There is a lot of negativity surrounding American girls online, and I honestly find this rather surprising. Yes, of course some people will have bad experiences with dates. But to generalise these assumptions, and often stereotypes, to the whole American population is unfair. Chelsea and I have been dating for a year and a half now, and it has been the most exhilarating, wonderful, exciting and special year and a half of my life. I would not trade it for anything, and I would do anything to spend the rest of my life with her. So, these are my own responses, from experience, to some of the most commonly discussed traits of American girls online. American Girls Expect Perfection There is an Assumption that American Girls Expect Perfection One criticism that is constantly levelled against American women, is that they expect perfection. American girls are painted as delicate princesses that expect men to wait on them hand and foot. But, in my experience, this does not hold true at all. Chelsea and I do our best for each other, and try our best to make each other happy. To be completely honest, I feel this criticism reflects much worse on the men that make it, than their partners. In any relationship, you should be striving to make your partner happy. You should be aiming to be perfect for them. What does it say about the men who they complain about this? Perhaps that they have not found the person they are looking for yet. Or perhaps, that they cannot take criticism. Either way, in my experience, Chelsea does not expect perfection. They Love Accents Accents Are Attractive! This, from what I have experienced, seems to actually be somewhat true. Perhaps it is the novelty of hearing something new that makes accents so appealing. After all, America is a big country, so to hear an accent from across the pond, or somewhere even more exotic most likely feels new and exciting. Even here in the UK we find accents from different parts of the world and even the country attractive and exciting. Just as many times as I have heard an American amused by the English accent, have I heard a Brit amused by an Irish accent. Of course, sometimes the language barrier extends beyond just a new way of saying words. There are some words that are completely different in the US, and some that have entirely different meanings. This is something that adds to the charm, and the fun of international dating, even if you do both speak the same language, there are still subtle nuances to learn and discover about each other! Both of these are extreme stereotypes that completely polarise a hugely interesting and diverse culture. It was, at first, surprising to discover that these stereotypes exist, and are so prevalent. But, fortunately, I have yet to meet anybody who fits into either of these categories. Chelsea is a confident, educated, and passionate person, who could by no means be described by such extreme language. While I have met people with strong, sometimes extreme, political and social views, that is not her. And it is a huge injustice to portray the majority of American girls as such a small extreme. There is Nothing Special About Them Chelsea is the Most Special Person in the World to Me Once again, this completely baffles me. To me, Chelsea is the most special person in the world. She is funny, smart, talented, beautiful and extraordinarily kind. I imagine this criticism comes from a handful of scorned men, with somewhat limited dating experience, and have become bitter towards all, based on the actions of a few. It is very easy, from a few experiences, to label a group of people as the same, yet ignore the diversity within the group. I also think that people with this view tend to fall into the trap of feeling that the grass is greener on the other side. A foreign girlfriend or boyfriend may seem like a more attractive idea because they are exotic and new. I have found the person I want to spend my life with, and she just so happens to be American. They Are Expensive Empty Wallets are a Common Complaint I see a lot of men online complain that their American girlfriends suck the money out of their wallet. From the first date, the man is expected to pay for everything. The concept of going Dutch splitting the bill is not even an option. And, from there on out, your hard earned money will be spent on trying to please your girlfriend rather than anything else. The issue that I take with this is twofold. The first, is that it makes American girls seem helpless, and unable to financially support themselves without a man. This is an extremely outdated view, and from my experience not true. Chelsea is independent, and financially savvy much more so than me in a fair few cases. She works hard for her money, and will often not let me pay for a meal. My other issue is that I believe strongly in the idea of chivalry. Nobody should pay for a meal or anything because they are expected to, but should because they want to! Most of us would rather eat whatever is put in front of us than face talking to the wait staff and asking for another. To Americans, Chelsea included, this is not the case. She knows what she wants and she is not afraid to say it. The best description I have ever read for it, is that dating an American is like going through life with a puppy. They are excited, and happy to talk to others. Personally I agree with this, and it certainly brightens my day. It is not to be confused, however, with being loud, brash or obnoxious. I am sure there are some people that are, in every culture. But American girls seem to have developed a reputation for it. One I cannot say I have ever witnessed with my own eyes. Chelsea is confident, and enjoys talking, but she is certainly not brash, obnoxious or rude to others! Men, particularly American men, seem obsessed by the concept of game. It is some kind of weird, intangible chat-up line infused, pick-up art. And, to be completely honest, I find the whole idea a little creepy. It was even her who said that she liked me, not the other way around! It seems to me as if game is a very easy excuse for men to blame their rejection on. I am sure we are stronger for it. American Women Are Superficial The Selfie is a Relatively New Trend Selfies. People level a huge amount of criticism towards American girls on how superficial they believe them to me. But again, in my experience, this is not at all the case. Chelsea cares more about those around her, and the animals that she works with than the fashion or lifestyle choices of a distant celebrity. And she most certainly does not have a checklist that men must pass to date her. My point is, it