By on November 1, 2013 in Recently, my wife posted , which has received many comments from readers wondering what the wife list looks like. Sometimes we just have to learn the hard way. Earlier this week, I wrote the article about keeping you visually focused on your dreams. Should we be specific about the woman we want to marry? However, make a list with long-term vision. They are characteristics of a woman we want for one night. When you find her, she is more valuable than anything. Here are 10 qualities of good future wife material: 1. Your potential wife should share common beliefs with you. She makes you a better man If everyday is hell with her, that should be a red flag. Your potential wife should elevate you to Yourself 2. You can get a good idea from your friends and family. Do they say you act differently in a bad way when you are around her? Not a good sign. She should bring out the best in you, not bring out heartache and frayed nerves. She has ambition She should have strength in character and carry herself with confidence. She should have plans too. In fact, she should be a hard worker just like you. One of my friends is a stay-at-home wife with three kids, and she works harder than any of my friends with careers. Look at the way she treats her family and her friends. If you start dating her, much less marry her, you will discover why soon enough. Some questions to ask yourself: Does she care about causes? Does she go out and volunteer? Does she give change to the needy or buy them a meal? These are important characteristics to consider. Personality plays into attractiveness big-time. She should be wise, smart, and give you good advice. I look to my wife all the time for advice. Does she flake all of the time? She should already do a good job of managing her own life. Ultimately, she will have some part in your financial well-being, and guess what? Finances remain one of the leading causes of divorce. Marriage is a joining of two lives that existed prior to meeting the other person. When it comes down to it, you know what you can handle. Love can overwrite any of the qualities above, but having these qualities will certainly make your lives easier once you are married. Even with this list, both of you are still going to bring some kind of baggage into the relationship. First start with yourself. Check a few boxes off. Make sure premarital counseling is a huge priority once you find her. My wife and I did a relationship bootcamp in addition to premarital counseling. Throw everything but the kitchen sink at the most important decision you will ever make. I loved this Kris! Divorce is taken so lightly in this present day. Hosea married a prostitute… And yet despite her cheating and unfaithfulness, he remained faithful to her. Yes, yes, and so many more! And yet, He did honor it. To say some commitments are not worth honoring is to miss one key thing that Kris wants us to see… Before you get married, throw everything into your premarital counseling because that is the time when you will realize whether or not you will have a relationship in which you can honor or you will struggle to honor. Quite obviously, there are some things that permit divorce abuse etc , however for the majority, in the beginning it was not meant to be. Check out Mark 10 especially vs 5. Adultery is indeed a biblical reason for divorce,. That being said, you should try everything possible before resorting to that. I run divorce intervention classes. There I discovered the need to begin and end every gathering with definitions of or challenges to have the right kind of commitment. I think you nailed some of the key ideas and liked it so much that I decided to reply without reading more comments. He trains, learns and sacrifices all that he has and all that he is for what? To give it all away on behalf of his team and his country. He is loyal to his team members to the point of torture, capture, or death even if the team member does not uphold the code. He remains loyal until his commander removes that person from the team. He does whatever it takes to get that team member back on board. Subteams, like sniper units, go even deeper. If you are a sniper, you cannot afford to give up on your spotter, no matter how despicable he-she becomes. You are mates until the commander takes them away from you. Chaca Zoulou, you do realize this is a blog run by a Christian couple, right? But Christianity teaches that God descended into his creation and became a man Jesus , precisely so he could be like us. He showed us how to live. Jesus could not handle a wife. I like jesus fine. Mohammad comes closer but his rules for women are egregiously disciplinarian at least as practiced. And Krishna subdued KALI… go back to ISIS or Astarte? Actually the allowed to divorce for infidelity was to be for habitual infidelity. If your spouse cheats on you comes to you admits it and repents. You may have the right to leave but I would strongly encourage you if you can stay get counseling and try to make the successful. I think its important to remember these are reminders for what to look for, not a list to judge our spouses by once we commit. Communication and forgiveness not keeping accounts are two of the great keys to a successful marriage. We
