Depends on how Christian really. For instance, I have some friends who still identify as Christian but still do a lot of questioning of beliefs and aren't at all strongly religious. Stuff like that is fine with me. Basically, it needs to be possible for me to mock parts of the bible and certain religious beliefs without offending them, and they need to not believe in any of the fairly conservative Christian values. And of course they have to be fine with me being non-religious. Discussions about religion are fine, but not actively trying to convert me. I dated a fundamentalist Christian woman once a little over 2 years ago. It was a horrible mistake. I almost had to take out a restraining order against her. When I told her I was an atheist I thought she knew she flipped out and started throwing things at me, ordering me to leave her home while at the same time blocking my exit. It's one of my biggest deal breakers. I don't tolerate religion on any scale. If he's not agnostic or atheist, then I'm out. A persons spiritual beliefs often heavily effect their morals and outlook on life. If a relationship is going to succeed, both partners should be on the same page about those things. I've tried, and even though it seems like a minor difference, it ends up weighing on both parties. For him, he thought I was stupid for NOT believing in it. And the worst thing is, trying to use logic with Christians is like talking to a brick wall. An atheist dating a christian is just not a good partnership, nor is it something that can be ignored easily by either party. I see what you're saying. In some cases, I'm sure the issues are pushed. In my case, the issues weren't pushed nor did any of us intentionally bring the topics up. I found that avoiding the conflicts stemming from a difference in beliefs-- is MUCH easier said than done. It might not be a problem short term. But long term it can be. And nothing against religious people, I just find that eventually religious people eventually begin to long for a theological connection with their significant other. And when the other person rejects it, and rejects their God, it presents a bit of a conflict. But hey, go ahead and give it a try. You might be the exception. I've been in a relationship with a Christian and someone who was not religious but believed in a higher power of some kind. Most of the time it isn't really a problem. BUT I'd imagine it would become a major problem if the couple decides to have kids someday. That's the MAJOR roadblock in that type of relationship. I really liked how I was raised in that regard. My parents come from two different denominations but aren't religious so they decided to raise their kids as neutral to such things and it was up to us to decide what we wanted to believe in. Kids are very impressionable and the beliefs they're taught are usually the ones they stick with throughout their lives so I wouldn't want me or my future wife to push them into one aisle or the other. I'd want them to be more flexible and unbiased towards these things. I'd be open to teaching them about the Bible and whatnot only if we could teach them about many other belief systems as well. I'm a firm believer in being exposed to as many ways of thinking as possible before making a decision or if people don't want to make a decision or feel like there isn't a right or wrong about such things that's fine too. I would just want my kids to have the free will to go about that as they choose. If they ever came to me with questions about different belief systems I'd do my research and try to give as unbiased of an answer as possible. I kind of don't think it's a parent's place to decide these things for their kids. I know not everyone feels this way and that's fine. I'm a firm believer in letting a kid choose his or her own likes and dislikes and passions that they want to chase in life. I'd assist and guide them the best I can along their journey. If my hypothetical Christian girlfriend had no problem with that neutral middle ground instead of competing for belief supremacy then we're cool but I'm not sure how common that is. It could be quite a minefield to navigate if one chooses to push them to either side. I'm a non-fundamentalist Christian and I wouldn't date a fundamentalist Christian. Basically, being a Catholic in the bible gets leads to you catching as much flak as if you were an atheist. I guess since they believe God is all good, then his enemies must be all evil. It is some pretty messed up logic, but a lot of people feel that way. I don't think most Christians are anywhere near that bad, but the few that are, scream so loud it makes the rest of them look really bad. I beg to differ. As a born and raised Bible belt resident, former Southern Baptist, and former president of my local atheist group, I can assure you that Christians more specifically evangelical fundamentalists are far more distrusting of atheists than of any other group. So in my area, your faith has a huge impact on how many people view you, no matter how good a person you may be. Only older Christians have much an issue. For me, I support not forcing ideas on each other. I dated a few athiest girls and we were fine in not forcing each others beliefs on the other. Sure we slipped up a few times but nothing big. The problem was that her moral base was looser than mine, and she wanted to do things I wasn't a big fan of. Over time we just kind of got distant because of it and decided to break up. I wanted to wait till we got married to have sex, she didn't. She decided to find someone else. Evn if the girl was ideal looks-wise, and had great personality as well, then i would HAVE TO reject her because she's a christian!! There are so many different types of Christians that the word Christian is nearly meaningless. It just depends on the type of Christian that woman is. Some Christians accept gays, some don't. Some claim all non Christians will go to hell, some don't.
