail. I want you to stand out from others and I want you to make a difference.
However, if you want to sit home all day and do nothing, this is not for you and I suggest you go back to playing your favorite online game.
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C H AP TE R 2
Why You’re Friendzoned And How To Fix It
First of all, you may have a few questions in your mind and I’d like to address the important one right now; is it possible to get out of the friendzone? Yes, it absolutely is.
Is it possible with every girl? That’s up to you to figure out.
Now let’s look at some of the most common reasons why guys get friendzoned.
Whenever you meet a girl, two important values - or emotions - come into play; attraction and comfort. Most guys don’t even know about this, so they end up building
comfort, when trying to build attraction - and that is why they get friendzoned; the girl
feels comfortable around them, but she feels no sexual attraction…So how exactly does
this happen?
Most guys - including you - think that being a nice guy is the way to a girl’s pants…
WRONG. I’m not saying you have to be an asshole (I’m sure you know at least one
guy who you consider a total jerk, but he’s getting some of the hottest chicks ever, but
it’s not because he seems rude), but there’s a reason why “nice guys finish last”. What
actually happens is that nice guys focus on building comfort with their behavior and
it’s often done unconsciously.
When a girl tells you she’s sad, what do you do? You start telling her how sorry you
are, you show her you’re there for her… What does this project? Will it make her think
- “Wow, he’s such a nice guy, I want to date him.”? NO. Will it make her think - “Wow,
he’s there for me and I haven’t even slept with him, I should friendzone him”? YES.
You have to make her invest in you - in other words, you can’t be the guy who is always
there for her, especially if you’re merely a friend to her.
When you get friendzoned, it’s often because you build too much comfort without
building any attraction and then you continue your “passive” behavior. It’s because
you call her beautiful, you do “cute” things for her, you make her feel important… but
at what cost?
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When you compliment a girl too much, it’s a subconscious way of seeking validation
from her and that’s a sure way to kill any attraction. Second, it shows that she is the
person with more value in this interaction and you’re of low value to her. Another reason why she has no attraction for you.
Instead, you have to build both - attraction and comfort.
Also, it’s very important that you set your goal first. What kind of relationship are you
looking for? Do you want to get laid with your hot friend or do you want to be in a relationship with your best friend?
There’s not a big difference between the two, however, in terms of psychology and
pickup, a relationship poses a huge investment on her part - she’s risking that she may
lose you, she’s choosing one guy that’s not even new to her over tens of possibly
more exciting - new - guys.
I personally suggest that you go for a friends-with-benefits kind of relationship. It will
be much easier and you both will benefit from it; you’ll be banging a hot friend and
she will be sleeping with someone she’s possibly known for a long time and feels comfortable with - you. Except, she won’t have to commit to you, meaning there’s no pressure put on her. The responsibility of a relationship is also taken off your shoulders,
but I’m sure I don’t have to explain what the benefits of such relationship are.
Another reason why you may be friendzoned is because you didn’t touch her early
enough or not aggressively enough. By that, I don’t mean groping her all over. But
things such as shoulder tapping, hugs and other “neutral” touches should be introduced early in the interaction.
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C H AP TE R 3
Limiting Contact
As horrible as it may sound to you, it’s absolutely necessary that you do this first. I've
noticed that with all the "friends" I’ve had success with, there was a certain point when
our contact was limited.
I’m not saying you should ignore her messages and calls, but if she texts you, give her
delayed and shorter responses, make it seem like you’re busy (or actually be busy, but
we’re going to talk about this later). Also, don’t text her first, unless you absolutely
have to ask her for something (whether this be school or work-related, and so on). So
instead of giving her long responses, make sure her responses are always longer than
yours.
Why is this important? First of all, it will show your friend that you’re independent
and, second, it will give you some time to take the other necessary steps. Another important thing here is the fact that by limiting contact with her, you’re making yourself
scarce and you’re raising your value - which contributes to building attraction.
You may be wondering how long you should stay without talking to each other. Sadly,
there’s no definite answer to that. It could be anywhere from two weeks to a few
months, but it all depends on the other person and how fast you can change and apply
the following steps.
You want to show her the potential inside you and you want to become a better person.
