The way and rate at which our brain processes things and ideologies are different. For some it comes with age, while for others, it might be with experience or exposure. Once a lady is in love, a whole lot of things are overlooked. So many important things aren't discussed. The attraction and the feeling of being in love makes one think that irrespective of what comes up in the future, we will weather the storm.
I really don't have a problem with people getting married, hoping for a better tomorrow. Nobody goes into marriage knowing fully well that it will end in emptiness and frustration.
The thing is, when the emptiness and frustration comes, what next? People are made to live in terrible situation because of the society. Having made the first mistake because of society, it is time our society comes to term that it's ok to undo. Life is lived only once. Why Should I be miserable because my pastor says 'God hates divorce'. or because 'people will think I have a terrible character that men cannot put up with'.
I am not clamoring for a reckless life. I am not saying let's get divorce rate up the roof. All I am saying is, even after mistakes have been made and it seems to be a dead end. Let's separate as friends. Do not take the next decision thinking about other people. Be selfish for once and live your life. Do not just exist. You deserve to be happy.
If your husband hasn't slept with you in 3years.Please what are you waiting for? You cook and clean in exchange for rent cause really, he is just your landlord. Live your life and be happy.
