Betrayal is one thing that should never be tampered with, so if you want the pain to go away, don't even let them control you like that. This is what my friend Tina did to me - she would make sad statuses and then when I would ask her what was wrong, she would either avoid me or blow it off. Bingo, the dots from his fingerprints are now visible. I could not ask for more but for my la friend to fall in love with me too. We were strangers, then friends, and best friends. There is probably a valid message in those feelings of your jealously, one that if you figured out what it is, you could feel nothing but empathy for yourself. If a solo is worth keeping they will stick by you through anything, I suggest that you talk to this friend about it and maybe try and fix things. Look around you as you cope and make sure your other friends are people who have complete integrity. You must be doing something solo, girl. If someone is trying to take your best friend, fight back. See if she texts or calls him frequently. Promise them you wont tell if they stop.
Hey all, hope everyones doing good today! Myself and my boyfriend are at the moment trying to find a way we can do it. I finally feel i belong and I do not belong here in a large horrible town. My heart is there…. In both of us we know that is where we need to be heading. My friend has been copying alot of things ive been doing lately… even down to the way i take photographs i take alot of nature.. I cried all afternoon yesterday cause i feel my dreams being stolen from me.. She even expresses alot of negativity which i help her with with what i have applied and learnt over the past year. I am happy for her but also I am heartbroken. I see she posts things deliberate and the way she speaks to get at me.. Id never wish bad luck on her or anything — i want her to be happy i really do, but i have a feeling shes doing this to get to me? XXX HAVE A GREAT DAY AL!! She moves to the mountains. She moves to the mountains. The mountains will still be there long after she copies someone else and moves to Vegas. Usually Imitation is the Most Sincere Form of Flattery. You must be doing something right, girl! Also, I view her as a psychic vampire, an emotionally lost soul. Can you do a slow fade with this one?? So maybe question that friendship in your own mind — what are you getting out of this friendship that makes you want to stay in it? I understand you love her, but you can have love in your heart but not necessarily bring in the toxicity. My advice would be to slowly start detaching from this person and see how that might improve your own thoughts and self-esteem. Start surrounding yourself with people who support you. There is power in that first step — action gives you momentum that you simply cannot get by envisioning alone. What one thing can you do today to take a step closer to your vision? Keep asking this question every morning, and take one small step everyday. I hope this helps. Namaste, Saiisha thankyou both so much for the advice it means alot!! I just cant help but feel so bad that im feeling this way because weve been best friends since as long as we can remember however, she sometimes tries to make it a competition. Although shes having it handed to her on a plate and she gets alot of things paid for her despite the fact she has a couple of jobs.. Id feel terrible and dont want to come across as using others, plus the satisfaction would be alot more self fulfilling. But the amount of times i get alot of hassle when everyone says im copying and trying to be like them and it ruins me mentally when im targeted something i am working on. If you look back, way back into your life, who is it that stole your dreams? If i take a picture at my lake near my house she tries to do one step more i am happy with my lake, well apart from the litter and shows off her lake on her land that she never took pictures of before or mentioned. I said i want more animals but cant due to financial reasons but would love to build up a family again of many species i my household — she goes and gets a parrot, 2 dogs, kitten in a month. I appreciate everything I have dont get me wrong but sometimes you can see through people and there motives — it shouldnt be this way between us, or between anybody. Maybe its an issue we need to talk about together cause weve been a little jelous with eachother and its not healthy! And i dont want people to think on here that im jelous cause people do everything for her. Id rather work for my dream. Plus i feel guilty over everything and would feel a terrible person to use someone — if someone does something for me, i do something back in my own way. Reason: clearer for readers Oh, I had a neighbor that would literally copy everything we did. We took it as a compliment, actually!! If I wanted to join a club, do an activity or diet, I knew who to call for a buddy! One day DH and I said offhandedly that we wanted chickens. As to your posts, freespiritwonder, what I see is that you and your friend are both jealous of each other. I believe there is nothing wrong or shameful with how she feels or how you feel. There is probably a valid message in those feelings of your jealously, one that if you figured out what it is, you could feel nothing but empathy for yourself. For example: I wish I had the animals she is having. I wish I could afford them because I am loving and want to love animals…. You stated that your frienship with her used to be good but is changing and you want it to be like it used to be. When this is the dynamic, where do you go from there? If this dynamic was not there before and is there now, it is the main problem, I believe. As always, this is never what it appears on the surface. 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