This has a lot to do with your attitude and how you view relationships. If you’re desperate to be with one specific friend and you’re dying to be in a relationship with her, letting her know so will almost surely get you rejected. Instead, you have to have the attitude that you don’t care if she ends up with you or not. It may not make sense on a
conscious level to you, but it makes perfect sense on a subconscious level to her, and
that’s all that matters.
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However, I highly suggest that you really don’t focus on just one friend, but rather two
or three friends that you feel attracted to. It will help you even if you’re more attracted
to a specific one and you’d like to be with her.
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C H AP TE R 4
Changing Your “Outer Game”
A very important element of getting out of the friendzone is changing your appearance. By that, I’m not talking about actually looking a lot better; I merely mean changing to the point where she will notice you’ve changed. Of course you should try to
make yourself look better if possible, but what matters more here is changing how she
sees and views you. Instead of being that predictable guy who’s had the same haircut
for years, try something new, something that she wouldn’t expect of you.
We want to give her a “Wow, you’ve changed so much.” kind of reaction. This element alone can trigger powerful attraction, because it demonstrates that you’re capable of making big changes and you’re not afraid of taking risks. This all comes down to
biological attraction triggers, which include being a successful risk-taker.
Another powerful trigger is staying fit. No, she doesn’t care how many times a year you
catch a cold. What truly matters is, if you take good care of your health. This can be easily achieved by exercising.
The point here isn’t getting a 6-pack or 20” arms; the point is changing your overall appearance and mentality that will project that you can make big changes. Still to this
day, I don’t have a full 6-pack yet. However, I’ve lost 45lbs through diet and exercise.
Has it helped me in any way?
Yes, it has. I feel more confident (which subconsciously affects my general behavior
in a good way, because I realize I’m an achiever) and people who haven’t spoken to me
for a few months no longer even recognize me.
Hit the gym as soon as you can and if that’s not an option for you, work out at home
and get your diet in check, as well. You will learn how to be disciplined and in control
of your actions, which are two very desirable and attractive traits, as well.
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Also, you should change the way you dress. It doesn’t have to be anything too dramatic, but getting a piece of jewelry that stands out should be enough - especially if
you can deliver an interesting story about it.
We want to achieve an outer change along with an inner change, so it’s important that
you change your looks in every aspect, including your body language. I’m not going
to describe everything in detail here, but I suggest that you learn how to project confidence through your body language.
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C H AP TE R 5
The “Abundance” Mentality
Just as the name suggests, you can’t feel like your friend “is the only one for you” - she
is not. No matter if you’re in love with her or not, there will always be someone who’s
at least as good as her - or possibly even better. And why would you want to compromise for someone who’s possibly not the best person that you can end up with? You
shouldn’t want that and you should also stop making excuses. You deserve better.
Period. You can’t make her feel like you’re putting her on a pedestal just because of her
looks or even worse, just because of your own feelings.
You have to show her that you can get other girls, as well. I’m not saying you should go
around, sleeping with every girl you meet. However, having a good social circle full of
female friends will help you on a biological level. Having a lot of female friends and
getting attention from girls in general will trigger one of the most powerful (if not the
most powerful) attraction switches, called pre-selection. It lets your friend know
that you’re “pre-selected” by other women, which - to her subconscious mind - means
that you possess qualities and values that are attractive to women and she doesn’t have
to go through the hassle of finding it out herself. In other words, she will feel attracted
to you almost instantly.
If you feel like it’s not right to get all of that female attention, you should think about it
again. And again. And again. Until you’ve convinced yourself that it’s alright and actually part of a healthy social life. Get used to being around girls, get used to teasing
them and all of your friends will notice that and they will be curious to find out what’s
going on, creating attraction in yet another way.
You have to stop seeing girls as something rare and scarce. Girls - and I mean pretty
and hot girls - are literally everywhere. You can meet them even on the street, so you
shouldn’t give girls unnecessarily high value just because they have a pair of boobs.
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Stop overwhelming girls with compliments, because it will make you seem needy and
that’s the last thing you want to be. Even if you say something weird, follow it up with
something funny and turn it into a joke - being able to make fun of yourself is a wonderful trait to possess and your female friends will love you for it. Show them that
you’re secure with yourself and when you say something, stick to it.
Once you feel confident around women, it’s time to let your friend know and feel it not just through your words, but also your actions.
