However, if our girlfriend is still talking to her ex-boyfriend that is most likely going to brew up some trouble. This will give you the expert information you need to make sure you act sooner than later and avoid getting your heart broken. Nobody likes to go through that. Maybe she just never got closure? Perhaps she wishes she never broke it off? In fact, she may even be confused herself about what she is thinking and feeling. When he leaves, she might keep on talking about him. Or perhaps ramble on about things they did together. And if you catch her smiling to herself, you are going to have to sit down with her and have a serious talk. If she talks lovingly about him or acts like he is still her best friend, you best be careful. Girls pull this all the time. So lame but true. Think about it for a minute. She keeps contacting him If any relationship is truly over, both people usually just stay away from each other. Regardless, if your girlfriend is texting or calling her old boyfriend, you need to pay attention and have your alert on. All you need to do here is observe. If your girlfriend seems to care at all when the conversation comes up about her ex and another girl, then you need to please tread carefully. Perhaps you are that dreaded rebound man? Girls have a tendency to get sneaky from time to time and your girlfriend just might be using you to try and make her old boyfriend jealous. Time for you to think about what you truly want, need and deserve. Your girl is trying to meet him Perhaps, she might tell you it was an accident but she might very well have planned to bump into her ex. Maybe she knows where he tends to eat and hangout and happens to show up there frequently. Keep your mind open here but play it smart. If suddenly your girl wants to be friends with her ex because he has nobody else, you need to keep your guard up. Ask yourself if you really think her love for you is the real deal? Sure, she might tell you she loves you but is she really showing you that? The ex-boy toy is trying to get in contact with your girlfriend This is definitely a disrespectful no-no. What about your heart? Seems like she is suddenly extremely moody This is where she might seem distant and moody after she sees or hears from him. She might also prefer to be alone and happy with the thoughts in her head. The final straw is demanding some space for you so she can figure herself out. That is the reddest flag there is. You can have patience and understanding but you need to know where to draw the line. What you need to do is have an open and honest conversation with her. Tell her what you are thinking and feeling and see what she has to say before you jump to any conclusions. But rarely does it ring true. Truth — You never ever completely fall out of love. Another issues is that we tend to look at our past a little more positively than it might be, likely because when you distance yourself from the negative, it naturally seems more positive. Just makes it ultra difficult. Time To Set The Precedent You need to show this girl that you are the hunkiest, toughest, hardest or most-sexy crazy guy ever. This means she is vesting herself in you and more likely to stick around. It means she has deep REAL emotions for this man and might very well still have them. Logic and emotion do not physiologically mix. So if a girl is emotional about a guy, she might not make any sense. So how do you stop it if your girl is still stuck on her ex? First off, woman have friends for social reasons, security, convenience, and ones that might be potential partners. Seriously, Why Is Your Girl Keeping Her Ex In The Picture? Trust me on this one. She has specific reasons and you need to pay attention to each one. This could be a tough pill to swallow. Think about this for a minute. She can be hung up on the past or open to moving forward with new. Perhaps you might need to call her out on this one just to get it done pronto. This one is just plain scary. Newsflash — The reason she is keeping her ex in view is because she seriously believes one day they will be reunited — Period. Think About How Her Ex Influences You Here are a few routes your girlfriends ex influences, by being still in the picture, according to experts at … 1-Shortened time-frame for hopping into the sac. You need to sleep with her faster than he did. So if she slept with him after date 3, you better make it happen by date 2. The faster, the better here if you are serious about getting into the heart of this girl. This means you need to captivate her fast and furiously. Balls in your court now. This means you are being compared and you either rise to the challenge or slink away with your tail between your legs. Think about it for a minute and take action. If your girl is still connecting in any shape or form with her ex-boyfriend, then she is not really committing to you, as much as that might hurt. Having a girl with just one foot in the relationship is not a good thing. Half-hearted is not what you deserve. Take action and believe in that. Sure, you can take every precaution in the world to prevent a girl from cheating on you but ultimately you really have no control. You control you and nobody else. And if your girl has an ex on the side, the chances of her falling back into his bed in time is of serious consideration. Ex-boy-toys are trouble and they introduce a threat no guy should have to face. Just think long and hard about this one please. So How Should You Deal With Gals That Are Connected With Exes? The answer is not to go beat the living crap out of the guy. She has to do that all by herself. Here are a few pointers to protect yourself when your girl is