is easy to say that all American girls are superficial, but in reality they are not. The popularity of celebrities, and the superficial qualities of women are often perpetuated by the news and entertainment industry. They create tropes shortcuts that can often lead to false assumptions. I believe that very few American women are as superficial as they are made out to be. This one particularly bugs me, because honestly, Chelsea is by far one of the smartest people I know. She chose a profession that she loved dog training and has pursued it with all of her energy. She regularly attends seminars on behavioural psychology, neuroscience, communication and business. Of course, that is not to mention that she is always aware of the latest news and world affairs. To suggest that all American girls are naive and stupid, is something that I find ironically pretty naive in itself. Chelsea is easily one of the most intelligent people I know, and I am proud of all that she has achieved. Another assumption that I can agree with. Yes, in my experience, Chelsea is very upfront and honest. That the purpose of dating for her was to find someone she wanted to spend the rest of her life with. At first, this took me by surprise. I am not used to people talking this honestly about their feelings or intentions. But, I am glad she did. I think it is a quality that promotes openness, honesty and in general leads to a much healthier relationship! In conclusion, what should you take away from this article about dating American girls? American girls are a huge and diverse population. Chelsea and I are just one example of an international couple, who found love across the pond. We would love to hear your experiences about dating in America as well. Do you agree with this article, and have you found the one for you yet? Let us know, and start a conversation in the comments below! And to read more about our our story and how we met, check out this. Thank you for sharing your story, we both love it!!! There are a lot of negative stereotypes about American women online, but it sounds as though you have an amazing fiance! I wish you the best of luck with your wedding, and visa application too at some point I imagine! Girls in general, not only American girls, love a man with a British accent and you made a very good point in saying that loving or hating a certain accent differs from person to person. I think you and your girlfriend are an extremely good couple and wish you the best of luck! Maybe we feel better when we are blind to the truths. Perhaps I was lucky when I found Chelsea, she is an amazing person regardless of nationality. But this article was simply written to express my personal experience, as I have read many both positive and negative from American men about foreign women. Sometimes as an outsider looking in, I feel that we can be fooled rather easily sometimes, and not realize it before it is too late. Anyways, good luck and congratulations, brother. I wish you the pursuit of happiness. You have a beautiful girlfriend but if u choose to marry her u need to understand that marriage is for love and divorce is for money. Anyway the way u described your gf sounds like everything like my gf now. I can say things about Italians, Chinese, Brazilian, French, Greek etc. There are plenty of American men and women who a great, open minded just like you said people — and I know many of them. I do not rely on any man to get what I want out of life. I work hard for my money, and I pay my bills on my own. I never saw my husband as an opportunity to make my life easier or more comfortable. I met Chris while he was a student at University and had hardly any income — while for some women in any country this can seem unattractive, I did not let that influence me on how I felt about him. Yes having a career and a stable income is comforting and brings on security — it is not everything. I chose to marry Chris because I love him, and for better or for worse, if I continued to earn more than him for the rest of our lives, that I would never leave him for it. My husband and I do not live together at the moment — nor have we ever, but we should be receiving a decision on our visa any day now so that I may move to the UK to be with him. We chose to live in the UK at the start of our married life because he has better work opportunities there, but he was never against the idea of living with me anywhere else in the world. I have given up my career in America — tossed away my good and reliable income to be with him. As a dual national to Canada, I have known for most of my life that I did not want to reside in the US forever. For over a decade I wanted to move to Canada after I completed school to live and work, then remain there for the rest of my days and start a family. Canada is still on my mind and one day we will move there together. There are no rules in life. I can say things about Italians, Chinese, Brazilian, French, Greek etc. There are plenty of American men and women who a great, open minded just like you said people — and I know many of them. I do not rely on any man to get what I want out of life. I work hard for my money, and I pay my bills on my own. I never saw my husband as an opportunity to make my life easier or more comfortable. I met Chris while he was a student at University and had hardly any income — while for some women in any country this can seem unattractive, I did not let that influence me on how I felt about him. Yes having a career and a stable income is comforting and brings on security — it is not everything. I chose to marry Chris because I love him, and for better or for worse, if I continued to earn more than him for the rest of our lives, that I would never leave him for it. My husband and I do not live together at the moment — nor have we ever, but we should be receiving a decision on our visa any day now so that I may move to the UK to be with him. We chose to live in the UK at the start of our married life because he has better work opportunities there, but he was never against the idea of living with me anywhere else in the world. I have given up my career in America — tossed away my good and reliable income to be with him. As a dual national to Canada, I have known for most of my life that I did not want to reside in the US forever. For over a decade I wanted to move to Canada after I completed school to live and work, then remain there for the rest of my days and start a family. Canada is still on my mind and one day we will move there together. There are no rules in life. Part of the reason this blog was written was to break the