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C H AP TE R 6
Arranging A Date And Winning Her Over
When you feel like you’ve changed enough - and hopefully you’ve been told so by a few
people - it’s time to show the new, better you to your friend that you’d like to bang.
When she contacts you (or if you haven’t spoken to her for a while, you can contact
her, as well), make sure to treat her like she’s someone ordinary.
Don’t be rude, but don’t seem to interested. Showing interest too early could ruin your
chances, so be careful. Simply have a casual conversation, except, tease her and try to
be funny. You should also mention - in a very subtle way - that you’ve made new female friends and ideally, you should show her (but again, keep it subtle and avoid being suspicious) - for example, if she asks you what you’ve been up to, tell her about a
recent event you attended and show her some pictures of it with you around new girls.
Once she’s in a good mood (hopefully, you’ve made her laugh), tell her you should go
for a drink (or something casual, that doesn’t mean spending too much time with her),
but give her a specific date and time, mentioning you’ll be busy at other times. If she
says she’s busy, ask her to suggest a date (or time) that seems fine for you both.
When you finally meet up, make sure to show her your sexual intent, but don’t be too
specific at first. Casually introduce sexual innuendo into the conversation and make it
seem like sex isn’t a big deal to you. Whenever possible, tease her and make it seem
like she’s trying to get you in bed, but that you’re not sure yet if you’d like to do so.
Remember - even if she’s non-reactive to your sexual talk, unless she displays
open resistance, she’s subconsciously accepting this kind of behavior and you can
(and should) continue to do so. It will create a sexual image of you in her mind.
A good way to project subtle sexual intent is to compliment her on her looks - but I’m
not talking about anything cheesy, or calling her “beautiful” and so on. Telling her she
looks sexy or “slamming hot” will make you seem a lot more confident and it will start
to project your sexual intent in the right way.
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If you’re doing well with teasing her and she’s enjoying it, tease her some more and
stop her for a while, saying you think you two should be just friends. No matter how
she responds (whether it be “Duh, of course we should” or “Aww, what a shame”), it
will be a powerful starter for her ego and it will turn her “competing” mode on. In
other words, she will try to prove to herself (and her ego) that she’s more than good
enough and that she can get you… let the chase begin.
If she manages to say those words first, fear not. It’s always about having a good response and being non-reactive. Girls will often give you so-called “shit tests” and all
you have to do is pass them. This one can be avoided by saying something along this
line - “I never said you could be more than a friend. You’d probably make a
horrible girlfriend, anyway”.
It’s also important to remember that a date is merely an opportunity to have
fun together, it’s not a “contract” that will turn you into a couple. It’s simply an arranged meeting, just like when you schedule a business interview - it doesn’t mean you
will actually get a job, but you’re there to show your best self. However, a very powerful tool is making her show you her best self - in other words, make it seem like she
has to win you over with her personality. Making her a little jealous is a great way to
make her work for your attention, as well.
Once you’ve got to this point, don’t be afraid to tell her how you like her honesty (or
whatever trait it may be that she’s trying to display to you) and don’t forget to reward her with some sort of touch - a simple hug is great.
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Tips And Tricks
If she tries to tell you what a great friend you are, simply ignore it and don’t react to it
at all. As soon as she mentions that you’ve known each other for a long time or that it
wouldn’t feel right to be more than friends, it’s best to say - “Hey, I don’t judge
friends like that. I can’t promise you to be just a friend, but I can promise
you that I won’t do anything you’re not comfortable with”. This line alone is
very powerful and it will increase your attraction even further.
Don’t seem too eager and don’t insist that you two spend as much time together as possible - in fact, it’s best that you leave the date when she feels her best. It’s the last emotions of the date that she will remember and those are the ones that will matter. If you
leave her when she feels good, she will start to see you as a positive and attractive person - this is the reason why they say “all that ends well is okay”. End the date well
and everything will be okay.
Don’t try to schedule another date too soon - give her some time to miss you and keep
working on your social life, health, wealth and other things that are important for you.
If you don’t get your life in check first, you won’t be able to attract anyone.
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Conclusion
This book gives you powerful tools for turning friends into more and building attraction inside your existing circles of friends. While it’s impossible to expect that you’ll
turn just any friend into your girlfriend, with time and practice, it is, however, possible
to bang most of your friends - especially single ones.
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