close with her ex. If you know how to have fun with a girl without getting your heart squashed, then go for it. On the other hand, if you are going to seriously fall for this girl, you need to not open that door. Bottom line…Most girls that are still in connection with their ex, are going to eventually break your heart. If you can accept this, if you are okay with this, then by all means fast forward past go and collect the 200 bucks if you wish. Nice guy or not, you will finish last here. Final Words Most of the time, there is nothing good about your girlfriend talking to her ex. What you need to do is step back for a minute and think about how much you really feel for her. Understand that if she is still feeling for her ex, you will never have all of her, as much as that hurts. You need to take action and take care of you. Put two and two together. You deserve to have a girl that loves you for you. Understand that and accept that, and make the decision you need to make for YOU. I dont normally leave reply on blogs, but after reading each word, I have to say thanks. Thanks for simply speaking about what actually happens. And it hurts that men have to suffer the consequences. Especially if you always cared for them for years. And you have already fell for her. Now she will talk about him and she will play the victim. And you will fall for it. Go find a real woman that has her life together. I have tried to make contacts with him to come back home yet he refuse, each time i look at his kids i become more sad and i needed him at my side to raise the children together. I was so lucky i finally got the help i needed, i went on a search and i saw Dr Mack contact. People say he is a very powerful spell caster that he can put an end to relationship problem, causes that disturb destiny, he is also good in curing different diseases. He is such a special man gifted with powers and reliable spell caster that have a cure to most problems of life. My husband is back to me and we are living happily as it used to be, Dr Mack have done what i could never have done with my own powers. It really clicked for me and I thought she is the one. But, after doing my side of enquiry, I got to know that all this while she was also in touch with her ex with whom she had a 7 year relation she told me about her relationship but not that she was still in contact. The guy got married 3yrs back and has a kid too, however this girl is still in contact with him makes me think twice. I confronted her with proofs and she agreed, apologiesed and said there are no feelings for him. Despite knowing all this, I am still wondering does she deserve a second chance and I am overthinking OR I have known too much that may affect our future if we carry on? Struggling big time at the moment. Had an idea my partner for three years to this day started drifting back to her old ways. In which she had Bing nights with her ex. We were doing great until I had a shitty dream. Came home one day, bloke was washing her hair. I was like wtf. She wants to be with me. Please help Many thanks hey i see you seem to be replying to a lot of people and i need a lot of advice at the moment this might get a bit long-winded. I just need some opinions on the situation anything will help but guys please just be reasonable with me im very delicate at the moment haha thanks Hii, i have been dating a guy for the past 3 mths. I am 37, he is 33. I asked him to see his phone, and found out he was also sending decent photos to a girl on fb.. What should I do? Hi, Thanks for putting up this article and giving me some pointers about the potential red flags to be aware of in my current relationship in less than a month. We have been seeing each other two, three times a week promises to keep each other inform where we are at through messages. So far so good except when she started to tell me about why her past relationships even though I said at the beginning let the past be past not to discuss it to start anew. There were four exes, first guy start after university wanted to marry her but she rejected for her career. Second guy lives with his parents was to immature in her view with no savings and no planning for the future with her. Fourth one broke up 3 years ago had a long 7 years relationship are still friends despite he already with someone still comes to her help do repairs in her house. Apparently the story goes he insulted her feelings when she pick the engagement ring that he thinks was more to show off to her friends. I told her I will feel jealous as I have feelings too and she seems to understand. For my part I have completely cut off with my ex and my current girlfriend do agree that we lost time in our youth and not wanting muck around if we find the right person. We lived 45 minutes drive apart which is fine by me, but properly too far in her mind. But I think distance is immature if it still in the same city. Am I just being the guy for her to fulfil the lost in her past? Should I be upfront and insist she should cut off her contacts with her ex or I will just move on? She kept telling me they phoned her to see how she is occasionally and that she has nothing to hide. Should I trust her that she know her boundary when repairs are done at her place by her ex? Is she just wanting everything her way? I have found this article interesting for sure. I have been with my girlfriend for 2 and a half years now. Throughput the time I have discovered that she has been communicating with an ex. She showed me the message and I discovered all of the text have been deleted other than her statement and his reply. Why would they all be deleted then? Should I be looking for more