Who wears the shoe knows where it pinches. And the only person needed to validate your decision is God because man can fail anytime - as in this case. From my observation, there's a diminishing number of people who trust their own guts and instincts - especially women. And a constant attack on women who actually do, by insecure men/women. And many people are cashing out on it in various ways.
One key aspect is marriage and relationship. Too many insecure women. First, they say they want love from a boyfriend so they try to please him, next phase is to make him marry you even when the cap doesn't fit him because men are 'scarce' and 'time is not on your side' and 'the devil you know....', afterwards it is to keep him faithful to you because of side chics and possibly start praying them away - even when they only exist on your head and the man is human-size penis. So they are running helter skelter seeking advice on this and that to make it 'work'. As if there are actually any rules. There are a certain group of people that must cash out from such levels of insecurity.
