How to Outsmart eHarmony By , March 1, 2011 My God. My eHarmony subscription is paid up through June. According to my eHarmony Conspiracy Theory, they therefore began padding my daily matches with the sort of men who, to be frank, made me think that spinsterhood might not be such a bad idea after all. First it was one or two duds every day. Then three or four. Then, last month, nothing but duds, and even then the deluge of vertically challenged, linguistically challenged, entirely- not-for-me men eventually slowed to a sad, steady trickle. At last count, I was receiving only two or three matches per day. So I decided to outsmart eHarmony. And it was genius, because it worked. Can you imagine, for example, if I were to start writing about my online dating endeavors, and all I kept saying was how I was getting matched up with one fatty after another, or how every girl I came across was an uggo? We are obviously more concerned with looks that you are. However, before you start calling names, think about the irrational leaps you are taking. Just because she values physical appearance does not mean that that is all she values. Nice try at defending outright, plain-as-day bigotry, though. Who Here is my story and dictum toward Kat Richter and eharmony. I put myself through undergraduate at Oxford University while modeling and riding race horse. I continued on with my fellowship at Cambridge and was decorated with a PH. While traveling in Moscow Russia for a photo shoot I met the love of my life, Oxsana. She was also a model and had a station of 6 feet on the dot. Very tall is really the point here! She was modeling for Ford at the time and had a MS degree in organic chemistry under her belt as well. Yes, some models are very savvy. We got on well and married, which lasted for 18 year until she passed away from cancer. As for me, I am a highly educated man, have good looks, take care of myself and I am well off when it comes to my monetary prowess I only have to work because I choose to work. I have two wonderful children as well, a boy and a girl. In my home we speak English, Russian and Polish and we have a home in Moscow and Krakow Poland and live in San Francisco as it is our home base city. I am a very reserved man, have many interest and love being a father to my children. I can tell you all I dislike pretentious people as well and I come from a humble wellspring. In other words, I worked hard for what I have. Even though I made legions of money while being a male model in Europe plus riding horses for some extra lolly. When you couple that with a Graduate degree in Clinical Neurosciences, she would rather date a man that is taller than I, just because he is taller. She could care less what is on the inside of a man or what and man has actually achieved. The word shallow does best fit Kat. After reading her little essay, it was easy to conclude that she is shallow. But she is not the only one. I have had a profile up on eharmony for 8 months now and I created my own profile that reaped no joy no dates. As a last ditch effort I ask a close and dear friend to my late wife to create my profile with me two months ago and still no joy. I am completely being ignored, not a single response, ZERO! But, three weeks ago I met a French women, owner of a local restaurant here in San Francisco and we got on well, first date was great and we are on for a second date this weekend. It is really sad and pathetic if you ask me and Kat is the norm, not the exception to the rule. The entire emprise on eharmony for me was an etude into the shoal minds of American women and I say this as an American man, born and raised in the USA, but educated in the UK. Who, Well said…with the exception of a few things. That is the truth and quite frankly it disgusts me how close-minded people can be. Second, to group all or a great deal as you put it American women into the category of shallow is wrong and extremely judgmental of you. While EVERYONE out there is shallow to some extent yes, probably even you , I do NOT consider myself a shallow person and pride myself on the fact that I am open-minded and always give guys I meet a chance regardless or height, etc. I also agree with you that eHarmony is a joke and a huge waste of time. I mean look, you closed your eHarmony account and already found an amazing women without hiding behind a computer screen. Who, sorry for your loss and I wish you and everyone else on here the best of luck in their quest for true love. Who, it will probably infuriate you even more. The European sounds wonderful! Also, I was a pro ballerina at one point many years ago and had been dancing since I was two. I know all too well the body issues that go along with this industry. It took a very long time still is , but I too am finally coming to terms with the fact that I do look pretty damn good without that skinny mirror. I always love hearing from others who were in the same boat and are learning to love themselves and the way they look. Large, tone calves look awesome in heels! One of them main reasons why I love wearing them. I heard enough comments over the years about my body not being good enough gotta love the dance world! Best of luck to you. The European and I did in fact meet online, about 3 months ago at this point. I wish these kids would realize they are all beautiful, but sometimes only time, experiences good and bad and wisdom will allow them to really realize how being tall can be a great thing. Even I had issues with my height once I started sprouting. All your students should go audition for the Rockettes. They would feel incredible about their heights! I danced for the Charleston Ballet Theater in Charleston, SC. Very small contemporary ballet company. So I went to college for something completely different. Also I auditioned for the Rockettes once as well and they totally under-measured me too! Who I can only lend commentary on what you wrote here in this blog, Kat. I felt very quizzical with respect to why it came to pass that not a single women replied to the questions I sent out. I tried bypassing the questions as well and still nothing. So the interrogative side of me set an urge in motion to find out what the flip is wrong with the women on eharmony, hence I ran across your thread here. The fact of the matter is there is a big delta between American women and women around the world when it comes to interaction with a man. Your words in the blog you started here confirm what I wrote like it or not. Everyone has a change of heart, I have had a ton in my life, but I would be willing to bet my home that you would never date and marry a man that is my height or shorter than I. On the other hand I could actually see you dating a man much taller than you but not in the turnabout. As for me grouping American women into a selfish soup of sort. There are hoards of cultural anthropological studies that echo my very view of American women as a whole. Men are flocking overseas at alarming rates to conjoin with women. This is something that is a rather new manifestation. In my case, it was not planned or contrived to marry someone from another country, it just happened. The revers is also turn when it comes to non American men. American men tend to treat women much more equal and respectful as as opposed to men around the world. If I were gay, I would run for the hills when it comes to dating an man from another country. If you like being a slave date and marry a man from the Middle East, excluding Israel. You would get a total change of heart from me if you were actually dating a man that is really short. There is an old saying in the south, talk is cheap and actions are dear. Here is a bit of human history for you as well. For the most part men have been short over human history. It has only been in t