truth or just move forward? Yeah, seems a little suspicious since she has deleted all of those messages. You should talk to her about it. I have 1 choice I feel at this point. Ask her to speak to me further about this communication hoping she will be honest with me, providing me with some sence of understanding in order to communicate forward. I hate having to follow my gut…lol Trust her or not? If you love someone 2 and a half years is not a short amount of time then you have to trust them. If not, remind yourself why you picked such a person to be with. Why would she be with you for 2. What if she hid those messages because she knew you would feel hurt looking at them and she was trying to protect you? Or are choosing to see only one side because you want it to fail? Women are emotional and hormonal. If you love her, love all of her. You should break off the engagement until she decides on what she wants. If she respected you, would she still be doing this? Think about that for a few minutes. You are close to marrying a woman who DOES NOT respect you. Try it for yourself. Go out and meet women. Give them your contact info and see how many do contact you. There are literally millions of single women waiting for men to talk to them. Just go for it. I am a lesbian and my girlfriend and i met when she was still in a relationship with another woman. She nevet cheated on her with me. We just knew that we had feelings for each othet so they broke things off and a couple months later we got into a relationship with each other. We have been together 8 months now. We had an argument last night and she tells me that she contacted her ex just to see how she is doing. I am finding the timing of her communication a bit strange. Been cheated on twice and am very untrusting in relationships. Wondering if this is another red flag and i need to run. My girlfriend was honest with me about their communication but i am wondering why she felt the need to contact her. Anyone have some thoughts on this? Perhaps, after the argument, she was hurt and wanted to talk to someone. Or she started doubting if she made the right choice for breaking up with her ex. These are just speculations. It might have been an innocent conversation. However, if she starts communicating with her on a regular basis, then this would be a red flag. Hi Kate, Me and my girlfriend have now been together for 7 months and I have always got the feeling that she is not completely over her ex. He did not want to take no for an answer and was still in touch with her. I told her that I thought it was inappropriate and she cut off her ties with him. Now he reached out to her again and asked to meet up. He recently blocked me on social media and a common friend to all of us asked if he wanted to meet up with all of us four and he said no because he did not like me. To me it is obvious that he wants her back, but I do not know if it is my insecurities coming back. I gave her, her space and she came back. She is still not certain what she thinks but I know she loves me 100% sure. Please tell me how to deal with this and approach this. My gut tell me to let her go, but I want to be in a longterm relationship with her and we have a great thing. She was dumped by her ex about 2 months before we started going on dates and cut her out of her life and deleted all of his social media but now they are back in contact with each other and she says they just only talk and were good friends before their relationship. I know I want to see her still but the ex constantly makes me paranoid because I know she still loves him and the only reason he broke up with her was because she had a problem with his drug use. Do I continue trying to work my way to boyfriend status or do I just leave her alone? Hi I really appreciate your blog. There were so many red flags that I completely over looked. My wife as had on and off emotional relationships with her ex, emails,live chats,phone calls and when I was away she was actually staying at his place. We are currently married and she still is in contact with her ex. She refuses to make friends with other healthy women and will only be friends with her ex and others that she may have been involved with in the past. When I try to talk to her about how this may hurt me,she accuses me of being jealous or bitter. Hello, i really appreciate this. She was hanging out with a married man. Then she told me about the chat and i told her to stop. She told me she had. Then one night, she just came up, crying and begging. Telling me they made out. It was hard to forgive. She promised heaven and earth. I forgave and was trying to build the trust. Then within a month, she told me her ex is begging for a come back. She said they saw but she wanted a closure this would be the second closure. While we together in the same hotel, this ex was calling so she blocked him right before me. So i did a tech digging and found out they were chatting. This ex even asked her to wait that he wanna call her and she said he should in the next 5mins. Trust i was building just shattered the more. She would most likely not change her ways so you would have to be okay with that or you would need to move on. Previously before getting with my ex she was dating a guy who she was close friends with… but he decides to date some else at the time they were together. During our relationship he would continue to like her social media which made me feel anxious at times. Anybody else been in this situation??? Hi, i need help basically, ive been dating this girl almost four years now i never suspect any changes between the two of us. 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