You see this lady and those experiencing domestic violence I don't know if they need a magic wand to transfer sense to them. Anyway I think its this mentality of " you said I should leave him then you owe me a boyfriend/husband". Time has a way of taking care if things if you like leave now if you like do nothing but you see this your guys spec? You will eventually leave and it definitely won't be what you want to do and then you'll be bitter at him. Being in a relationship does not validate you, of course its great to have a companion that you do things with but bad company isn't better than no company. Nobody should make you feel they are doing you a favour by being with you.
