1. Don't forget to take care of the relationship
At the beginning of the relationship, it is easy to show yourself as a detailed person, say compliments, do activities with your partner, etc. But as the relationship consolidates and the years go by, the frequency with which these gestures appear tends to decrease.
In extreme cases they even disappear. Don't forget that your partner has needs and wants to feel loved. If you want the relationship to work, it is important to continue showing your affection and value that he is by your side and that you are the one chosen to be part of his life.
2. Have a realistic view of your relationships.
Many people have developed an idyllic and utopian vision of what a relationship is, and sometimes they are not aware of how this affects their own relationship. Thinking that love is a paradise and that the relationship must be perfect 24 hours a day and 365 days a year is not a realistic option.
Relationships go through ups and downs and being aware of this is key to being able to provide solutions and get out of these potholes. Unrealistic expectations create tension and make it difficult for members of a relationship to be happy as a couple.
3. Spend time with your partner
If in this busy society, in which we can end up stressed just because of having a lot of work, it is already difficult to find ourselves and have a single moment of relaxation, it can be even more difficult to have time to be with the couple alone .
If it's not work, it's family occupations (like having to watch out for your children). To be happy as a couple, it is necessary to organize time to have some time alone: without pets, without children, without interruptions. Spending intimate time with your partner is health for the relationship.
4. Spend time with yourself
But if spending time with your partner is important, it is also important to spend time with yourself, doing the activities that you like and meeting your own needs. There is nothing wrong with having motivations separate from those of your partner. This is also healthy for the smooth running of the relationship.
5. Be honest
Sometimes it is difficult to be honest about some things for fear that your partner will not share them. The truth is that people value honesty, and being seen as a sincere person is much better than being called a liar. Lying causes confidence to be lost, and afterwards it is very difficult to regain it.
6. Communicate
Communication is essential for the couple to be happy, since dialogue helps create a life project together, enables difficult situations to be solved and discussions are constructive, and allows the members of the couple to express their needs. For a relationship to work, you need to negotiate, compromise, and compromise.
7. Respect the other member of the couple
It is impossible for a couple to function in a healthy way without respect and trust. Love is respecting and trusting the other person. So respect her opinion and her needs, because relationships based on jealousy and disrespect are destined to fail.
8. Love from freedom
And of course, treating the other person with respect means loving them from freedom and tolerance. It is not about imposing, but about dialogue and reaching agreements. Everyone wants to be treated with respect and freedom, and although there are people who put up with almost everything in a relationship because they are too dependent, when one of them exercises power over the other, the relationship becomes toxic.
9. Keep your balance
There may be things about your partner that you don't like at all and there will surely be things about you that the other party will not like. Nobody is perfect. Doesn't he hug you the same anymore? What if you talk about it and, in addition, you also do your part to make these hugs happen. Sometimes we waste a lot of time thinking about what we want instead of thinking about giving.
If you ask for something, you must also offer. In relationships there must be balance, sometimes you will give and other times the other person.
10. Make your partner your best friend
Lasting relationships are those that are based on free love and trust. Of course, attraction is important, but in successful relationships there is something more: there is a love that goes beyond physical attractiveness. Make your partner a great friend, with whom to share hobbies.
