Do you know the consistent thing about telling little white lies, or any shade of lies for that matter? As you keep laying on thick your rendition of the facts, the inconsistencies and contradictions stick out, prominently, like a puppy in a horse race. How do you love a man you never dated, according to you, with your heart? Then under the same breath, you make a dramatic somersault by admitting you were seduced by his money?
Straight talk? Honey, you in love with the flamboyance in the way he flashed his "wealth". Judging by your own words, you are from a financially humble background and, probably, dreamt of hooking up with a wealthy dude who would make your dreams come true. Unfortunately, the maxim "all that glitters is not gold" came alive in your situation.
Is it just me or did someone else also get the whiff of scorn from her writeup? Did she walkout hoping he would run after her but instead she was rudely shocked back to reality when he moved on so swiftly to another? I'm sorry but I don't see her as the martyr type, willing to die to protect someone else from making a similar mistake.
I actually did a double take when I read her "advice". My brain was having immense trouble processing those words. I hoped it was either a typo or she made a slip. I was like "surely she couldn't have meant 2 or 3 DAYS?! Nahhh! I'm guessing she meant 2 or 3 months, which is still too soon." Imagine my surprise when the perceived error was cleared by her next words "preferably a WEEK before you say yes to his proposal" Wow! But come to think of it, should I really be surprised?
Stellz, I agree that SOME people get married days after they met and they are still happily married. However, the dinosaur in me always comes out to play when such matters come up. Such people are the "lucky" exception to the rule and it's quite a risky move. Personally, I wouldn't advice anyone to get married to someone they haven't dated for at least 18 months. Hey! Relax guys, this is strictly my opinion. I admit, this period of courtship is no guarantee of a successful marriage because people have the unique innate ability to exhibit certain behavioural patterns they managed to hide for years. Some people date for 5 years and get married only to be divorced a year later. There are no guarantees in life, but if you give it some time, certain character flaws begin to creep out.You can then decide if the red flags are issues you can cope with or if it's smarter to take a bow. If baby girl had dated this dude a little longer, perhaps we wouldn't be reading this. It's best to do your due diligence and know as much as possible about a person you hope to spend the rest of your life with. A man who really loves you wouldn't leave you because you asked to take things slow and enjoy your courtship before rushing to the Altar.
