Who knew there was an issue? I sure as heck had no idea there was such a debate about who picks up the check. You see, I come from a place where men are men and women are women. Pin I suppose my mother raised me to be old-fashioned, so I always assumed it was the man's job to pay for the date -- the first, second and third date, at least. I would never even make the reach as an adult. I've never had a man get upset with me for that. In fact, I've always been asked out repeatedly by said men who would pay. Or maybe, they secretly hate me or think I'm a loser? Sure, when you become a committed couple, it makes sense to take turns. But when it comes to the first few dates before you and your honey become exclusive, what do you do about the check? Does it matter who asked whom out? Or, should the man always pay? And if so, should you even offer? I asked some single buds to get their take... Old-Fashioned yet slightly judgmental According to John Sinclair, a single man from the east coast with a great sense of humor, agrees with me -- the guy always pays. Although Sinclair is old-fashioned when it comes to picking up the bill, when it comes to the girl, he can't help but judge her if she doesn't offer. And if she doesn't say thank you at all, there will be no second date. If I ask him, then I pay,' she explains. Pates will usually offer on the third date, but in her gorgeousness, she seldom pays. But make no mistake -- she contributes in other ways. When it comes to going dutch, Cheung believes that might be an indication that the man in question might not be all that into the girl. Paying says a lot Although Cheung believes women should always offer, she also realizes that a man's generosity on the first few dates is indicative of the future. And vice versa, most women I know -- regardless of how successful and put-together they are -- still want to know that a man can provide for them, even if they are perfectly self-sufficient,' says Cheung. It's what we do. Although I expect my date to pay for the date and have, in the past, forgotten to make the reach, I do know how to take care of myself. Yes, the man should pay on the first couple of dates, but after that, you should take turns. Or at least, that's the overall consensus. But girls, make the reach and say thank you -- you should always be polite at all times. More dating on SheKnows.