I have concerns about my son dating a Turkish girl Tagged as: , Question - 15 September 2011 9 Answers - Newest, 6 April 2012 A female age 51-59, anonymous writes: I've got two children, a 17-year-old son and a 22-year-old daughter. We went on a family holiday to Turkey last month for 2 weeks, and it was pretty much great - Mediterranean sun, beach, breeze, cool air, etc. However, you normally hear about English women running off with Turkish men. Not in my case. My 17-year-old son has fell for this Turkish girl, Tulay, who's 19. He told us she genuinely loves him and wants to be in a relationship and wants to move to the UK too in the future; she says she doesn't want to fit in with the Islam culture there. He's told us he wants us to go back over there so he can introduce her to us and meet her parents too. After all; I hope they are not as dramatic as the ones we have heard here, about old English women travelling for sex tourism trapping poorly uneducated young boys... Secondly, please try to be less prejudeced about people because of their origins and where they come from. It is like because they are both Christian, Italiens and Russians share alot of things in common! Most of people carrying scarfs and practising religious activities in Turkey are also have Middle eastern backgrounds... But honestly if your son is asking you to go back and meet her family, it might really be love. Don't alienate your son by shutting down the idea that their affection might be genuine. Goodness, they're inviting you to meet her family afterall! You've said that you're confident that she's not looking for a meal ticket. What else might you be concerned about? A female reader, , writes 15 September 2011 : i can understand your concerns, if they ever have children and then they split up she could take the children back to Turkey, but really i think you are worrying a little prematurely here, they have known each other for just a month and have spent two weeks in each others company, there is nothing to suggest that this long distance relationship might just fizzle out before anything serious happens anyway. Very family oriented and mature girls if you wish to compare! Some of my American friends have Turkish, Persian or Lebanese wives and overall everyone is so happy with his choice. A female reader, anonymous, writes 15 September 2011 : What is so tough about this situation? I'm not understanding what you mean. Maybe you can elaborate how your son and your family is being put at risk by this Turkish girl. How come she is such a threat? If you are so fearful of this, why let your son spend all that time with her alone in a foreign country and you have no idea who she even is? Maybe you can explain this better because it doesn't make sense why you are concerned NOW. A reader, anonymous, writes 15 September 2011 : I honestly don't see he problem of your situation. You should just be happy for your son that he likes this Turkish girl. I do understand that your worried incase she's just interested in coming to this country and just getting a passport. However, you should get to know her yourself and be able to reconsider this aspect of their relationship. If they have only been together for a weeks, I would tell your son not to get too carried away though. I mean, it takes a long time to get to know someones true colours rather than a few weeks. A female reader, , writes 15 September 2011 : I don't know what kind of horrors you've heard about Turkish dating. Maybe I am too far away in Canada to have heard these stories, but as I don't know what you fear, and can't help until I do. A male reader, , writes 15 September 2011 : I see nothing wrong at all with it. Let them do whatever make them happy. I am English and engaged to a Spanish girl. The only problem I would have seen is the religious culture, but if they are not practicing and are happy about the relationship, then I really don't see a problem. Of course as parents, you have every right to worry and have doubts. But I think if they are truly happy with each other, I think it's important that they have both families support.