1. You need a good or supportive social circle but first of all, you need to grow up quickly - grow up in faith, in confidence, in mentality, in knowledge, in courage etc...
2. Many don't know this but knowledge increases confidence - read good books..spending time on fb monitoring people's success leads to low esteem - if you must, reach out to successful friends and see if they know of any opportunities.. this helps expand your network and removes unnecessary envy
3. You must learn to make decisions - sadly, many Nigerian young adults cannot make decisions. Decisions should be based on faith and logic, not fear. For instance giving your Aunty 20k a month should have been used in paying rent and living on your own. How do you live with someone who can obviously poison you? (I know your parents taught you to respect ya elders but boo, you're an adult now, wisdom is necessary)
4. Truth is your Aunty owes you nothing, she owes you nothing, she owes you nothing - if you have this mentality, you will go a long way in life. So don't focus on her and her negative talks
5. Don't be intimidated into marrying that man - stand up to her and say NO. Or skillfully pretend to be considering him while you make plans to leave her house
6. And please don't think any man or suitor or prince is coming to save you. Jesus has already come and gone. He is the one that saves. If you put hopes on that you will be disappointed. You need more confidence and self-discovery before marriage. With all the sad things happening in marriages, I think your getting married in this state of no money/no confidence/no degree might do more harm than good.
7. e-hugs, e-hugs, e-hugs. Breathe in. breathe out. May God give us the courage to make good decisions.
