I am 26 years old... I met a guy two years ago through a mutual friend, we were in different states but talked on phone and chats.
We liked each other...or so it seemed. I liked him more though. I'm Igbo, he is from Bauchi and in the Military.
Fast forward to months later, after waiting to see each other to no avail due to his job, I had started taking my mind off him cause he appeared unserious.
Out of the blues one day, he came to see me at my base...and for him, felt like true love at first sight. Since the first day we met till now, I have not doubted that he really loves me...but I'm not so sure of my feelings for him anymore.
Main problem now, he asked that he would like to marry me, about a year ago...I told him its not going to be possible after a lot of thinking. Reasons being that my parents, my mum especially would never let me marry a man from Bauchi state and then his job.
My job would keep me away from home almost all day, to couple that with a man that's not home for weeks, that seemed a lot.
He left, got connected to a girl from his hometown, got engaged to her but we still kept in touch...cause we are friends.
Recently, I had problems with my last relationship, and after sharing my frustrations with him, this guy seriously wants to come back.
What do I do now? I know my mother's opinion about a Bauchi man would never change... I can't even tell for sure how I feel about marriage to this guy...and I have told him severally that I Dont think marriage is possible for both of us...
But he still insists on us trying to work things out, says he is ready to sacrifice us so we both can be together! And his proposed wedding date to his fiancee is this December...
What do I do? He keeps saying I'm holding him back from making a decision!
