99 Dating Tips Part VI
61. You are not in a relationship yet on your first date.
This is one of the most important things that you need to remember when you go on your first date. You are not in a relationship yet, since you don’t know each other that well. Thus, put some boundaries when it comes to sharing stories. Aside from that, you should also avoid acting like you are your date’s girlfriend or boyfriend, since that would just scare them off.
62. Know your limits.
You limits can sometimes tell you who you really are. Therefore, it is best that you become more aware of it. Aside from that, when you know what your limits are, you can always do something in order to go beyond it. Just make sure that you stay within the boundaries, so that you could still be able to portray the person that you really are.
63. You are worthy.
If you are awed by the presence of your date, you should take control of yourself, by knowing that you are indeed worthy to be his or her date. By doing this, you can become more confident of yourself. Aside from that, if you end up having a relationship with that particular person, it would create a balance between you, which is also very important.
64. Enjoying dating does not mean you have to be blind.
You don’t need to be blind in order to enjoy dating. Many people have a tendency to meet the needs of others, in which they become blind and forget to see their own needs. Thus, it creates an imbalance in a relationship, which is not healthy. Therefore, you should always keep an open ear and an open mind in having a relationship. This way, you would be able to have a relationship, which is not one sided.
65. It is not a requirement for you to be interested when someone is interested in you.
You could easily tell if your date is genuinely interested in you. However, this does not mean that you also need to become interested in him or her. When a person shows an interest in you, you don’t need to reciprocate it, if you don’t want to. This is because if you force yourself into doing that, you would just be lying to yourself, and be misleading the other person.
66. Finding your type.
When a person says that his or her “type” is this or that, it means that he or she has some preconceived ideas about the person who he or she is attracted to. However, if dating your “type” does not provide you a fulfilling and healthy relationship, then you should let go of your preconceived ideas, and become more open minded about dating.
67. Don’t date someone who only communicates through text.
If someone is talking or communicating to you only through text messages, then it is best not to stay in constant communication with them anymore. This is because, in most cases, he or she is seeing you as someone who is good for just a booty call. Thus, it is best to go out with persons who respect you enough to contact you by giving you a call.
68. Do your research.
No matter how the other person shows you how he or she is interested in you, in which he or she initiates the first steps to get into a date with you, you should not be complacent, and still do your research. This is because, you don’t really know what their intentions are. With thorough research, you can feel safer in dating the person, aside from the fact that it can also help you see whether he is attached or not.
69. Ask questions.
Before going into your third date, you should know whether a person is still trying to get over an ex, is married, or has just been separated. To achieve that, you need to ask questions regarding all of these. If you can’t do it on your first date, then make sure to do it on the second date so that you are assured that you are not wasting your time on him or her.
70. Don’t cloud your judgment.
If you focus too much on the achievements of a person or how much the person is earning on a monthly basis, it can lead you to make incorrect conclusions about people. Thus, you need to look pass that, so that you would be able to see what the person is really made of. Talk to your date and listen attentively, so that you can see the real person inside.
