That, my friends, is what separates the most successful online daters from the rest of the pack. Now I'm dating a great girl and have closed my Match account. To be honest, this guy could have ended the email by insulting her mother. Moreover, we file that each girl you communicate or chat with is single and really looking for a serious relationship, real love and marriage, not just for having fun. Stick to neutral hours, like lunchtimes and early evening. Religion is always a bit of a minefield in the la game and you really need to be careful not to offend anyone or risk being offended yourself. Great money, tons of fame, you know the deal … Then I skinned my knee when rollerblading. The Three Sentence Rule Three sentences are all you need to file in a first message—this establishes your interest and initiates conversation.
Note from Alex: Another guest post, this time from a good friend of mine — Sebastyne from Australia. She has a lot of experience when it comes to online dating, so take what she has to say seriously! Sebastyne, the word is all yours. As Alex is concentrating on offline dating tips, I offered my help in the online dating arena, as that happens to be my specialty. I joined a dating site the year 2000, met my husband online in 2004. It took me a good 4 years to find the man of my dreams. For a girl, it means a flood of absolutely ridiculous emails, and this is where I come in. To start with, I want to set straight a common misconception about online dating. It is not JUST for losers. The great thing about online dating is that it gives you a lot more options. It will bring you people who you would never meet in your normal life. That is one reason why it is a great extension of dating options for people who are quite picky — such as myself. Unfortunately, like someone said, to find your prince you have to kiss a lot of frogs. He believes in advertising to wide range of potential buyers. The problem he will face is that the girls will instantly know if it is a mass email, and will be put off, his email will get deleted and she makes a mental note that this guy is a moron. That will not make him look good. This is intended to protect the identity of the sender, but really just makes him look very superficial and quite silly. He may add details of his annual income as if to make a point about why it would be wise to sleep with him. The most disturbing thing about this type is that he will attach a photo of his genitals for the mere joy he has them. Those are the biggest and most common mistakes men make on dating sites. It is fairly easy to stand out from the crowd by putting a little more effort into the email. To do it right: Read her profile. Every word of it! Girls are excellent at writing dating profiles. They will give you a lot of information about what she is looking for and why, how she wants it to come along and so forth. Some sites allow linking to a website, if that is the case; check her website for even more information on how to approach her or what she is like. It shows that you are interested and most men skip this part, so you will come out ahead. Instead of introducing yourself, talk about her A lot of people start an email by telling the reader who they are. Instead, write about her, why exactly did you find her interesting, and why you wanted to contact her in the first place. That makes her feel like you actually do mean to contact her and not just any girl. I immediately thought I must write to you, as I recently bought a Ferrari. It might be animals, computers, philosophy or other topic that is common to you, bring that up. Avoid clichés at all cost. Tell her what you want Be honest in your email. If you want a casual relationship, say so. If you are not sure what you want, tell her that. If you just expect someone to talk to or what ever you may be after, tell her. That will save both of you time and heart ache. Pretending is never good, as you will appear sleazy and that will not get you far with most girls. Include your photo — of your face No matter what you look like, always include a photo of yourself to the email or on your dating profile. It is more important to show of your face than it is to show of any other part of your body or your motor bike, so make sure there is a good photo of your face in there. Do not use drunken party photos. As amusing as they may be to you, the girl will think that is when you are at your best — not a good sign! In addition, avoid too serious business type of photos; unless you are after women who will love you for your money — this is not a job interview. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT include a photo of you surrounded by women or a photo that you cropped an ex-girlfriend out off but still leaving her arm around your neck. Take a photo without any specific theme to it white background and casual clothing or doing something you love or with something you love, like your dog. You might be apprehensive about adding your photo. I have a few reasons why you should have one up though. Are girls different online than offline? They are not in any way different online. The only difference I would bring up is that online girls know what they want; all you have to do is to find out if you are what they want. Let me just repeat that one important thing: Read the profile. Back to Alex: That was a long one! Hope you enjoyed it. Lets start a discussion in the comments! Do you have any experience when it comes to online dating? How do you approach women online? Is online dating any good? Lovely images by Martin, and.
