When people first meet me, they assume I'm a confident extrovert. But the truth is, I'm actually a super shy, awkward person who's learned how to fake it until I make it. Eventually, I learned to pass for someone with social skills, even if inside, I'm freaking out. So, how do I pull off this epic ruse? I formed a list of , at a party, at a work function — basically anywhere, because this tactic works in just about any situation. The thing is, most people really just want to talk about themselves, and if you ask about them, and then actively listen to their answers, they will do all the work for you. Joke's on you, because I'm actually a weirdo who just asks a lot of lighthearted, open-ended questions. This worked especially well on first dates, where my nerves were even worse. If that sounds like you, then experts agree there's no shame in preparing, just in case there's a lull in the conversation. So, what makes for clever first date questions? Focus on open-ended, light questions that make the person think a bit, but that will give you some insight into who they are. After all, that's the point of a first date, right? If you need some inspiration, here are some ideas to get you started. Want to know what someone's worldview is, and how their ideas are shaped? Well then, this is a great way to sneakily get some insight — and maybe learn something new in the process. It may also be a deeply personal story that can help you get closer. Everybody has that story about that time they injured themselves jumping off this or running toward that they're just dying to tell. Plus, it'll most likely be a funny one, so you can get a good laugh in without hurting their feelings, of course! And feel free to share your own embarrassing injury story, too! It might make your date feel more comfortable, and laughing at each other, together, makes for some great bonding. Plus, it gives them a chance to humble brag a little, and who doesn't like to do a bit of that from time to time right? Truly, the most important thing is just to ask the question and be an active listener. Another reason to ask a lot of questions on the date — aside from just making it less awkward for you — is that is also makes you a great date. And getting to know the other person on a deeper level will help you know if you even like them, or want to go on a second date with them. Your feelings are just as important as theirs. Just make sure to have some second date questions at the ready. You know the drill. Check out the for more stories just like this!
