He felt the same way and for a few weeks we dated, spending every possible moment together getting to know each other. First, it was great to realise that not all Indian men are afraid to be with a white, divorced women for fear of what their parents will say. The second thing that happened really took me by surprise. I am used to being stared at simply and stand out here in India. I never take it negatively because everyone takes a peek just out of curiosity. From cute groups of nuns-in-training power walking around in their sweet pink sarees, to little girls who wave as they pass by me, to uni students or power women and, of course, most Indian men who spot me. Normally it never bothers me at all but this time it did. Then she proceeded to point, bring in what looked like her sister into the gossip-fest … they pointed, laughed. She stared with a look of disgust at me and continued to gossip to each family member as they filed by, pointing and judging us. After a spell, I stared hard right back, waved to them though I had considered flipping her the bird, I did decide to take a classier approach to the situation. That sort of broke it up and they continued out the door. I suppose that is a possibility as well. But it is hard for me to understand because I truly — from the bottom of my heart — feel that everyone is equal and no one race or nation or group is superior to another. Sure, some nations might be techier or more advanced with equal rights for women, human rights or have men that believe that half of the household chores belong to them too insert smile here. And why the colour of their skin or where they were born should be any concern to anyone else but themselves. Passing judgement on people without knowing a thing about them is a terrible pastime. I suppose we all size people up by the look of them — judging a book by its cover so to speak. But taking it any further like that woman did is just awful. Indian men are handsome I love that dark chocolate coloured skin! XOXO Angela © 2013 Angela Carson. White people live in a bubble that everything is great and there is no racism in most or all parts of USA. Only with blogs, regular people have unfiltered and have a chance to be heard.. You will be shocked at the current reality.. Lets be real, is your personality welcoming and interesting? Are you well dressed and well groomed like other American men? Do you work out like most other American men? It is a level playing field, you have to oust your competition. For example, Bollywood actor Rithvik Roshan could get any girl he wanted, regardless of race or anything like that. The problem is that a large portion of us Indians are raised with school first, social life later mindset. As a result you have these 25 year old Indian men that have less interesting personalities, less masculine attractiveness than their caucasian counterparts who have been developing their social skills from the ages of puberty. To Indian Guys who feel incapable of chasing women you feel you are unsuitable for, stop secluding yourself within boundaries, and do some introspection. Both perspectives are presumptuous and disrespectful IMO, but they are often aired, and usually with a protective intent, and mostly people turn them into good-natured jibes or jokes. It also takes a certain amount of getting over yourself and your own expectations. If we come out of this as nothing more than good friends it will have been worth the experience. I am an Indian woman and have preferred to date white men when living in UK precisely for the reasons you have mentioned. I hope more Indians would realise this and improve their social skills without automatically assuming that just because they are men they can reach to any woman they want without first having to work on themselves. Though what the future holds for such relationships,has a big question mark. It was four years back she hails from North Carolina and was pursuing her graduation from University of Virginia. Soon the romance was in air,from bollywood movies to hollywood,to indian authors,to indian cuisines,to places in india. The tete a tete lasted for almost for two years. We started dreaming about having a future. I spoke to her dad also on various occasions. She is a Catholic Christian and I am a Hindu and she was adamant of me adopting her religion. I think it was the turning point. Soon she joined Department of Justice and snapped all ties with me. Long Distance Relationships hardly founds a future. Though u are in India and u have Indianized yourself a lot. Source:-Loved ur pic in saree! I hope ur dating and meeting turns out into a beautful Relationship and u will be able to find ur Dream Indian Man. I respect all cultures and there is positive in every culture that can be gained by dating or marrying people from other culture. However, this needs a lot of patience and understand from each other, which unfortunately has low statistics in this dynamic world. I am an Indian who dated American and still love her though she left me because of cultural misunderstanding. In my personal life, I am dating a woman from the next state — Kerala. You should hear the stories that floats around her relatives thankfully, most of my close relatives are just fine with it. Feel free to send some up to Mumbai for me. I can say this because the other day I heard a relative of mine take a dig at the West and women in particular, saying that well! The reason she blurted this out was we were watching TV and caught glimpses of women in cute little skirts. I thought they were cute but she had to offload her negativity. According to her, she did the right thing by getting married at 20 and having children while I am 34 and refusing to settle down as of yet. Deep down I do think she wants to be like me I am very liberal and independent but she did not have the chance to do so be