negative and unfair stereotype surrounding American women. Also, while divorce may in some cases be about money — there are a lot of other reasons people divorce. From wanting to find happiness, to finding themselves in bad circumstance. Chelsea and I got married because we wanted to and it is what will make us happy. Everyone is different, no matter what country you are from. I have dated American and Non American women and it is a big contrast in attitudes and how I was treated. Your girlfriend stated that she gave up her income and career to be with you and start a family. Now this sound sweet and selfless until a series of bad things happens and ya decide to get a divorce. For someone who is 37 years old, you sure do know a lot about women all around the world. What are your credentials in dating and relationships? For someone who is 37 years old, you sure do know a lot about women all around the world. What are your credentials in dating and relationships? U mean my experience? I would tell you that the women I have talked to in Europe tends to be more friendlier and easier to connect with. The way ur man described you sounds like everything how my gf is…. But the thing is I had to go thru a ton of women, in the states, just to find someone like her. If I was in another country I would have met many women like my current gf at a faster rate and less of headache. We dedicate our free time to answer their questions or concerns based from our experience and our knowledge in the topic. Are you currently going through any visa application process for settlement in the US or UK? At the end of the day, we all want to be with the ones we love. I wish you and your girlfriend all the best in the world. U mean my experience? I would tell you that the women I have talked to in Europe tends to be more friendlier and easier to connect with. The way ur man described you sounds like everything how my gf is…. But the thing is I had to go thru a ton of women, in the states, just to find someone like her. If I was in another country I would have met many women like my current gf at a faster rate and less of headache. You have a beautiful girlfriend but if u choose to marry her u need to understand that marriage is for love and divorce is for money. Anyway the way u described your gf sounds like everything like my gf now. So happy for the two of you. I will also add that I find that a lot of these generalization come straight from American men. Not all men, but many. He loves me for me, and I him. If I accept a date with a guy, most of them make me feel as if I owe them something afterwards. I have a job, and all the days before you, I fed myself! I have many girlfriends that are married to wonderful American men. I promise there are many amazing ones out there that could be your potential life partner. I do think it is a great shame that a lot of American guys and girls completely write off finding a partner in their home country because of a couple bad experiences. It sounds to me as though you have a completely balanced visa — and your situation is actually strikingly similar to ours. The time difference is never an easy part — I imagine the difference between Australia and the US is quite large as well. In the meantime, if you ever want to be a featured couple on our blog, you can drop us an email at. We like to feature couples every now and again to showcase LDRs and international relationships that people are making work, enjoying and working towards closing the distance. I think it revolves around being seen as having access to the fittest and most socially approved of the males, then later on as their looks fade the wealthiest. But foreign women do not do this selfish denigration of flirty guys. At least not to the degree that American girls do. American girls seem to reserve their contempt specifically for male suitors in the dating world. American girls enforce these social bubbles so strongly that you have males who go for years never talking to one. You read about them all the time on discussion boards and how American women demonize them and treat flirting as some sort of unpleasant breach of their fantasy world. American women totally deny access, foreign women encourage you to earn access. I recall seeing my friends get shot down with extreme prejudice by American girls who treated them like they smelled like rotting onions or something. The girls would make faces, swear under their breath or laugh in their faces. Oftentimes the girl would run away as soon as the guy asked them to do something together as if he were a monster. These were all American girls. It was as if they put up an impenetrable social wall that served to protect their dignity from ugly men, of which apparently was about 70% of the guys. They would not look you in the eye when you talked, they would give one sentence answers and they had this odd habit of condemning a guy through gossip if any other girl rejected him or if he dated a minority girl. Gossip was how the females controlled who talked to them for the most part and using this mechanism they would often craft parties and events that only invited the chosen males. Most of the guys at school would hear about these parties days after they occurred because the girls would organize them so that only the hunks and drunks showed up. This was where most of the orgy sex stories came from too. They would do this in front of crowds specifically to insult the males who had no girlfriends, again it was another variation of mocking the non-elite male. They openly ridiculed most of the males around them by being off limits, cold, dismissive and cruel. The worst part about it was that these girls were beautiful. Most of them were white girls you wanted to lose your virginity with, but they ended up being these icy divas from hell who talked down to you. Foreign women at least have the decency of respecting your opinion and will talk with you. American girls only respected the hot guys, the metrosexual white guys and rarely the basketball black guy. American society has given the females carte blanche to treat other guys who want to have sex with them as villains. In this regard American women have earned their ghastly reputation several times over. LOL, just kidding mate. Ive got an all American woman and she is the real deal. Republican gun loving, BBQ making, burger loving babe. Typical weekend; Friday night, bar with mates, Saturday gun range, afternoon BBQ and beers, Sunday Church and Roast. Sunday night movies and or romantic walks. Just do your share of the work and one day lets open a winery, with shooting range of course.
